Personal preference?

Hmmm, I've never seen this.

I'm not interested in a man if he has children. I've seen guys on here and I'm like, oohh, he's cute. Then I read the profile and I'm like damn he has kids, who are "his world." Moving on!

I don't want children, I don't want to date a man who has children whether they live with him or not, they still exist, somewhere in the world. I don't want to deal with the kids, their mom, the extended family, or anything. Like a few other people on here said, it's personal preference.

I love it when people take offense to something about themselves that doesn't interest someone else. If it wasn't kids, it could be your age, or the kind of job you have, or your personality, or how you look, or your race or your weight or whatever. We all have preferences. I have a few of my own and one of them is no daddies- ever!

Try a single parents dating/social club, you might have better luck, they'll understand what you're going through.

I personaly do not want to be woth a man with young kids. Still at home

It is now time for me and my man

Alone!!!

I have a personal preference not to date those with children, doesn't mean that I won't, but I would really prefer not. I have had a bad personal expirence with a guy with kids, and it was enough to scare me away.

I moved in with a guy I met on here early in 2008, he had 2 kids everyother weekend, and things were great. I got along with the kids, and they me. In September his son came to live with us full time, for the first 3 months his mom was in and out of rehab and he didn't get to see her. I went from being a girlfriend to a "full time mommy". I don't have kids of my own, and honestly didn't know what I was doing. Slowly his child became very agressive towards me, it eventually let to him trying to shove me down a flight of stairs. I couldn't take it anymore, I had to walk away. I was in love with the whole family, not just my boyfriend, but the stress of the child became too much for me, and I was about to lose it myself.

The hardest part for me now is that I haven't seen his daughter in 3 months now. She was the sweetest little angel. I've moved on from my ex, and his son, but his daughter... I just can't get over.

I am looking now for a husband, someone who is ready to start a family with me, I don't think I can walk into a family already started... jmo...

I also have a preference that a man I am dating not have kids, or at least small children (under 14 or 15). For me it is almost a double standard, my kid is 16. The hassle of basically being a baby sitter and doing the kid thing is not my cup of tea. I already did the little kid thing and have no desire to repeat it, and the momma drama, no thank you. In addition, some peoples kids are just brats, its not fair to me, to continually have to deal with their child’s lack of boundaries, respect, or manners and the resulting strain it puts on a relationship.

There are women who wont go out with a dude if he has kids?

I can say this, I run a full time 7 days a week 24hrs a day and I have in Oklahoma for 9 full years...

how many 22-23 year old girls are out having kids on purpose? i would wager not too many

1700# Young girls from the ages of 16teen to 27yrs old who are single. who have baby's from the age of 2weeks old to 3 yrs old. Who's boyfriend is in jail, cheated on them with 1 to 5 other friends, who were one night stands because they wanted the child not the boy in the hot genes only his sperm!!!!.

this will also add in Fathers who's girlfriends are addicts and left the child on the door step at 2 yrs old to take care of for the rest of the child's life.

add in the Grandmothers taking care of the children 2 to 4# kids, who's daughter/son ran off with someone leaving the grandmother to take care of her child's child. P.s. The kids!
11yr old is bi-polar
8yr old is ADD
5yr old is Learning disability
3yr old is being diagnose with OCD?

As for the rest who are married that is only 3 out of a 30 that are not.

So yes my dear... Women are using men for sperm to have baby's even at the age is 18teen yrs old so they can have a baby! with out the man..... I live and hear about it every day..... Well every time a women needs a childcare giver... LOL

more reasons:
a) kids are annoying Kids are interesting
b) kids are expensive Kids are worth the money invested
4) kids take all your time Kids are never lazy! that is true
e) i am a terrible role model NO one in the world is a Terrible

role model! do you know why! because God made you Perfect! the day you were born. It is your Free will to be this way, not the way others chose for you too be. If you chose not to be a Good role model Then that is your choice!

