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| Topic: Put your shirt on! Is it just me or | |
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When I see Lead Shots or profile pictures that show a guy shirtless my first reaction is "Why". I personally find the human body miraculous, perfect or imperfect as it might be, so it is not the visual image that bugs me. Some situations it is normal and acceptable; swimming, on the beach, shirts and skins basketball. If a person is a avid swimmer I would expect one shot of the person doing that. But I still keep in mind that a profile picture is a choice. How a person sees themself. What they bring to the table so to speak. If their perfect or youthful body is high on that list it won't be a big attraction to me. You can look at the body about five minutes a day and if the personality isn't behind it to back it up it gets old fast. Also a guy with a really great body may or may not have a natural sexuality about himself that no matter how techniclly perfect he is it just isn't appealing. The real stickler for me is that I do see topless nudity in men leans toward coming off as desperate or even aggressive. It is like if you don't like that I am semi-nude you have no say that I share my body any way with anyone I please. Includeing me. It is like nothing is reserved for personal intimacy. That seems kind of short sighted. It might be an out of vogue concept but there are a few things that I would hope are reserved just for intimacy; maybe even intimacy with me. I disagree that men, or women, are not displaying sexual organs by bareing their chest. While I can not claim a huge number of men; the men I have had intimately definitely had a decided sexual response when their chest, inparticularly, their nipples were displayed, touched, and otherwise engaged. Be realistic the purpose of a profile shot is to engage the reader on many levels. And I have to say seeing a man displaying himself semi-nude comes off as over the top, distracting, and rude in the profile setting even though I know for some it is not the intended result. That some men would be sexually distracting in a feed bag from the neck down is no more their fault than the guy who definitely not but somehow I feel like a little less making themself eyecandy, is more confident and in better taste. Some men would not be highly sexy no matter what they wore. To display that fact is a not so subtle form of "I haven't got it but you have to look because I can make you and if this is the only time and the only way well too bad for you." I do wish the site would require some form of top for men for the lead shot because to participate in forums you are not able to opt out and not look like you are if you see it on there personal profile but if I find someone that offensive I just block them. To me it would just be a polite occomodation to the larger range of tastes. I do find it offensive that men useing photos that show their upper body nude are attacked as "perverts" when no such fact has been proved is a poor conclusion. A conclusion that the real perverts use to their advantage. And a conclusion that trys to justify that ones own mores are the only moral ones. Pretty high handed IMHO. Could not have said it better myself. Just want to be clear that I was not attacking anyone or calling anyone perverted BUT it still creeps me out. |
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Well spoken Pacific.... Though the requirement on tops for guys won't fly.... with a shirt...without....someone will gripe....  Now that is just FUNNY! I have to say I enjoyed that one! At least it shows you have a sense of humor. |
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Is it just me or does it creep anyone else out when men have profile pics of themselves at the computer with no shirt on. Maybe its just the men in my age group. I don't think of myself as a prude or uptight but it gives me the creeps. I guess to me it looks like some dirty old man breathing hot and heavy, whacking off looking at women online. First impressions go a long way. Put a shirt on! Just curious what others have to say. So lets hear it. I think it says alot about whom they are trying to attract. A Woman or man who choses to spotlight the flesh is probably going to attract those mainly interested in the flesh,,and that might be just fine. Others, who want someone to be interested more in their character than their flesh, will probably choose more modest photos. |
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Is it just me or does it creep anyone else out when men have profile pics of themselves at the computer with no shirt on. Maybe its just the men in my age group. I don't think of myself as a prude or uptight but it gives me the creeps. I guess to me it looks like some dirty old man breathing hot and heavy, whacking off looking at women online. First impressions go a long way. Put a shirt on! Just curious what others have to say. So lets hear it. I haven't really studied the male version of this phenomenon, but I've noticed that when the girls do it (the raunchy cleavage shots, etc.), you can pretty much assume the rest of the profile will be either empty or bland enough to induce a narcoleptic coma. If ya got nothin' to say, distract them with what passes for pulchritude, maybe. Lexy, maybe you shouldn't pummel them with those big words, like "narcoleptic", nor especially "pulchitrude", unless you post this... www.dictionary.com Some people think they are so smart that no one else could possibly be as smart. In reality not always the case. My father has narcolepsy and I would guess that 90% of the people here know the definition. As far as pulchritude, which you misspelled by the way, by the way it was used with the reference to cleavage shots it did not refer to me. But sense you mentioned it when was the last time you have used or read it in a sentence??????????? |
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Well spoken Pacific.... Though the requirement on tops for guys won't fly.... with a shirt...without....someone will gripe.... Now that is just FUNNY! I have to say I enjoyed that one! At least it shows you have a sense of humor. No time to suck up NOW, stircrazy! Buwahahahahahaha! Thanks Krupa for calling me & giving me the heads up... Now SEE, Ladies? THIS is what I'm talking about! Can't wait to see you this weekend, Babe! But can you wear the "DANGER! Giant penis" shirt instead? 
