No MIKO..the thread must go on and i will the thread to be endless!!!!! I have set out a mission being i am not nice these days or a nice *******, to drive you crazy so you will do my lawn work for free and be my slave..Now read on..

THIS MAY NOT APPLY TO YOU..BUT TO A LOT OF YOU..IT DOES..

What happened to all the nice guys?

The answer is simple: you did.

See, if you think back, really hard, you might vaguely remember a Platonic guy pal who always seemed to want to spend time with you. He'd tag along with you when you went shopping, stop by your place for a movie when you were lonely but didn't feel like going out, or even sit there and hold you while you sobbed and told him about how horribly the (other) guy that you were ****ing treated you.

At the time, you probably joked with your girlfriends about how he was a little puppy dog, always following you around, trying to do things to get you to pay attention to him. They probably teased you because they thought he had a crush on you. Given that his behavior was, admittedly, a little pathetic, you vehemently denied having any romantic feelings for him, and buttressed your position by claiming that you were "just friends." Besides, he totally wasn't your type. I mean, he was a little too short, or too bald, or too fat, or too poor, or didn't know how to dress himself, or basically be or do any of the things that your tall, good-looking, fit, rich, stylish boyfriend at the time pulled off with such ease.

Eventually, your Platonic buddy drifted away, as your relationship with the boyfriend got more serious and spending time with this other guy was, admittedly, a little weird, if you werent dating him. More time passed, and the boyfriend eventually cheated on you, or became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren't the kinds of things that make for a good, long-term relationship. So, now, you're single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder, "What happened to all the nice guys?"

Well, once again, you did.

You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy. You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend more than the attentive "just-a-" friend. Eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life. He probably came to realize, one day, that women aren't really attracted to guys who hold doors open; or make dinners just because; or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned, in passing, that you really wanted five months ago; or listen when you're upset; or hold you when you cry. He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more like the boyfriend that you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, and generally acted like more of an ******* than he ever wanted to be.

Fact is, now, he's probably getting laid, and in a way, your ultimate rejection of him is to thank for that. And I'm sorry that it took the complete absence of "nice guys" in your life for you to realize that you missed them and wanted them. Most women will only have a handful of nice guys stumble into their lives, if that.

So, if you're looking for a nice guy, here's what you do:

1.) Build a time machine.

2.) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your ***.

3.) Take a look at what's right in front of you and grab ahold of it.

I suppose the other possibility is that you STILL don't really want a nice guy, but you feel the social pressure to at least appear to have matured beyond your infantile taste in men. In which case, you might be in luck, because the nice guy you claim to want has, in reality, shed his nice guy mantle and is out there looking to unleash his cynicism and resentment onto someone just like you.

If you were five years younger.

So, please: either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the fact that you've ****ed yourself over. You're getting older, after all. It's time to excise the ******** and deal with reality. You didn't want a nice guy then, and he certainly doesn't ****ing want you, now.

Sincerely,

A Recovering Nice Guy

I read it all in depth several times!! My name is Earl. I am 53 and this shows i have been around long enough to see lifes reactions of actions especially in a 5 million city where i am in Houston Texas.

I grew up in the 60's with two older sisters. Me being as young as 13 while one sister was 15 and the other one was 17, i noticed how they had many great great dudes as we called them that would hang around. Both of my sisters would laugh at the guys and demean them and give their attention instead to guys that were sorry ********. Both have had over 3 marriages and one was even murdered by a sorry creep she ran off to Ohio with in 1991 that kicked her ribs in causing her spleen to rupture resulting in her death.

I can look back and being i have a detailed memory that is so good i can even remember the makes and models of cars people had when i was age 5. With this being known of me with my memory, i remember handfulls of damn good guys!!! and my sisters treated them like absolute ****...they were guys that would have made great husbands!!! were physically clean!! But my sisters would label them as boring and not being fun because they did not do outlandish crazy **** and have tatooes or go to jail or bring booze and pills or pot around.

