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Topic: Nice guys!
IntriguingVictory Joined Sun 08/23/09 Posts: 2206	Wed 09/02/09 10:55 PM
They finish last because they don't exist. That's like asking why the Easter Bunny doesn't get any dates What's nice to you? Is it the same thing that would be considered nice to someone else? What is NICE? Nice looking? Nice in bed? Nice to your kids? Can we please grow our vocabulary and find some other words besides nice? And can we please stop using as an excuse as to why we are not successful in the dating world? If you want to know the secret I will tell you... but you have to ACTUALLY LISTEN.... The secret is confidence, not being a "nice guy" or a "bad boy" as every man has a unique blend of both. The key is to find a woman who is compatible with your unique blend. The confidence part comes into play when you get shot down but don't give up because you are happy with who you are. If you don't like you then why should we? She's right.

mscherbear Joined Fri 03/07/08 Posts: 15104	Thu 09/03/09 07:43 AM


Darknight1981 Joined Wed 07/29/09 Posts: 133	Thu 09/03/09 08:25 AM
I just want to say thank you to all the women who shared their thoughts about this. It has helped me in more ways others don't think. Thanks Calleigh, Myka(the maneater)lol, and all to those who have shared they're positive thought on this subject. You women rock!

Bandii Joined Thu 09/03/09 Posts: 109	Thu 09/03/09 11:04 AM
I'm neutral. I'm a nice guy most of the times until I say: "NO MORE MR. NICE GUY" And grab my bat and start screaming and swinging it at the first thing that moves

msmyka Joined Sat 03/22/08 Posts: 17079	Thu 09/03/09 11:06 AM
I just want to say thank you to all the women who shared their thoughts about this. It has helped me in more ways others don't think. Thanks Calleigh, Myka(the maneater)lol, and all to those who have shared they're positive thought on this subject. You women rock! You are very welcome darlin, and my bark is much worse than my bite

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Thu 09/03/09 11:14 AM
I just want to say thank you to all the women who shared their thoughts about this. It has helped me in more ways others don't think. Thanks Calleigh, Myka(the maneater)lol, and all to those who have shared they're positive thought on this subject. You women rock!

Qiao Joined Tue 02/03/09 Posts: 544	Thu 09/03/09 11:35 AM
They finish last because they don't exist. That's like asking why the Easter Bunny doesn't get any dates What's nice to you? Is it the same thing that would be considered nice to someone else? What is NICE? Nice looking? Nice in bed? Nice to your kids? Can we please grow our vocabulary and find some other words besides nice? And can we please stop using as an excuse as to why we are not successful in the dating world? If you want to know the secret I will tell you... but you have to ACTUALLY LISTEN.... The secret is confidence, not being a "nice guy" or a "bad boy" as every man has a unique blend of both. The key is to find a woman who is compatible with your unique blend. The confidence part comes into play when you get shot down but don't give up because you are happy with who you are. If you don't like you then why should we? this is how stalkers develop.

TxsSun Joined Wed 05/20/09 Posts: 14582	Thu 09/03/09 11:50 AM
I found another one http://mingle2.com/topic/show/243863

Qiao Joined Tue 02/03/09 Posts: 544	Thu 09/03/09 11:57 AM
allow me to try and establish what "nice guy" means: basicly, all the things your ex did to make your life happy and exicitable nice guy does not compare, all the things that your ex did to bring you anger and sadness. nice guy surmounts. thus, nice guy = grandmothers !??

msmyka Joined Sat 03/22/08 Posts: 17079	Thu 09/03/09 01:26 PM
allow me to try and establish what "nice guy" means: basicly, all the things your ex did to make your life happy and exicitable nice guy does not compare, all the things that your ex did to bring you anger and sadness. nice guy surmounts. thus, nice guy = grandmothers !??

GRIFFIN_LIZZARD Joined Mon 02/16/09 Posts: 7186	Thu 09/03/09 01:30 PM
<------ Still say I'm a nice guy.

isaac_dede Joined Sat 11/24/07 Posts: 10632	Thu 09/03/09 01:46 PM
Nice guys are out there...some are confident...but a lot of the time nice=shy. How many women on here ever had a 'male friend' that was with them every time this A$$hole or that A$$hole broke up with them? The friend who always told you, that you deserved to be treated better than that..blah blah blah....but that you never gave a second thought at...only to find out later that he had a huge crush on you but was to shy to tell you? ....I'd have to say most. But on the other hand...he probably lacked the confidence to approach you directly and by the time he developed it...normally from someone else showing him an interest...it was already to late because he was now permanetely stuck in the 'friend zone'...that SOO many woman say "Well I wouldn't want to screw up our friendship'...which honestly translates too.."I'm just not attracted to you on an intimate level'

msmyka Joined Sat 03/22/08 Posts: 17079	Thu 09/03/09 01:56 PM
Isaac you're a little fuzzy.. time to upgrade to a Blackberry