My daughter in 1994, came to me in the 4th grade, she said mom I have no one to be my hero! I said ok, why, she said, well all the actors and actress they drink, do drugs and smoke, they lie and cheat, Do you want me do this?, I can not look up to the icons we have now adays, even they do all of this, I can not look to my teachers for they are drunk and smoke, you can smell it on them.
I can not look to my fathers family grandma or grandpa or even your parents mom.... because thy all drink and do drugs.. So then who is going to show me.. or help me be the best i can be. I need someone to look up too, to show me how to be a good person and I chose you!

Will you be my Hero! Please... ON Halloween of 1994 at 7:03pm I pored out my "BLACK VELVET", I Put out my Marbo 100's. And said YES! to my Wonderful Daughter, I will be the women you need to look up too and i will help you be the best you can be.

So to end this, My daughter has never smoked, drunk or done drugs.. which to say... this.... I became her hero someone to look up too!

Kids are the most wonderful, amazing, smartest, humans on this earth it is parents or men and women who don't ever get it!

yes

dont think the problem lies with any child

think it's a matter of personal preference

Girls that dont have kids?

yes

I can't say I wouldn't date someone with kids...I have kids. But my boys are grown up, my last one is 16, I wouldn't want to get too serious with one who has younger kids. Little kid day are over for me..

Amen x 100000000 to that one! That's your "world," great, you obviously don't have room for another life form! Maybe that's why there are billions of inhabitable planets out there, like Gliese 581c.



I had a rather lengthy discussion with a woman on one site -- she was in her mid-40s, and could NOT grasp the concept of why I would not date her. She had three kids, but two were "gone" and the third "will be gone soon."

My point is that they're never actually "gone." They're still around somewhere. And that isn't even really the point, either -- the point is that they ever existed in the first place.

I won't date anyone with kids, and I won't date anyone who WANTS kids. The whole reproductive mentality makes absolutely no sense to me.



A lot of people tend to be very judgmental about the whole kids thing -- if you don't want kids, you're a horrible, evil, selfish monster with no decency and no feelings.

Well, I've been called worse -- I was married.

But trying to find childfree people on a dating site is like trying to look for rhinoceroses on the moon -- there just ain't any there....

Since I've never had a relationship, I don't want that kind of responsibility. If they are not my kids, I don't want to take care of them. I've seen enough little brats as it is that don't get their azzes whooped when they need it. Therefore, if I think that her kids need a good butt-whoppin and she doesn't approve, then I don't see how we could agree on much else. Furthermore, I need experience with a woman alone...not with kids.

By the way, there are plenty of women out there lookin for a sucker to be a "daddy" for their munchkins. I don't play that. And I'm not gonna put myself in the midst of baby-daddy/momma drama.

I can't speak for others but I have had a life plan for most of my adult life.

I purposely married young, had a child, tied a knot in the baby making machine, and adopted a child. I raised them while I was young enough to enjoy doing it and old enough to be responsible to do a good job; 22 to 40 something. I enjoy my grandchildren occasionaly but my children raise their own just like I did. Now I am enjoying the things I set aside to be that responsible parent. It is my turn and I am not going to give that up.

If the people I run into have other plans; specificlly having children later in life, or raiseing their grandkids, and I realize that is a choice that sometimes really isn't much of a choice then they are not the right match for me.

I even limit the friends I make who "have" children because I do not want to be the friend they turn to when the inevitable demands of having children make you lean on friends. I feel I have taken that responsibility many times over and now it is someone elses turn.

It is not like I don't ever do things for children because I often do. I just don't make them a part of my day to day lifestyle. Not to say I am not tempted occasionally. I do think it is the ultimate cruelty to a child and their parent to try to be something you really don't want to be. Every child deserves to be wanted. intensely. They know when they aren't. I can guarantee that.

How do you figure it is your job to tell a woman to whoop her kids azz..
your right, you shouldn't date women with kids...

Well, if she's expectin me to do the job of bein a daddy, then I should have a say so in that issue.

If your dating women who expect you to be daddy you may want to re check
the kind of women your with...if just dating makes you daddy maybe you both should rethink. And in order to discipline a child you must love them..
if you refer to them as little brats that need their azzes whooped, you probably don't love them anyway... your young enough to find a girl with no kids, probably a good idea for you.

I agree, Ladylid.