Topic: Nice to.... meet you??
earthytaurus76's photo
Mon 07/13/09 01:37 PM

:smile: One of the ways to catch someone is to get their number and talk to them, but then call them at an unexpected time and see who answers the phone.:smile: Darlin, I been on Mingle a long time and I have seen a lot of chit and know a lot of tricks:smile:


WELL.. about that.. he said after I get to know him, since he um lives far.. (uh huh, uh huh) I could stay at his house sometimes.. *cough* and then we could spend the whole weekend together.

scared

That for me could take forever.. But it doesnt SOUND YET like hes married, or whatever. But I know he could be.

MirrorMirror's photo
Mon 07/13/09 01:38 PM
:smile: He may not want you to see the name on the caller ID because it may be a wife/GF phone:smile:

chriswantstocuddle's photo
Mon 07/13/09 01:38 PM

So heres the situation.

I meet a guy online. I speak to him a little in emails. Over a days period.

He says, "lets get together". Im like "well, Id prefer to get to know you by speaking a bit on the phone first".


He calls.

We talk.. he says.. he really wants to get together and talk,.. says he doesnt like to waste time getting to know someone that way, in his experience, he has hit it off many times on the phone, and they end up not a match after meeeting in person, SOOOOO, he prefers to meet in person. (Im thinking, wouldnt he like more of a chance for me to judge him for who he is on the phone?

He says he just really wants to meet me.

Im thinking, "hm.. he doesnt seem to eager to please me ad make ME feel confortable."

WELLLLL... I think to myself.. ok, I would probably have coffee with someone I didnt know too well,... and.. ya gotta get to know people somehow sometime.. what if hes greattt...

so anyway.. i decide, ok.. " so I agree to meet him for coffee in a public place... but I AM SOOO NERVOUS!.

I am nervous because he is someone I dont know much at all.

ARGH! Im about to cancel this freaks me out.. What do you think?




honestly i think you should cancel it doesnt sound like a good situation.

earthytaurus76's photo
Mon 07/13/09 01:38 PM

:smile: He may not want you to see the name on the caller ID because it may be a wife/GF phone:smile:


Well I saw his work number.

earthytaurus76's photo
Mon 07/13/09 01:39 PM


So heres the situation.

I meet a guy online. I speak to him a little in emails. Over a days period.

He says, "lets get together". Im like "well, Id prefer to get to know you by speaking a bit on the phone first".


He calls.

We talk.. he says.. he really wants to get together and talk,.. says he doesnt like to waste time getting to know someone that way, in his experience, he has hit it off many times on the phone, and they end up not a match after meeeting in person, SOOOOO, he prefers to meet in person. (Im thinking, wouldnt he like more of a chance for me to judge him for who he is on the phone?

He says he just really wants to meet me.

Im thinking, "hm.. he doesnt seem to eager to please me ad make ME feel confortable."

WELLLLL... I think to myself.. ok, I would probably have coffee with someone I didnt know too well,... and.. ya gotta get to know people somehow sometime.. what if hes greattt...

so anyway.. i decide, ok.. " so I agree to meet him for coffee in a public place... but I AM SOOO NERVOUS!.

I am nervous because he is someone I dont know much at all.

ARGH! Im about to cancel this freaks me out.. What do you think?




honestly i think you should cancel it doesnt sound like a good situation.


Why not Chris? :smile:

MirrorMirror's photo
Mon 07/13/09 01:39 PM


:smile: One of the ways to catch someone is to get their number and talk to them, but then call them at an unexpected time and see who answers the phone.:smile: Darlin, I been on Mingle a long time and I have seen a lot of chit and know a lot of tricks:smile:


WELL.. about that.. he said after I get to know him, since he um lives far.. (uh huh, uh huh) I could stay at his house sometimes.. *cough* and then we could spend the whole weekend together.

scared

That for me could take forever.. But it doesnt SOUND YET like hes married, or whatever. But I know he could be.
:smile: That doesn't mean anything.:smile: That could just be a line to set your mind at ease and gain your trust:smile:

earthytaurus76's photo
Mon 07/13/09 01:40 PM



:smile: One of the ways to catch someone is to get their number and talk to them, but then call them at an unexpected time and see who answers the phone.:smile: Darlin, I been on Mingle a long time and I have seen a lot of chit and know a lot of tricks:smile:


WELL.. about that.. he said after I get to know him, since he um lives far.. (uh huh, uh huh) I could stay at his house sometimes.. *cough* and then we could spend the whole weekend together.

scared

That for me could take forever.. But it doesnt SOUND YET like hes married, or whatever. But I know he could be.
:smile: That doesn't mean anything.:smile: That could just be a line to set your mind at ease and gain your trust:smile:


scared Will you come with me and hold my hand? sad

MirrorMirror's photo
Mon 07/13/09 01:40 PM
:smile: I agree with Chris and this guy is sending up "redflags" bigtime:smile:

MirrorMirror's photo
Mon 07/13/09 01:42 PM




:smile: One of the ways to catch someone is to get their number and talk to them, but then call them at an unexpected time and see who answers the phone.:smile: Darlin, I been on Mingle a long time and I have seen a lot of chit and know a lot of tricks:smile:


WELL.. about that.. he said after I get to know him, since he um lives far.. (uh huh, uh huh) I could stay at his house sometimes.. *cough* and then we could spend the whole weekend together.

scared

That for me could take forever.. But it doesnt SOUND YET like hes married, or whatever. But I know he could be.
:smile: That doesn't mean anything.:smile: That could just be a line to set your mind at ease and gain your trust:smile:


scared Will you come with me and hold my hand? sad



flowerforyou I am being serious now E.T.flowerforyou This guy is sending up redflags to me in a major way the more you tell us.flowerforyou

earthytaurus76's photo
Mon 07/13/09 01:42 PM
Edited by earthytaurus76 on Mon 07/13/09 02:06 PM
I was just thinking the whole time ya know..

Im a pretty good looking girl, alot of men would do their best to get me into a comfort zone, and do what I ask in order to please me, and not loose my interest..


It was a red flag that he wasnt really TRYING. Ya know?

they usually do.

chriswantstocuddle's photo
Mon 07/13/09 01:42 PM



So heres the situation.

I meet a guy online. I speak to him a little in emails. Over a days period.

He says, "lets get together". Im like "well, Id prefer to get to know you by speaking a bit on the phone first".


He calls.

We talk.. he says.. he really wants to get together and talk,.. says he doesnt like to waste time getting to know someone that way, in his experience, he has hit it off many times on the phone, and they end up not a match after meeeting in person, SOOOOO, he prefers to meet in person. (Im thinking, wouldnt he like more of a chance for me to judge him for who he is on the phone?

He says he just really wants to meet me.

Im thinking, "hm.. he doesnt seem to eager to please me ad make ME feel confortable."

WELLLLL... I think to myself.. ok, I would probably have coffee with someone I didnt know too well,... and.. ya gotta get to know people somehow sometime.. what if hes greattt...

so anyway.. i decide, ok.. " so I agree to meet him for coffee in a public place... but I AM SOOO NERVOUS!.

I am nervous because he is someone I dont know much at all.

ARGH! Im about to cancel this freaks me out.. What do you think?




honestly i think you should cancel it doesnt sound like a good situation.


Why not Chris? :smile:


well from my experience people who are that eager to meet generally dont have good things planned or are really unsure of themselves which leads to bad situations.... ive seen guys do that a lot and it has always turned out bad and ive had a few girls do that to me and...well they were kinda crazy (being introduced as their kids new father in 5 min of meeting them gives me that impression)

MirrorMirror's photo
Mon 07/13/09 01:43 PM


:smile: He may not want you to see the name on the caller ID because it may be a wife/GF phone:smile:


Well I saw his work number.
flowerforyou So what? flowerforyou He wont give you his home phone number.:smile: Something is up with that. :smile:

chriswantstocuddle's photo
Mon 07/13/09 01:43 PM



:smile: He may not want you to see the name on the caller ID because it may be a wife/GF phone:smile:


Well I saw his work number.
flowerforyou So what? flowerforyou He wont give you his home phone number.:smile: Something is up with that. :smile:


agreed

earthytaurus76's photo
Mon 07/13/09 01:43 PM
Yeah, heres another thing..

Im not going to bring up marraige or some crap.. why would he even MENTION the whole "stay at my house if we hit it off" thing?


scared

MirrorMirror's photo
Mon 07/13/09 01:44 PM

I was just thinking the whole time ya know..

Im a pretty good looking girl, alot of men would do their best to get me into a comfort zone, and do what I ask in order to please me, and not loose my interest..


It was a red flag that he want really TRYING. Ya know?

they usually do.
:smile: Then why won't he give you his home phone number?:smile:

chriswantstocuddle's photo
Mon 07/13/09 01:45 PM

Yeah, heres another thing..

Im not going to bring up marraige or some crap.. why would he even MENTION the whole "stay at my house if we hit it off" thing?


scared


he is sounding more desperate by the minuite.... id say stay away from guys like that.

MirrorMirror's photo
Mon 07/13/09 01:45 PM

Yeah, heres another thing..

Im not going to bring up marraige or some crap.. why would he even MENTION the whole "stay at my house if we hit it off" thing?


scared
:smile: He may have just been saying that, or perhaps his wife/GF would be out of town.:smile: Who knows why people say things sometimes:smile:

earthytaurus76's photo
Mon 07/13/09 01:45 PM



:smile: He may not want you to see the name on the caller ID because it may be a wife/GF phone:smile:


Well I saw his work number.
flowerforyou So what? flowerforyou He wont give you his home phone number.:smile: Something is up with that. :smile:


No hon, he gave it to me, I just didnt call, I changed my mind and emailed him with mine cos I was like.. "Im not gonna call a guy". lol

franshade's photo
Mon 07/13/09 01:46 PM
what happened to all the positive energy that was here a few ago laugh

earthytaurus76's photo
Mon 07/13/09 01:46 PM
Your helping me here with the pros and cons..