Quietman_2009 Joined Wed 07/29/09 Posts: 7430	Thu 09/03/09 01:57 PM


msmyka Joined Sat 03/22/08 Posts: 17079	Thu 09/03/09 01:58 PM
The friend who always told you, that you deserved to be treated better than that Odd, I remember saying this to someone recently....

longhairbiker Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 26589	Thu 09/03/09 01:59 PM
Girls are mean and yucky.

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Thu 09/03/09 03:36 PM
Nice guys are out there...some are confident...but a lot of the time nice=shy. How many women on here ever had a 'male friend' that was with them every time this A$$hole or that A$$hole broke up with them? The friend who always told you, that you deserved to be treated better than that..blah blah blah....but that you never gave a second thought at...only to find out later that he had a huge crush on you but was to shy to tell you? ....I'd have to say most. But on the other hand...he probably lacked the confidence to approach you directly and by the time he developed it...normally from someone else showing him an interest...it was already to late because he was now permanetely stuck in the 'friend zone'...that SOO many woman say "Well I wouldn't want to screw up our friendship'...which honestly translates too.."I'm just not attracted to you on an intimate level' Sorry, I just don't like to bang my friends. If that makes me deviant, oh well.

isaac_dede Joined Sat 11/24/07 Posts: 10632	Thu 09/03/09 04:08 PM
Nice guys are out there...some are confident...but a lot of the time nice=shy. How many women on here ever had a 'male friend' that was with them every time this A$$hole or that A$$hole broke up with them? The friend who always told you, that you deserved to be treated better than that..blah blah blah....but that you never gave a second thought at...only to find out later that he had a huge crush on you but was to shy to tell you? ....I'd have to say most. But on the other hand...he probably lacked the confidence to approach you directly and by the time he developed it...normally from someone else showing him an interest...it was already to late because he was now permanetely stuck in the 'friend zone'...that SOO many woman say "Well I wouldn't want to screw up our friendship'...which honestly translates too.."I'm just not attracted to you on an intimate level' Sorry, I just don't like to bang my friends. If that makes me deviant, oh well. I'm not saying you in particular...but you know what I mean...and then you see/hear girls asking 'where are the nice guys at?'...when they already know..but are just not interested.

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Thu 09/03/09 04:11 PM
They finish last because they don't exist. That's like asking why the Easter Bunny doesn't get any dates What's nice to you? Is it the same thing that would be considered nice to someone else? What is NICE? Nice looking? Nice in bed? Nice to your kids? Can we please grow our vocabulary and find some other words besides nice? And can we please stop using as an excuse as to why we are not successful in the dating world? If you want to know the secret I will tell you... but you have to ACTUALLY LISTEN.... The secret is confidence, not being a "nice guy" or a "bad boy" as every man has a unique blend of both. The key is to find a woman who is compatible with your unique blend. The confidence part comes into play when you get shot down but don't give up because you are happy with who you are. If you don't like you then why should we?

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Thu 09/03/09 04:20 PM
Nice guys are out there...some are confident...but a lot of the time nice=shy. How many women on here ever had a 'male friend' that was with them every time this A$$hole or that A$$hole broke up with them? The friend who always told you, that you deserved to be treated better than that..blah blah blah....but that you never gave a second thought at...only to find out later that he had a huge crush on you but was to shy to tell you? ....I'd have to say most. But on the other hand...he probably lacked the confidence to approach you directly and by the time he developed it...normally from someone else showing him an interest...it was already to late because he was now permanetely stuck in the 'friend zone'...that SOO many woman say "Well I wouldn't want to screw up our friendship'...which honestly translates too.."I'm just not attracted to you on an intimate level' Sorry, I just don't like to bang my friends. If that makes me deviant, oh well. I'm not saying you in particular...but you know what I mean...and then you see/hear girls asking 'where are the nice guys at?'...when they already know..but are just not interested. Who is saying the guys are nice? Quite a difference between "I'm a nice guy" and "that guy over there is pretty nice"...self-proclamation is really just selfish I think.