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you seem like a glass is half empty kind of guy
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who cares about books?
we're talking about dating |
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who cares about books?
we're talking about dating |
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Well, one thing for sure, this site is a perfect example,,, You come in and register, you're here just like me, meeting new people, far from everone, sometimes close, and when you meet someone, and have a good time, laughs, etc. theeennn ... it's time to really meet.. if you live close, or if you take a chance to travel and meet the person, and when u do, or coures your gonna take this person out to dinner, or some coffee, or a movie ... it's considered a "Date" even though we don't use that phrase anymore, like you say Billy ... Wanna go out to MC'D... etc. just by going out, i think that's already a date. Opinions plzzzz  I'd call that a date. Any time I make special plans to meet the person I'm interested in, I call it a date... minus a few obvious exceptions. share a lunch break... date trip to McD... date walking the dogs in the park... date picking out plants at the nursery... date trip to Home Depot for plumbing supplies tofix the sink that her hair plugged up... not a date, but it deserves a date... |
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Well, one thing for sure, this site is a perfect example,,, You come in and register, you're here just like me, meeting new people, far from everone, sometimes close, and when you meet someone, and have a good time, laughs, etc. theeennn ... it's time to really meet.. if you live close, or if you take a chance to travel and meet the person, and when u do, or coures your gonna take this person out to dinner, or some coffee, or a movie ... it's considered a "Date" even though we don't use that phrase anymore, like you say Billy ... Wanna go out to MC'D... etc. just by going out, i think that's already a date. Opinions plzzzz I'd call that a date. Any time I make special plans to meet the person I'm interested in, I call it a date... minus a few obvious exceptions. share a lunch break... date trip to McD... date walking the dogs in the park... date picking out plants at the nursery... date trip to Home Depot for plumbing supplies tofix the sink that her hair plugged up... not a date, but it deserves a date... lol ... last line !! good one,, i hate when that happend !!! 
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I would but I am sick of hearing them cry about the distance. I am willing to make the drive and even relocate but still they whine about it. Not only that but I hear them say they want this and that out of a relationship but yet, when it's offered, they run. I am close to just deletting and saying to hell with this site. I might as well go back to the old fashioned way but, I'm on the road to much so it's hard to build personal contacts consistently. The internet is a great tool but, I am getting the impression some are just playing. Cheers I too, am willing to drive and/or relocate..meet half way.. Some people just don't know what they want... You could drive my way anytime Sigiere...LOL |
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My first date is going to be a freeby except for what it costs me for my gas to drive there and my hotel room, here's why. 1. I have spent over 10k in the past 6 months driving to, picking up potential m8's, doing my best to make sure they have fun in hopers of a LTR and it end in nothing. 2. I always get a room and I return to it after I drop her off because without knowing her better sex is out of the question, most women don't anyhow in the beginning so this one is easy. Plus I simply hate ONS's. 3. There is plenty to do for free and still have fun like, walking nature trails or going to a park. Spending time together and talking. etc etc etc I figure if she's truly intrested she won't care about my money because I don't care about hers. If the first day or 2 goes well, then I might spend some money and take her out if we get past the first couple days. This may seem wierd to some but, to the right woman, it will be perfectly acceptable and will go rather well. It's not about the money for me, it's about being asked in the first place. And you're right, dates can be special no matter what you do, if they're with the right person. Hay lady's if we put on wigs maybe we can confuse him and then we would all look stupid.. leaving him with a choice of ???? I can have them all....... as long as we can not count to 1,2,3 OOOps I meant 5,3, and 1, NO NO that is not right.. wait? 1+2=7. Ya that is it.......... I just figures out how many holes are in the earth! Wait... what?  LOL I got asked by a man if he could start calling me his girlfriend. He gets an A+ in commitment, but an F- in timing.  A better question...when is it too soon to ask a girl out on a date? Isn't it better and more comfortable for a woman to develop a friendship with a man she just met before going on a date? Please lemme know. Thanks. How would that friendship develop? It is always good to start a relationship that way, but how do strangers turn into friends if they don't automatically see each-other most days? My point was that being asked on a date is WAY better then being oogled and wanted for nothing but instant sex. My answer... If your serious... I'll meet you at your house ... Feed the dog... I'll get the trash... Then you can let me drive you to the 'date' so when we get there all the other guys can just drooool. but I'd rather take you to a quieter place... Games ok though. kinda hard to get to know you in the noise. See, now, if I heard a guy say this to me, my automatic response would be that he wants to go somewhere "quiet" (aka "alone") to get to know me "better" (aka sexually). the number ratio is low because women tend to always judge a book by its cover So by this I assume you mean men don't bother to ask because women will say no anyway? However, men WILL ask for sex instead. So... who's judging whom by a cover? Dunno. They could just be some d-bags lookin' for a quick score. I don't ask ladies out on dates anymore as it's just fruitless labor. Your second sentence makes you out to be one of the men from your first. Fruitless... how? I didn't read 13 pages... but what is your definition of a "date request?" Do you have to use the words "Would you like to go on a date?" Not those exact words. By "date" I mean he actually asks me to go do something together in the light of day that doesn't involve booze and sex. AKA, something where we can actually TALK and get to know each-other. What in the hell are you talking about Snarky? If I ask you to go get a burger at McDonalds...or I say, "Hey, wanna go see a movie?" ...that isnt considered "being asked out on a date?" Yes, Billy, that would be considered a date. Why is this hard to understand? Well, one thing for sure, this site is a perfect example,,, You come in and register, you're here just like me, meeting new people, far from everone, sometimes close, and when you meet someone, and have a good time, laughs, etc. theeennn ... it's time to really meet.. if you live close, or if you take a chance to travel and meet the person, and when u do, or coures your gonna take this person out to dinner, or some coffee, or a movie ... it's considered a "Date" even though we don't use that phrase anymore, like you say Billy ... Wanna go out to MC'D... etc. just by going out, i think that's already a date. Opinions plzzzz Yeah, well... I gave up on Mingle for that a while ago. The men on here who have any form of IQ at all are nowhere NEAR me, so... yeah. in 13 pages, snarky did NOT explain what a date was I kinda assumed I didn't have to... MEN!  I think the word Date is: Hanging out with someone and getting to know themselves... Right ? Having a good time. :) YES!! WE HAVE A WINNER!!! who knows if we "figure out" what date means they will change the definition of "figure out" NOW who's b***ing about the other gender? I would but I am sick of hearing them cry about the distance. I am willing to make the drive and even relocate but still they whine about it. Not only that but I hear them say they want this and that out of a relationship but yet, when it's offered, they run. I am close to just deletting and saying to hell with this site. I might as well go back to the old fashioned way but, I'm on the road to much so it's hard to build personal contacts consistently. The internet is a great tool but, I am getting the impression some are just playing. Cheers The distance IS important. I, for one, can't get to know anyone via the internet. I need physical contact, eye-to-eye contact... so yes, distance DOES matter. who cares about books? we're talking about dating For me, rummaging through an old bookstore and then having coffee and looking at each-other's treasures while talking about our favorite books would be the PERFECT first date!  I'd call that a date. Any time I make special plans to meet the person I'm interested in, I call it a date... minus a few obvious exceptions. share a lunch break... date trip to McD... date walking the dogs in the park... date picking out plants at the nursery... date trip to Home Depot for plumbing supplies tofix the sink that her hair plugged up... not a date, but it deserves a date I'd concur!