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My father has narcolepsy and I would guess that 90% of the people here know the definition. As far as pulchritude, which you misspelled by the way, by the way it was used with the reference to cleavage shots it did not refer to me. But sense you mentioned it when was the last time you have used or read it in a sentence??????????? You misspelled "since"...pfffffffffft! 
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Edited by
Boobella
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Fri 09/25/09 11:26 AM
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*adjusts glasses so she can see Krupa's gams!!*  I agree he does have a nice set gams wowowow!!! and love the tee shirt great pose  .... Also make me laugh if you don't like shirtless pictures ..just move on that's all ...JMO |
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Is it just me or does it creep anyone else out when men have profile pics of themselves at the computer with no shirt on. Maybe its just the men in my age group. I don't think of myself as a prude or uptight but it gives me the creeps. I guess to me it looks like some dirty old man breathing hot and heavy, whacking off looking at women online. First impressions go a long way. Put a shirt on! Just curious what others have to say. So lets hear it. I haven't really studied the male version of this phenomenon, but I've noticed that when the girls do it (the raunchy cleavage shots, etc.), you can pretty much assume the rest of the profile will be either empty or bland enough to induce a narcoleptic coma. If ya got nothin' to say, distract them with what passes for pulchritude, maybe. Lexy, maybe you shouldn't pummel them with those big words, like "narcoleptic", nor especially "pulchitrude", unless you post this... www.dictionary.com Some people think they are so smart that no one else could possibly be as smart. In reality not always the case. My father has narcolepsy and I would guess that 90% of the people here know the definition. As far as pulchritude, which you misspelled by the way, by the way it was used with the reference to cleavage shots it did not refer to me. But sense you mentioned it when was the last time you have used or read it in a sentence??????????? I highlighted the quote from trublu4u because he was talking to Lex about how Lex should also include a link to dictionary.com so those people who don't know the meaning of the words.....possibly like the one he misspelled....could be looked up right away. By the way.... pul·chri·tude (plkr-td, -tyd) n. Great physical beauty and appeal. [Middle English pulcritude, from Latin pulchritd, from pulcher, pulchr-, beautiful.]89 This was not used in reference to the cleavage shots only but as a separate sentence, If ya got nothin' to say, distract them with what passes for pulchritude, maybe. It is also the answer to your original statement, in some cases where the profile has no other information on it. To answer your last question.....Lex uses big words like that all the time, writers tend to do that. |
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OMG did I hear you say shy and modest shshsh Krupa I can only image the way you really are in person I bet your a trip to be around........ What are you laughing at?!?!?! I AM shy.....when I ain't getting a drunken full body shavin or making a fool of myself....... You think I am bad? You ought to meet my dad....I got my personality from him. Ohhhhhhhhhhh I could just image our kids do seem to carry our personality's shshs just have not figured out where I got mine lmao........... |
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Krupa's Dad is awesome! I'm his biggest groupie!
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Krupa is very Krupalish.....
