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TerryZ36
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Wed 09/23/09 02:26 AM
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The dinner is tonight. I have not called her and I'm also not expecting a call from her.
But I feel depressed. I feel rejection... =( I really liked her. Thanks for the warm welcome everyone and setting me straight. Any tips on how to cope with these feelings I'm feeling right now? |
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The dinner is tonight. I have not called her and I'm also not expecting a call from her. But I feel depressed. I feel rejection...=( I really liked her. Thanks for the warm welcome everyone and setting me straight. Any tips on how to cope with these feeling I'm feeling right now? Rejection hurts, but it'll pass. Just forget about her, watch movies, eat your favorite foods, go hangout with your friends, go for a walk, read a book if you're into reading. But forget about her. She's not into you, and she's taking a perverse pleasure in seeing just how far she can get with stringing you along. She can only keep doing it if you keep putting up with it. The hurt will fade, good luck. 
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If you have not moved on your should she is playing with ya..........sad.........
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Rent a movie you've not seen, and turn off your phone. If you can't do that, invite a friend over or better yet, ask a friend to pick you up and hang out with them.
You teach people how to treat you. There will be those who do not treat you well, and you must walk away. |
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hey man, i dated someone just as you describe, i just went along...didn't get bent out of shape in any circumstance...eventually she fell head over heals for me...so that sort of scared me and i took off..
advice - if you want to get in her pants, just go along with it..you have to have patience though and not be flustered ..or just ditch the btch roko |
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Hey Terry,
Noone deserves the runaround like that. Someone that is mature enough to get involved should be mature enough to be honest about what they want and how they feel. If she cant or wont communicate in words OR actions that she has respect for you and your time,,u should move on... be a good friend and if she grows up a bit , maybe she will let you know,,,but dont settle for that treatment,,,PLEASE |
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The dinner is tonight. I have not called her and I'm also not expecting a call from her. But I feel depressed. I feel rejection... =( I really liked her. Thanks for the warm welcome everyone and setting me straight. Any tips on how to cope with these feelings I'm feeling right now? which feelings? confusion? dissapointment? As one having felt these same things very recently,,I say, chalk it up as a lesson learned and a chance for you to truly start the path to being able to be happy and maybe find love. It may take a few days or even weeks,, but this too shall pass Trust me on this... |
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M'dear, just because you really like her a lot does not make it so. I like llamas but if I tried to get close to one it would probably spit in my face and poop on me. Sound familiar?
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You're being played, I read your story, and this woman is evil to the core, sorry. You're better than that, bring your line in and cast your line out deep into the ocean, no reason to bring in this Carp, much tastier fish out there.
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You're being played, I read your story, and this woman is evil to the core, sorry. You're better than that, bring your line in and cast your line out deep into the ocean, no reason to bring in this Carp, much tastier fish out there. No kidding! Throw back the fish stick and wait for the Halibut to come along! |
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Thank alot for the hopeful words.It is very helpful at a moment like this.
She did text me the next day after dinner. And said "Sorry, I missed the dinner. I've been busy. How was it?" I have not replyed to her yet. I still have feeling for her and find it difficult to move on. But I'm trying to avoid making physical or verbal contact. Roco, You're saying that if I really want her, that I should continue with her game?? I do have the patience but I don't want to chase something that I will never get. =( |
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hmm for a minute I was under impression you were both actually within a relationship .Alright I read someone else saying she was 18 read your story interesting .
I think everyone really likes the thrill the excitement of the chase or feeling wanted however at such a young age could be she is playing a game to see how you work . As for being furious or appologising well I'm not all that sure now . If someone shows emotion of displayed anger it's really kind of put of isn't it although I'm not saying that your wrong in doing so maybe couldve chanelled it alternativly . Young people as many older like myself lead very full life at times I've been known to cancel bit only through real dire emergencys .Having you go out few times and taking upon yourself demonstrates your own mind which is good you think for self maybe let heart lead your way,I think she mustve been special for you to do all that you stated likes hat off to you . Think you've just had your first taste of a player though . That's three times now remember your valuable lesson LOL . You may have heaps of fun with the free and young bit older are more certain of whom they are and where they would like to be . Once the minds made up that's it they stick to it regretably or not . It's unfortunate my friend though I'm in agreement with few here Move on let the thought of her disipate along with your sad memory of her . You appear to have been played forget of her someone else will come along that deserves you . In future however even when mad channel differently knowone likes to see or feel threatend . I do really understand as to why you fealt like that though and if your feeling guilt n if it helps you move on From this choice is yours to send her an appologie . It's 2009 bud even SMS or mail her just |
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well if any help go out meet few friends sit with tub ice creams in front of you tv untill day ends . Wake up enjoy your day don't pass her a moments thought as there's someone out there more deserving of you .