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So I'm the only one who does't get asked? That's kinda an ego-crusher...  Well, you could be like me--they ask me out and then never call me back to firm up plans. |
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ive met about 10 wemons on this site that i`d ask out on a "date"
its not my fault you all live in another country i blame them damned wemons 
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i quit asking so i don't have to worry about being turned down
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The women I would like to ask for a date on here, live in different states.
It`s weird, the women here on mingle from my area all act like they are too good for you. |
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The women I would like to ask for a date on here, live in different states. It`s weird, the women here on mingle from my area all act like they are too good for you. All my options are too far away to... 
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The women I would like to ask for a date on here, live in different states. It`s weird, the women here on mingle from my area all act like they are too good for you. i only have one answer to that ra fcuk em 
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The women I would like to ask for a date on here, live in different states. It`s weird, the women here on mingle from my area all act like they are too good for you. at least there's women on here in your area 
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So I'm the only one who does't get asked? That's kinda an ego-crusher... Well, you could be like me--they ask me out and then never call me back to firm up plans. Stop agreeing to go out with dumba**es. LOL |
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Yeah, the original question was about in-person, not on Mingle. I'm in the same place as JT in that there's nobody anywhere near me on here. Pfft.
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I don't ask for two reasons: 1) I'm scared of rejection, yes. I can't deny that. 2) If I ask a man, how am I to know he won't say yes just because he doesn't want to hurt my feelings, or ouf ot an ego boost he was given or..? How do I know, even if he says yes, that he actually wants ME? That's why. I know. I'm neurotic. actually , that is a human response. which means what? that your human. I feel that way more than just a lot, and if most people on here were honest, they would admit to it too. Its all about ego and some of us have brittle ego's and we fear that it will get crushed and brittle ego's are just tough to put back together. You worry they will say no, but when they say yes, you worry that they dont mean it and just don't want to hurt your feelings, or just after sex. My ex-wife, who left me for someone else, called me up one day and after a long talk she told me how much she missed me and how she would love to come see me for the weekend and see if we still had any spark. She i agreed and even paid all of her expenses getting her here, we went to the lake and swam and hung out and had a good time, but when i ask her why she came and ask her to be honest, she said, "Well honestly, I was going to go camping with my family, but i thought about you and I realized that you were a guaranteed lay and going out with them wasn't. So basically I was her Hoe for the weekend. It crushed me all over again and i sent her home with a kiss on the cheek and nothing more. |
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Why are people so selfish and cruel to each-other?
Sorry to hear that happened to you, John. 
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Edited by
John1932
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Mon 08/03/09 12:22 AM
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So by this I assume you mean men don't bother to ask because women will say no anyway? However, men WILL ask for sex instead. So... who's judging whom by a cover? The point is, men that ask for sex are the ones doing the asking, the men that truly want to know you and are interested in you are the ones that are not doing the asking. Its not that men have the nerve to ask for sex, but not dates, its just that the men that truly want dates aren't asking. There are two different types of men. One doesn't care about feelings and getting to know you, they just think your hot and want the sex and will play you however they can to get it. The other type does care about emotions and is interested in who you are and because he focuses on these emotions, he also fears the rejection. The more seriously he focuses, the more deterred he is. For instance, if I finally got the courage to walk up to you and asked you out, it probably wouldn't work after you ended up throwing away your shoes from me  all over them, LOL the bottom line is, if it is true love and feelings and you really care about that person, sex is NEVER an issue and i could love you and hold you and cherish you and never care about sex. No some women would take offense to that, "we've been dating for 6 months now and he wont even make a move, i guess he does find me attractive," well maybe he respects you and loves you so much that he wont put you in a position to choose. Most of these guys are the "let it come natural guys," the right moment, the right setting, glaring into each others eyes, slow dancing or snuggling, candle light, soft music, slow kissing and then next thing you know, your making love. Instead of , "Well its been six months now, ready to do it?" LOL I have wondered way off course here, so I will stop my opinionated writing. |
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Why are people so selfish and cruel to each-other? Sorry to hear that happened to you, John. Its lessons learned, all a big huge part of life. |
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