I'll look that up in the dictionary: Krup-a-lish: yummy Texan with hot legs- from the old English:Kruppielisciousness
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Edited by
Boobella
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Fri 09/25/09 11:45 AM
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 Krupa's Dad is awesome! I'm his biggest groupie! Give us a group shot of both Krups and his Dad in tee shirts let's see if those legs run in the family  
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My father has narcolepsy and I would guess that 90% of the people here know the definition. As far as pulchritude, which you misspelled by the way, by the way it was used with the reference to cleavage shots it did not refer to me. But sense you mentioned it when was the last time you have used or read it in a sentence??????????? You misspelled "since"...pfffffffffft! Don't you love it when someone tries to burn you and they can't even spell???
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Edited by
mscherbear
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Fri 09/25/09 12:19 PM
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You misspelled "since"...pfffffffffft! Don't you love it when someone tries to burn you and they can't even spell??? I was gonna say that too  Oh, and I don't mind the shirtless pics at all! It's kinda like tasting the wine before you buy a bottle... |
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Edited by
Boobella
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Fri 09/25/09 12:21 PM
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Krupa is very Krupalish..... I'll look that up in the dictionary: Krup-a-lish: yummy Texan with hot legs- from the old English:Kruppielisciousness Holly Did you notice how clean his kitchen is too !!! Great legs and clean kitchen that's is special !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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Krupa is very Krupalish..... I'll look that up in the dictionary: Krup-a-lish: yummy Texan with hot legs- from the old English:Kruppielisciousness Holly Did you notice how clean his kitchen is too !!! Great leg and clean kitchen that's is special !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He's in the kitchen????? I didn't notice!! 
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Krupa is very Krupalish..... I'll look that up in the dictionary: Krup-a-lish: yummy Texan with hot legs- from the old English:Kruppielisciousness Holly Did you notice how clean his kitchen is too !!! Great leg and clean kitchen that's is special !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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My father has narcolepsy and I would guess that 90% of the people here know the definition. As far as pulchritude, which you misspelled by the way, by the way it was used with the reference to cleavage shots it did not refer to me. But sense you mentioned it when was the last time you have used or read it in a sentence??????????? You misspelled "since"...pfffffffffft! Don't you love it when someone tries to burn you and they can't even spell??? Never claimed to be a good speller. Not trying to "BURN" anyone.  Just saying that not everyone needs a dictionary for the definitions, maybe for how to spell but hell spell check catches most and the others I just don't care enough.
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Krupa is very Krupalish..... I'll look that up in the dictionary: Krup-a-lish: yummy Texan with hot legs- from the old English:Kruppielisciousness Holly Did you notice how clean his kitchen is too !!! Great leg and clean kitchen that's is special !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ooh, girl! You better believe it! If Krupa cooks for you...you KNOW that you've been fed!
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I highlighted the quote from trublu4u because he was talking to Lex about how Lex should also include a link to dictionary.com so those people who don't know the meaning of the words.....possibly like the one he misspelled....could be looked up right away. By the way.... pul·chri·tude (plkr-td, -tyd) n. Great physical beauty and appeal. [Middle English pulcritude, from Latin pulchritd, from pulcher, pulchr-, beautiful.]89 This was not used in reference to the cleavage shots only but as a separate sentence, If ya got nothin' to say, distract them with what passes for pulchritude, maybe. It is also the answer to your original statement, in some cases where the profile has no other information on it. Thanks, that was exactly what I was going for, but maybe I should have been a little more clear about it. The thinking is that, when there is a serious lack of substance (and I know this is a bit vague and subjective), some people will fall back on something a little more basic (pulchritude!), a little more knee-jerk-reaction "sex sells" sort of thing. It doesn't really appeal to me because I've been through enough situations involving outwardly-attractive airhead fluffballs to know that it really doesn't do anything for me after the first 4 seconds or so. To answer your last question.....Lex uses big words like that all the time, writers tend to do that. Well, you know how it is -- once you get a reputation....! 
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