broke up a month ago in that time when i have message or called him he will ignore it and then call a day or two later..last week he called and i was out with my friends i convinced him to come out and have a few drinks with us..as soon as he arrived just the way he was looking at me was exactly the same as when we were going out and i must admit i was pretty smug at the idea...so we're all getting pretty drunk and i'm all happy and having fun and dancing anyways we all went back to a friends house to continue and he's trying to follow me around the place and talk and he's trying to get some cuddles out of me and touch me and i kept saying to him hey were supposed to be friends can't have any of that really drilling into him the whole "friends" thing because after all that's what he wanted...towards the end of the night he kisses me and i'm like what are doing we're friends ok and anyways we end up going to sleep in the same bed and he's cuddling up to me and i kinda made the assumption that he was trying to sleep with me and he went off me saying that isn't why he came to see me for he wanted to see m coz it's been awhile...i wasnt really buying it so he got angry and is like you should know me better by now i'm not like that...in th emorning he wakes up and says im sorry i was drunk yeah just a bit tipsy and pats me on the head and leaves...i called him in the afternoon just to make sure he got work ok and we talked for a few minutes all he commented on was how drunk i was...anyways 2 days later i sent him a text msg asking if he wanted to come out again got no reply i then sent another one during the night saying i hate you now i miss you..that got no reply either....a week later asked him out again and no reply again......what is with the guy??

you texted him and told him you hated him?

i wouldn't call you either.

im going throught the EXACT same thing. you just need to realize when your being used.

Whats with the two of you?

If you guys have broken off the 'romantic stuff' stay away from each other for a while. Ex's don't do ex's.

Sounds to me girl you are a glutton for punishment and that he looks on you as an easy touch and can play with your emotions.
You tell him friends we are just friends and then you end up in the same bed??? come on girl give your head a SHAKE hes a guy thinking with his willie and you have led him on and are also playing with his emotions.
Anyone who treats you with such contempt is not worth knowing.Dont be a door mat all your life wake up and see the truth girl!! Anna x

your sending the guy mixed messages...if you invite a guy to go out and party that you used to date?, he doesn't know how to take that. So when you said "what are you doing, we're supposed to be friends you hurt his ego and confused him. Guys aren't like us, they can't just be friends with an ex.....with men i have learned and been toled by them...they are clueless and you have to spell it out for them, and not confuse them with actions that don't match with what you say.

if you and he want to be friends after the break up, you need to set boundarys... and they need to be adhered to by both of you... i have been thru it myself, and the guy just couldnt see past the fact that we werent together anymore, nor would we ever be. and it was stupid, coz he woz the instigator in the demise of our relationship. there are always reasons for your ex being your ex, so just remember those reasons, and a friendship can b fesable... sometimes people are meant to be in each others lives for ever, and sometimes just a fleeting moment. what you need to find out, before your heart gets chewed up, spat out and then stomped on, is where this guy is suposed to fit in in the bigger picture

Pffffft! Ask & you shall receive...stop calling him.

If you have to ask, you are far too immature for any relationship. But, since you did. You keep calling him and asking him out. You get drunk and sleep with him, even if you don't have sex. You tell him you hate him and keep calling/texting him and asking him out. You are leading him on, you are a player, and you are playing games with his emotions. He has finally wised up and has opted out of the game. Simple enough. Time to move along to your next victim.

How is he using her, if she's the one initiating contact, communication and outings?

Bipolar much? Later...*zooooooooom*

I dont know what you expected to recieve from the mingle community but it sure wont be sympathy from me, your average person dont like there emotions to be played with they expect honesty openess commitment and consideration of which neither of you seem to bring these qualities to your relationship...... ALTHOUGH you both seem suited as your both players. Anna x

Sounds like you both need to move on. Wow, I thought I had a messed up track record with men.

ex sex.....oh so comfortable yet so not right. Op you need to figure out what the hell you want.

I guess you both pretty much ruined any chance of a friendship together. Well, at least you got it out of your system. Today's a new day, and time to move on. May want to delete his number out of your phone.

Oh my.

You are calling and texting him an awful lot.

If it's over, it's OVER. Let it go.

Wow

Stay away from one another!!

The toxic level is making me dizzy!!

I just couldnt read that

here is a handful of periods. just scatter em anywhere in there

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Same here. Hard on the eyes and brain.

If he is your ex there is a reason why he's an ex. Move on and don't look back.