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Topic: Would you marry someone who has been married 3 times before?
rivergirl301's photo
Wed 05/30/07 06:21 AM
I certainly wouldn't! I've been married twice (1st=brief starter
marriage in my 20s, no kids, no property; 2nd=19 years and two kids). I
mean, wouldn't you think, this person just cannot get the hang of
marriage. I don't plan on getting married again. Who could keep a
straight face at the wedding???noway noway noway

RainbowTrout's photo
Wed 05/30/07 06:27 AM
We have many here who afflicted with the marriage disease. Maybe science
will find some cure for it someday.laugh

SapponyWarrior's photo
Wed 05/30/07 06:32 AM
That's a tough question. I've been married twice and would have a
helluva time doing it again.

no photo
Wed 05/30/07 06:42 AM
with me it would make me wonder..maybe just being married once, but
twice..hmmmmmmnoway laugh

oldsage's photo
Wed 05/30/07 06:50 AM
At my age would be hard to find someone, who had not been married. Also
having been there twice, 1 divorce & 1 death, lots of things to consider
before a third. Modern life changes so fast,wonder if this isn't a
factor in the divorce rate. Think it is close to 50/50. But with older
age, existing families, property, all come to bear more, to me. Also, I
have a tat of Gwen on my chest, hard for some women to look at, in the
long term. Ohh Well.

sandylou2456's photo
Wed 05/30/07 07:01 AM


Yes I would. I have been married twice..25 years with one and 23 with
the second. Lost them both from death.

I hope to meet another man and make them happy for 20 + years!

Puffins1958's photo
Wed 05/30/07 07:02 AM
It is hard for me to say. I am in the process of getting a divorce now.
As of right now, I would say NO. I am just not lucky when it comes to
men. I think I have always settled, for fear of being alone. I know I
won't make that same mistake again. But, here I sit, alone all over
again.

brokenheart74's photo
Wed 05/30/07 09:09 AM
I would not have a problem with it. It does not mean that they are not
capable of being in a good marriage, could just mean they have not had
the best of circumstances or made mistakes. We are human-it happens.

jp4023's photo
Wed 05/30/07 09:19 AM
I've never been married before, but i'm sure there is nothing wrong
marrying someone thats been married more then one

GreenEyedHippieChick's photo
Wed 05/30/07 09:20 AM
hmmmmm... there we go quick to judge the book by its cover....
i have been married 2 times.. and vowed not to do it again.. but thats
me.

if i truely fell in love with someone.. i dont think their past
experiences should effect my present relationship with this person...
everyone has reasons why they got divorced.. and to be quite frank.. it
really none of anybody's damn business why except theirs and the
ex-spouse. Who are you to judge them because that relationship wasn't
"the-one".. at the time they obviously thought it was the one or they
wouldn't have taken that HUGE risk.
and if you are a divorcee yourself..and base all your present
relationships on what you had in the past.. I'm sorry for you about
that.. that could be why you are still alone
"YOU" is no person in particular.. just hypothetical

if you love the person enough.. the just do it... who knows.... they
just might very well be "the one"

pl9864's photo
Wed 05/30/07 09:21 AM
i'd marry hippieblushing

GreenEyedHippieChick's photo
Wed 05/30/07 09:28 AM
blushing

no photo
Wed 05/30/07 09:41 AM
MY blow up dolls been married once but has lived with others twice if
that counts!!!!laugh

LAMom's photo
Wed 05/30/07 09:43 AM
I would, Marriage is a bond of two souls,, Its what is in the inside
that counts the most,,, Integrity, Honesty, communication,, not how many
times they were married,,, Marriage is a give and take, Shi*t happens as
does life,, we live and learn from the mistakes and misfortunes,,, One
may never know unless they look past the cover, as to what the contents
really holds. :heart: flowerforyou

no photo
Wed 05/30/07 09:46 AM
Well there are two kinds of divorcees, the ones that caused the divorce
and the ones that were the beneficiary of it. Determining which side
your paramour falls on is up to you and your intuition. Some have better
intuition than others, another explanation for the divorce rate.

I think that there are some nice and even wonderful people who are
divorced. And I can guarantee there are many who have never been married
who are just about to marry and divorce many times and they are the
reason for all their future divorces. So whatever, polish up your
prejudices and stick by your guns. Good luck with that.

As for me, my preferences are finding someone nice, sexy, considerate
and smart. If you can be those I'm not too concerned with your divorce
record.

I'm probably not getting married again. I'm not so sure a woman can fall
in love with me to that extent as I tend to be busy a lot and I'm not
really a party guy.

no photo
Wed 05/30/07 09:50 AM
I'm thinking of adding "looking for an intimate encounter" to my
profile, just to discourage virgins, prudes and women who have never
been married.

Does that make me a high risk kind of guy? Just diffidence.

I can't imagine going to a wedding, anywhere, for anybody and laughing
about the past marriages of the people getting married. So I wouldn't
have a hard time keeping a straight face.

rivergirl301's photo
Wed 05/30/07 10:02 AM
I don't have prejudice. I didn't say I wouldn't talk to the person, date
them, or even sleep with them. I just would not marry them. There is
certainly a difference whether you were happy in your marriage and your
spouse died, or if you don't do well in the institution of marriage and
just don't recognize that about yourself.

rivergirl301's photo
Wed 05/30/07 10:13 AM
Well, I busted a gut when my ex got married. I thought, does he *want*
to give all of his pension away? He got married 3 months after the
divorce, and he had not know his now-wife before we separated. I could
not ask for a better stepmother for my children and I hope she and my ex
are happy for a long time. It's just that the odds are not with them.


"I can't imagine going to a wedding, anywhere, for anybody and laughing
about the past marriages of the people getting married. So I wouldn't
have a hard time keeping a straight face."

Abstrakt's photo
Wed 05/30/07 10:17 AM
The apst doesn't mater I'm not going to judge someone based on their
failed relationships in the past. I wouldn't want to be judged for mine

rivergirl301's photo
Wed 05/30/07 10:28 AM
I'm really surpised. I dated a guy who told me he had been married
twice. Later I learned that he had been married 3 times. That was the
beginning of the end! One, he lied to me. Two, he obviously felt that
fact was something he needed to conceal from me. I just don't get this
game of musical chairs a lot of people play with spouses. It's serial
monogomy. That's fine, but how can you get up for the third or fourth
time in front of God and witnesses and say you promise to love someone
and be with them *forever*, and then just chuck them when "things
happen?"

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