rape, the victimless crime

Like I said, you need to be the one that sets the terms of meeting. If you don't then you are setting yourself up for some bull.I have seen it dozens of times.Some of these guys do some stupid ****. If he won't even be enough of a gentleman to respect your wishes this early on then the chances are pretty good that he is an azzhole.

*lick*

Im feeling you... Im gonna chill, and go over all of the options presented in this meeting.

every time i have had that feeling in my gut that it was wrong, it was...the last dude i met here is married even though his profile says divorced...

looks like you have lots of great friends here that care about you..

I KNOW dont they RULE!! I am so blessed, I really am grateful.

I guess I'm dense. I don't really see a problem here. You already know the guy better than any of the other people who would be at the coffee shop. There's really nothing this guy could do that's any worse than what any of the untold hoards of strangers could do to you.

I say go for it. It's okay to fear, but to be scared is weak.

Well, the resistance to doing things the ladies way,especially at first, is ussually a sign of azzholeness.A real gentleman will pretty much do everything the way the lady wants at first.

Let us know if there was any touching

There have even been times when a girl went to meet a guy at a nice restaurant, and the dude turns out to not be the guy in his profile pics

I dunno, Earthy. He seems kinda shifty to me. Clearly not very flexible or easygoing. That's a red flag to me.

I won't agree to meet anyone until I have talked to them a few times and am absolutely convinced that we will have a blast together, even if it just ends up being as friends. That way I don't have any bad dates! But I'm kinda cautious...

Personally i would always advise everybody, men and women, to not meet anybody for a romantic date, unless you have verified they at least look like the person they purport to be.

You can buy a webcam for 10 dollars, nobody has an excuse to not have one.

Failing that, ask them to take a specific photo of themself that could not possibly have been faked or stolen.

Too many weirdos are out there. And apart from the weirdos there are the men that just wanna pork you. You should take measures to filter them out.

its not like hes trying to get you to meet him on the other side of a glory hole

Ok guys, here it is, the decision.



I prayed on it.


I took a shower, and thought about the feelings that realy fueled my feelings, and ideas about concern for this situation.. and this is what Ive come up with:


I didnt mention it, but

this is my real concern and reason.

I am a person whom you can probably tell from my posts rather grounded, and pride myself on having sense, thinking things through, and using my noodle.

There is NO WAY I can sit here, and pretend I have any sense if I get in the car with ANYONE I dont know.

As I have stated, I dont have my car right now.

I dont have a way to go with a friend.

Above all, I am a parent who works hard at teaching my son, and being responsible

I have not only responsibility to myself, but a little person, who depends on me for EVERYTHING, and looks up to me.

I would be absoloutely SELFISH to put myself in any situation that would endanger myself, or his wellbeing.

I would be a fool to risk my safety, or his, and getting hurt or killed, and have the reason be because I shirked my thoughts on the importance of meeting a total strabger for something stupid like coffee.

If this guy really likes me, or respects me.. he will do as I ask.

Its not my problem he insists hes a "safe" "reliable" guy.

I dont know whats in his head.

He could have resentments against women cos of a bad breakup, be desperate, lonely, or a psychopath killer.

WOW!! Im surprised I even considered doing this.. SO DANGEROUS!!!

I have a resonsibilty to my child, and myself, and theres no way I am going to jeopardize anything, for some guy, be it his insecurity about looks, or if Im nice, or if I like him.

Honestly, He should be kissing my *** if he wants me to get to know him anyway.

AH AH! NO GO!

Thanks everyone for your ideas, and input again. And understand, if your thinking about anything similar, think again. Its important.

(that means shes going)



at least remember to stash a pocketknife or something on yourself so you can get out of the duct tape in the trunk

yeah well we talked and he said the glory hole is cool with him..

shut up...

Good choice.



Yep.