Topic: The Six Week Rule...
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Wed 09/30/09 10:52 AM


I don't see it being a bad idea.

If they really like you, they'll be willing to wait.

But, as has been said, things can change.

Also...what about time spent talking on the phone, or online?? Does that time count in the ' getting to know ' part??



Good question... Obviously most of us have been involved in one way or another with someone from the Internet... If it's an LDR type thing, of course there's gonna be a lot of talking & emailing before the first "meeting"... But if the relationship is "local" & you have the luxury of seeing each other often...what's the harm in waiting a lil bit before all the hormones get involved?


no harm, worth the wait.drinker bigsmile

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Wed 09/30/09 10:53 AM
I have noway never been involved with someone off of the internet!

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Wed 09/30/09 10:54 AM
well ive learned from my past dating experiences.its just better to wait.sex always complicates things.i want to fall in love with the person not fall in love with how big their dingy dong is.laugh

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Wed 09/30/09 10:54 AM

I think setting an absolute time line should be respected. Although one should remember there are exceptions to every rule and this is the 21st century. When two people are moving along fabulously the two shouldn't be held back by something as smug as an individuals bylaws about love. Love should be free to happen and enjoy between to loving souls. frustrated



SMUG??? Harumph & Grrrrrrr! grumble

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Wed 09/30/09 11:09 AM
Edited by Teddybear46 on Wed 09/30/09 11:13 AM


I don't see it being a bad idea.

If they really like you, they'll be willing to wait.

But, as has been said, things can change.

Also...what about time spent talking on the phone, or online?? Does that time count in the ' getting to know ' part??



Good question... Obviously most of us have been involved in one way or another with someone from the Internet... If it's an LDR type thing, of course there's gonna be a lot of talking & emailing before the first "meeting"... But if the relationship is "local" & you have the luxury of seeing each other often...what's the harm in waiting a lil bit before all the hormones get involved?



There is NO HARM in waiting... But what about time wasted not making love and sharing yourself in the most beautiful way possible between two lovers, if indeed that is what they are. And I'm sorry, but it doesn't take me six weeks to know that...

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Wed 09/30/09 11:10 AM
Wow, I don't even know you and I don't want to wait laugh

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Wed 09/30/09 11:13 AM
I think its not realistic to set a specific time frame, but I respect giving oneself a minimum amount of time to get emotionally intimate before following it up with physical intimacy.

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Wed 09/30/09 11:18 AM
I think the guideline is set simply so that the person setting it can have time to figure out whether they want to be intimate. Then they either break the guideline when they decide they want to or they break up before the deadline.

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Wed 09/30/09 11:22 AM
Eh, I am just sticking to my "I don't have sex" rule and all is fine laugh

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Wed 09/30/09 11:24 AM

well ive learned from my past dating experiences.its just better to wait.sex always complicates things.i want to fall in love with the person not fall in love with how big their dingy dong is.laugh



You're preachin' to the choir, sistah! laugh

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Wed 09/30/09 11:34 AM

So, what do ya'll think about a person who wants to wait for 6wks before they become physically intimate with their partner? Is it prudent...or prudish?

Disclaimer: I already KNOW this topic has been done before...:tongue:
flowerforyou whatever works for the personflowerforyou

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Wed 09/30/09 11:46 AM
If someone wants to wait and the other person in the relationship is willing to wait, I don't see a problem with it.

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Wed 09/30/09 11:47 AM



I don't see it being a bad idea.

If they really like you, they'll be willing to wait.

But, as has been said, things can change.

Also...what about time spent talking on the phone, or online?? Does that time count in the ' getting to know ' part??



Good question... Obviously most of us have been involved in one way or another with someone from the Internet... If it's an LDR type thing, of course there's gonna be a lot of talking & emailing before the first "meeting"... But if the relationship is "local" & you have the luxury of seeing each other often...what's the harm in waiting a lil bit before all the hormones get involved?



There is NO HARM in waiting... But what about time wasted not making love and sharing yourself in the most beautiful way possible between two lovers, if indeed that is what they are. And I'm sorry, but it doesn't take me six weeks to know that...


Why is it time wasted when not having sex? Surely you can come up with other things to do with that person that doesn't involve being naked.

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Wed 09/30/09 12:09 PM

Why is it time wasted when not having sex? Surely you can come up with other things to do with that person that doesn't involve being naked.



It's not the time WASTED not having sex... I'm merely saying I don't need six weeks to get to that point. I don't need six weeks getting to know this person to be able to know that I want to take it to a very personal level. Whats being wasted are the tender moments that only come from the intamacy two people share once the relationship has been taken to that level.

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Wed 09/30/09 01:48 PM
Did you say six weeks? or did you say six drinks? hmmmm

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Wed 09/30/09 01:55 PM
sex is great..everybody loves it I think...

but I would not want to feel pressured into it.

You can build a lasting bond, out of the bed...the sex is a bonus.

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Wed 09/30/09 02:15 PM
6 weeks that's the average length of my relations, good thing i didn't follow that rule or i would still be a virgin. sad tears rofl

Seriously when it feels right for both then it is the time may it be 6 minutes or 6 months. If you love them the wait is not that bad.

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Wed 09/30/09 02:32 PM
Make it a year... no 6 weeks for me.... what's in a hurry?laugh laugh

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Wed 09/30/09 02:53 PM

Did you say six weeks? or did you say six drinks? hmmmm



rofl

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Wed 09/30/09 02:55 PM
SEX...before marriage..OMG