Hmm... I think my pictures throw people off more than the profile. Luckily, I've had a few people take a chance to just chat/IM with me and there's always surprises. I dont know how to show my quirks in good lighting without somebody else's energy to bounce around

Bouncing around others' energy... interesting... I never thought of it that way before.

VERY interesting... this totally ties in my social awkwardness with my Paganism... I can use this metaphor...

Couple trips on mushrooms, study of Qi-Gung n Tai-Chi, and a couple painful revelations later... (not THE way, just the circumstances for myself and my awareness) its amazing what can found within people without speech or physical contact, but learning how to recognize and utilize different energies is almost unreal yet so vividly influential for an open mind

Oooh playing in each others energy fields is fun. Especially with good friends.

Hey all ... I'm just gonna jump in and give my 2 cents worth. I am new here and am just reading through some profiles and getting acquainted.
When I am looking at(and more importantly)reading profiles, I
don't want to know every little itty bitty detail from the profile. I believe a little mystery is a good thing and I don't want to read your life story on your profile.
I like to just get a bit of insight as to what you are about and what your likes are. Enough to tell me if we have any common ground to start at.
I don't like to read profiles that have references to past relationships or ex wives/husbands etc.... that turns me of. If your profile states that you are divorced, that's all you need to say, at least until we get to chat and get better acquainted. I don't want to read about what your ex wife did or didn't do etc on your profile. That just sends out a red flair to me.

My profile is 1400 pages long, and there's a reason for that. If I remember what it is, I will tell you.

MOST profiles I've read aren't worth the effort it takes to spend the 7 seconds or so reading them. "I don't know what to write here" and "Anything you want to know, you'll have to ask" don't tell me anything about the person other than that they're too lazy to actually say anything about themselves.

Even the ones that have actual sentences and paragraphs tend to be mostly cliches and boilerplate blatherings.

My philosophy -- longer is better, IF you have something to say. If not, don't waste my time AND your own by writing the same drivel I can find in 130 billion other profiles.

what's weird about your pics?

I like the ones that say... I'm happy to just snuggle by the fire with a glass of wine. We all know what happens then..

Well... I wouldnt say weird except for the ones I'm goofing off, making faces. People see the hat, the clothes, whatever else and think I'm a player or a typical guy.

Like I said above, I am lucky enough to have a few people take a chance and just talk to me (is that really even taking a chance??) and it was always the same. One said she wasnt sure if she wanted to talk to me because I looked like a player. Another said my words and image didnt match up. Once more declared she didnt believe I could actually be as nice as I am and had to be playing at something.

I used to know many scumbags and typical guys, and I know their secrets. I cant say women are wrong for being cautious or WHATEVER you wanna call it, but it amazes me how they let it define somebody before they even take the time to talk. I'm not expecting to meet somebody after one day, and certainly not looking for quick sex. It takes a decent amount of time to get to know somebody, and it can be so simple to do so without giving, losing or risking anything. Yet the minds of most are clouded, and I have little patience for ignorance and assumptive people.

P.S. That kitten is too much. I wanna kitten SO bad now

HAH!!! That is a response I would actually respond BACK to.

That's hilarious.

But then again, I have never sent such a generic email for a first contact anyway.

Yet they still ignore me...lol

That seems ludicrous. I think people take things way too seriously... for me, thats why dating is hard. There's too much pressure to 'appear' decent and the idea to impress. People always ask, what do you do? Nothin wrong with that, but that is hardly who a person is. Too much focus on trying to find the qualities for a good partner, but are you finding qualities as a friend too? This cannot be seperated. I dont want to date anybody I cant laugh with and be able to talk to as a friend, intellectually and simple-minded.

Oh, no doubt.

People do take things way too seriously.

That was one of the reasons I started the thread about people not smiling in their profile pics.

For me to be attracted to someone, they have to show the ability to smile and see the lighter side of life.

If every picture on a profile looks like they want to rip out someone's throat, I'll take a pass and just click to the next one.

The thing that sucks for me... I never liked pictures for the most part. I hated standing still, being told to smile and whatnot... felt like a robot. I need a reason to smile! Even if i take a picture of myself, it is so hard to actually give a real smile. I have to start making stupid faces and make myself laugh, but still it just isnt a real smile. I try! And I smile a lot, but I cant do the picture thing seriously. I have no interest in looking at pictures of myself so I have no interest of taking them of myself. I like pictures that people dont know are being taken... I used to walk through the halls of my highschool and meet people, say whatup, real fast whip out the camera and snap it before they knew it was there, and I got the best, most fun-loving pictures ever. If I had a lady, and she was in the picture with me, I'd be happy as ****. But I'd rather just have pictures of all the shapes I can make my face into.

Oh okay. Well, I never got that from looking at your pics.

Isn't the kitty adorable? I want one too, but I'm allergic.

No kittens? Allergic?

I don't ignore anyone who sends a decent email, but that's just me. It takes a lot of courage to send an email to a complete stranger in the hopes that a spark will flare. If the email was courteous, I always respond in kind, even if just to thank them for the email. I can't help myself with the goofy ones, though, and I send responses such as the one I mentioned above. If I get a response in kind, it makes my day!

i know right? oh well, i still have the pic