Hi,

I need help from mostly all the lovely ladies but also welcome gentleman's input on this.

There is this girl I really like and I am willing to do just about anything to win her. But what she did recently has pushed me over the limit and I'm not sure what to think of it anymore.

All right, so here is the story.

One night, she was going out for a friend's birthday party and told me I should meet her there. Something came up that night and I wasn't able to meet her. However, that same night, I did text her and told her that I might not make it.

Few days after, I asked her out.
She joked and said only if you can find my house. She gave me an intersection the major streets she lives around and told me to look for her car, it will be parked right outside of her house. I thought she was joking and told her that was a crazy idea and told her I would do no such thing. She finally agreed and said she needs some time to change and get ready. She gets off work at 10:00PM so I told her I will pick her up at 11:00PM. At 11:00, i call her, she is still not ready and ask me for more time. I said fine and give her another hour. At midnight, I call her again and she tells me she is not ready yet and that she is tired from work. I was frustrated and told her that we should do try this some other days. She agrees and said we should it on a day that she is not working. She told me that she is always tired after work.

A week later I asked her out again on a work day... I know she told me not to but I still did.
Again, she said yes. And I told her I will pick her up at 11:00 since she gets off work at 10:00. She agrees. Then I told her I will take her challenge on finding her car. She ask me if I was sure. I said "Yeah, I don't want to give you any reason to cancel on me tonight."
11:00PM, I'm around her block looking for her car. She tells me that she is not home, she had to help her friend out with something but that her car is home. I told her "Fine, I will continue looking for your car but let me know when you are done." Half and hour later, she contacts me and tells me that she is tired and wants to go to sleep. I was furious. Even after all this?? We are scheduled to go out for a dinner in two days. So that night I brought that into the conversation and asked her "If she is going to cancel on me for the dinner too?? I was furious.

That is the last time we talked.

My questions:
1) Should I apologize for what happened that night? Or did i have the right to be furious.
2) Should I even ask her for the dinner that we are schedule to go to in two days?


We have never actually went on a date. What bothers me is when I ask her out she never says no or makes up excuses. She always tells me yes and seems interested in going out. But when the time comes to go out she cancels on me. =(

I'm not sure if she is playing some kind of a game. Is she playing hard to get??

Terry

is she 18? sounds like she's feeding it to you - bullcrap that is

Sounds like a game to me. You should probably move on and find someone else

let her go.....

Terry, you might not like all the brutal honesty you're going to get from all of us, but you did ask, so here goes.....YOU ARE BEING TOYED WITH -- BIG TIME!!!! Don't mean to yell, but I wanted you to hear me loud and clear. Why are you allowing yourself to be demeaned like this? You are the puppet and she, the puppetmaster. We teach ppl how to treat us. You are showing her that disrespecting you is acceptable. I don't understand what there is to like about a person who treats you like you're a doormat, unless you see yourself that way. Run, run, run!!!!

seems she's playing you because she knows you are really interested. Ease up and play a little hard to get, if she is interested in dating you she'll let you know. in other words back off....and let it go....good luck

I just read up on few "playing hard to get" articles and noticed that girls go a long way and get carried away with this concept.

I really do like her. And I know for a fact that she is a very busy person.

Derek, We are both around 23 years old.

your making excuses, back off she's playing you for a fool..

I agree with everyone else. She's just not that in to you. And rather than tell you 'no' she runs you around. Even if she did find time for you, she isn't someone that you could count on.

I say to wash your hands of her. And if she does contact you (I seriously doubt she will), and if you just can't help yourself, then you call the shots.... she comes to YOUR place to pick you up. If she doesn't show up on time (reasonably on time) then don't wait up for her.

This isn't 'playing hard to get'. She's playing you.

Terry, if you really like her back away. Show her you're not in for playing games and if/when she's ready, she will come to you.

Call her, tell her you really like her, but your time is valuable too. If she doesn't have time for you, cool but when she does to let you know.

Then really do it. Don't call/text/play. Maybe she just needs to see you are a strong man of your word.

Welcome to Mingle and may the force be with you.

C

I don't get what it is that you like about her so much. All you have shared with us is that you really like her, but what is it that's attracting you? How well she treats you?

Hummmm okay I can understand the first time she did it for it was to get back at you for standing her up.... But come on the directions to her house is bull ask for a address if they can not have enough balls to give you that then tell her see ya.

She was going to give me address to her house the second time I asked her out but instead I chose to play her game. That night, I did find her house though.

What I like about her?

She is a very quiet, shy and dedicated girl. She is very goal orientated and I like that. She has shown interest in me in the past but I realized it way too late.

She has went out of her way too help me out with my school project.

I know for a fact that there is this one other guy that likes her and she pretty much makes up excuses when he asks her out. But when I ask her out she always says yes. If she gives me a direct "NO" answer, I can move on with ease.

I re-read your post and one thing jumped out at me -- that you "are willing to do just about anything" to get her. Does that include being treated like ****?

Unless you really enjoy a lot of frustration and game playing, run forest run.

(Biglife) hahah no, of course not. I really do need a reality check. Thanks.

What she said.

And don't hold your breath waiting for her call.

WTF is this I wont give you my adress BS?


Thats a go **** yourself thing.


O for the love of God im tempted to tell you to set up a night, and promise a gift, and the world, and stand her goofy *** up.


But that wouldnt be right either.


You know, there are plenty of cute women who would like a good time with you.


Id let her eat my dust. you sound sweet. Ill pray for ya to find a nice girl who appreciates your attentiveness.

Good luck.