Here's a list by reference and some names of guys that tried and in all cases my sister Cheryl..the now deceased sister treated them like ****

Don Matthews...had a new 73 ford van and would take me and my sister Cheryl to Galveston on weekends for over 2 years and never ask for gas money or anything and was a good good warm human!! He gave up after 2 years because she mocked him and belittled him and he was even a great looking guy.

The guy that serviced the trucks at Skelly truck stop while going to school...Again my sister Cheryl would never take him serious, but instead would involve with guys being several at the time whom would always have booze and get her to live in hope and dream of crazy lies they would con her with. The guy at Skelly truck stop i mentioned was a hell of a nice guy and work oriented and my sister and her friends laughed at him because his idea of a good time was a picnic at the lake on saturday topped off with the local drive inn movies that evening with church so he could introduce her to his other friends on Sunday. My sister Cheryl and her friends labeled this as pansy square jerk and they instead persuaded her to go be with the supposed cool idiots in their parents cars with the booze and fun **** as they described.

I Earl have lived to see them mistreat and mock the nice guys, then the bad nmarrigaes, up until ones death..and sister brought all of that upon herself.

Earl

These "nice guy" posts are getting old, where's Quietman when you need him LOL

I have started extending my stoop...not quite big enough yet, give me a day or so.

What's nice to me?

A nice girl is one with a nice azz.

A nice girl will give me her icecream when I feel like licking something. She shaves her ice cream.

A nice girl will treat my hard-on as the seventh wonder of the world, and ask me what it tastes like. Lemon Sherbet? Hot lemon sherbet.

A nice girl will never hold it against me that I am trying to seduce her mother (unsuccessfully.)

A nice girl will not put my balls in a vise-grip and close it shut.

A nice girl is nice and fat, has a tiny voice, reads romantic spy novels and masturbates at her desk while constantly looking in my direction.

A nice girl will never hold it against me that I seduced her mother. (Finally. That wrinkled old witch. About time.)

A nice girl is just... well, nice.

My cat seems like a nice cat but when you mess with him, he gets all annoyed and defensive and stares at you alot.

Does that make him a bad cat?

yeah... I'm still a nice guy anyway!!

CURSE YOU ALL, THIS TREAD MUST DIE, DIE DIE, I REALLY MEAN IT I WILL HOLD MY BREATH UNTIL I TURN BLUE, THEN YOU WILL BE SORRY.

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I don't buy girls don't like you because you are a nice guy.

I sooner believe you are picking girls around your age who just have different goals than what you do. They want to experience life rather than get latched onto by one person who is too young to probably offer a lot.

To say that good looking guys only focus on their looks is bogus. To make a blanket statement of what someone else is thinking is passing the buck.

To say that when a good looking guy is telling a young woman she is sexy is "just to get in her pants" is not only insulting to women but insulting to people you don't know are even saying that.

If you can't find a peer age female that wants a relationship it is more likely your selection process. While it is rarer for 19 year old women to want to have a serious relationship with a 19 year old man it is more because their social maturity is usually at a higher level. Your relationships fail you might want to consider your own behavior.

I don't buy that women get bored with you because you are "nice". YOu can be interesting, funny, romantic, creative, active, and a host of other positive things and still be nice. If someone finds you boreing then maybe you need to upgrade your social skills and make and effort to be more of the aforemention attributes and skip the excuses, blameing, gross generalizatons, and whineing.

If you want to be a cry baby and give up on taking a chance on dateing and finding love or just "hold back" then you are going to get left behind by the guys who grab the gals with personality and enthusiasm and overcome their fear or previous disaapointments.

I thought we killed all of the nice guys!!!???

Nice Guy Zombies??

Hmmm that kind of fits

hahahahahahahahahahaha

you've been here a couple of months

you havent even seen the extent of the perenially nice guy threads

there will be twenty more before the month is out.

if your freakin out now i hate to see you a month from now

Red the other nice guy post... the one I wrote.... I LIKE IT

they're all the same, whining about how no one likes them, we're over it.

Well if you actually READ mine and can UNDERSTAND ... it is note a whine or bithh story... it is a reminder of what can happen...

so....um....yeah

Um ........... just shows me you have no life and have had your nose in a dictionary or up your own aztec warrior.... sorry

personally I think you guys need to arm wrestle........