My last post didn't all get time to fit in so best wishes bud . |
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I don't understand why you asked her out on a work day AGAIN. She had told you not to do that because she is tired after work.
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Kay, I noticed you mention that I should apologize to her? But for what?
Winx, I know it was my fault for asking her out on a work day again but we were having such a good time talking that I forgot about it. And beside she did say Yes. She could have told me NO from the beginning and used "I'm tired after work" but she didn't. She even seemed excited when I asked her out... =( |
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Kay, I noticed you mention that I should apologize to her? But for what? Winx, I know it was my fault for asking her out on a work day again but we were having such a good time talking that I forgot about it. And beside she did say Yes. She could have told me NO from the beginning and used "I'm tired after work" but she didn't. She even seemed excited when I asked her out... =( Something else Terry, its possible that she doesnt know what she wants. She may have been eager initially and then because of some outside factor (insecurity, disapproval of others,,etc,,), changed her mind. If that is the case, she is not mature enough to deal with a real relationship and I suggest remaining friends and looking elsewhere for anything more. |
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Hi, I need help from mostly all the lovely ladies but also welcome gentleman's input on this. There is this girl I really like and I am willing to do just about anything to win her. But what she did recently has pushed me over the limit and I'm not sure what to think of it anymore. All right, so here is the story. One night, she was going out for a friend's birthday party and told me I should meet her there. Something came up that night and I wasn't able to meet her. However, that same night, I did text her and told her that I might not make it. Few days after, I asked her out. She joked and said only if you can find my house. She gave me an intersection the major streets she lives around and told me to look for her car, it will be parked right outside of her house. I thought she was joking and told her that was a crazy idea and told her I would do no such thing. She finally agreed and said she needs some time to change and get ready. She gets off work at 10:00PM so I told her I will pick her up at 11:00PM. At 11:00, i call her, she is still not ready and ask me for more time. I said fine and give her another hour. At midnight, I call her again and she tells me she is not ready yet and that she is tired from work. I was frustrated and told her that we should do try this some other days. She agrees and said we should it on a day that she is not working. She told me that she is always tired after work. A week later I asked her out again on a work day... I know she told me not to but I still did. Again, she said yes. And I told her I will pick her up at 11:00 since she gets off work at 10:00. She agrees. Then I told her I will take her challenge on finding her car. She ask me if I was sure. I said "Yeah, I don't want to give you any reason to cancel on me tonight." 11:00PM, I'm around her block looking for her car. She tells me that she is not home, she had to help her friend out with something but that her car is home. I told her "Fine, I will continue looking for your car but let me know when you are done." Half and hour later, she contacts me and tells me that she is tired and wants to go to sleep. I was furious. Even after all this?? We are scheduled to go out for a dinner in two days. So that night I brought that into the conversation and asked her "If she is going to cancel on me for the dinner too?? I was furious. That is the last time we talked. My questions: 1) Should I apologize for what happened that night? Or did i have the right to be furious. 2) Should I even ask her for the dinner that we are schedule to go to in two days? We have never actually went on a date. What bothers me is when I ask her out she never says no or makes up excuses. She always tells me yes and seems interested in going out. But when the time comes to go out she cancels on me. =( I'm not sure if she is playing some kind of a game. Is she playing hard to get?? Terry |
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....I had this happen to me! Oh! I love this game! Find my car/ find where I live! Its awesome! I found her pontiac G6. Then I took my 97 dodge ram three quarter ton with the kenne bell blown 360, dana 60s, lift kit, double arched springs, 37 inch goodyear bulletproof military at tires, and we played a new game! Its called "Monster truck". That's a new game where you take your monster truck and you drive completely over the car of the person who wants to play "Find my car". I found it. I crunched it. I win! Make sure you put shaving cream over your license plates so noone can read them.  ... Kyle, your fertile imagination is at it once again I see ...
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Seriously? She's not worth the energy or stress. Move on. She's not the only woman on the planet. There's 19 billion more women here......that are looking to use you, treat you like crap, change you into something that you're not, and boot you to the curb for greener pastures. Glad I could help.
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Seriously? She's not worth the energy or stress. Move on. She's not the only woman on the planet. There's 19 billion more women here......that are looking to use you, treat you like crap, change you into something that you're not, and boot you to the curb for greener pastures. Glad I could help. hahaha that was awesome.....thanks. lol |
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