I am probably too old to understand this concept, but with age comes wisdom :)

I know plenty of attractive men who are also good ("nice") guys. I also know plenty of attractive women who value the character of a man more highly than whether or not he has a 6 pack and could pass for Brad Pitt.

I will talk to someone without a photo, if the message or profile or his posts caught my eye & was more literate than "hey, wut's up cutie?" Then again, my advanced age has taught me that looks may fade, but character and personality rarely do. If someone messages or nudges me, and I see something in his profile that is an immediate deal breaker for me, I'll at least respond & thank him politely for his interest, then give my reason(s) why I don't think we'd be a match.

Then again, my grandmother drilled manners into my head with her rolling pin, lol.

hey is evrybody gonna run away or can I play too..or what..I think youre all a bunch of windbags what do ya think of that?

I read the forum rules on how to post and that person guaranteed I'd find someone faster that way but I think it's bs, and here's why.

When making a profile on a dating website, what do they ALWAYS recommend and say it will improve results... upload a picture! Sadly, this is the truth, because we have such high expectations that we want someone who is attractive before we'll even talk to them. That's not to say I'd talk up a conversation with everyone under the sun but some people are just sad. Here's an example:

On another popular free dating website, I setup a fake account with a friend of mine's pics(with his permission) and he is known around the circle of friends to be very good looking. As you might expect, girls are MUCH more responsive to his messgaes opposed to those messages I'd send(usually a day or do later, so that she wouldn't suspect any foul play).

Not only that, but girls were generally more open about their pasts than they were with my real profile. Numerous girls admitted to one-night stands, sexual partners, and one girl even gave her number after only a few messages(most of which were me intentionally acting like a jerk). A few girls were also very open to the idea of trading nude pictures(something I didn't even bring up to them!) all for a guy who for all they know might not even be available or, worse yet, not the guy they see in the profile.

The point is: girls LOVE attention from a good-looking guy. They will put up with him being a jerk so they can "try to change him" but we all know that's not gonna happen. Sadly, I think the problem is that if girls get attention from ONE good-looking guy online, they immediately filter out all the guys who don't match up, because they think "If I can get one hot guy to message me, surely I can get others". Do I feel bad for tricking them? Hell no! It was an experiment I'm glad I did because it shows the truth that girls are indeed more superficial than they claim to be... at least online. I can't say the same for a girl who first meets a guy in person.

On the flip side, being kind and courteous? What a load of crap! Girls hate that stuff. If they could have their way, they'd have a super hot guy treat them like total crap over a mediocre guy treating them like a queen. Like I said, with the fake profile, within the first message or 2, I was bringing up personal questions and most were very willing to answer. Now, some were questions I'd never ask from my real profile... I just have too much respect for a girl to ask that kind of stuff. But I suppose that's the problem. I care too much.

see jasmine?

that's why

You forgot to add that girls have cooties...

see jasmine?

that's why

Ok put it this way: ATTRACTIVE WOMEN go for the hot guys, which are typically jerks.

For all the claims that " looks don't matter as much as the personality "...if that was REALLY true, then there would be a whole lot fewer people here.

If everyone who made that claim actually lived by that ideal, then there wouldn't be the " perfect for me " syndrome that is so prominent on dating sites.

You just have to face facts.

It's human nature to be more willing to get " close " to a person that you are physically attracted you.

You'll see the claim that " looks don't matter " used so much, mainly because it's the " politically correct " thing to say.

No one, who is on a dating site and looking to make a good impression to a potential mate, wants to look superficial.

So they'll shout from the rooftops that looks don't mean anything, but they'll keep clicking next until the see someone they find attractive.

We all know it's a line of bulls**t in the VAST majority of cases.

Very few choose not to run that line though.

I will fully admit that I have been contacted by several women here that, even though they were really nice, I simply wasn't attracted to them at all. I replied to their emails in a friendly manner, but had no interest in anything other than friendship.

I have preferences, Im not shallow. I find all sorts of different people hot, especially if they live within 50 miles of me. Unfortunately lifestyle and communication preferences are vital. Im not into dirt bikes or sports. Anyone got a suit of armor and bash people with sticks on the weekend, that’s hot.