Is it really the women who are convinced of perfection???
Men get to have beer bellies, gray hair, fart feely, and walk through the house with their junk in their hand.
Us girls have to keep our bodies fit, cover our gray as to look younger, go in the other room to fart and if were touching ourselves...
well we know you like that.
Still in this day and age women are expected to be a librarian and a stripper at the same time. Who is convinced of perfection and caught up in the illusion here??

Oh geez Mirror, you're gonna give me a big head! And it's hard enough finding a hat as is

who says, guys don't care if your gray, at least I don't, I find women themselve put that in their requirements for looking good, most guys I know could care less.

Where are these guys at?? I want one!

is the rumor over that girls don't fart?
Can we do that and still be a lady?

(WAVE)) HELLOOOOOOOO

oh hey, didn't see ya there.
My bad...

Uh huh. Guys get to have and do all that stuff. But while he's doing that stuff and looking like that....she's gonna be thinking of her " Prince Charming ". lol

By the way...SOME guys have manners. Some guys don't walk around playing with themselves.

I shave my head for two reasons...to NOT have gray hair, and because I simply didn't have enough left to get a decent haircut. lol

My belly...I have one because I like to cook and I like to eat what I cook. I don't drink.

As far as wanting a librarian/stripper....I'll take the librarian. At least she would be able to keep up a decent conversation. If she can do that, I don't give a damn if her hair is purple, much less gray.

LOL gray hair, wrinkles, and all the other stuff, no matter, it's the woman inside and the love she has that matters.

I believe that the illusion of love (romantic notions of grandeur) are so much better to feel than the real love itself. Real love constitutes of work, pain, forgiveness, happiness, trials, sharing...

Real love is pain and pleasure. What people love about illusionary love is that it is so Hollywood. They desire that foot raising kiss, that moonlit walk, that sweet melodic orchestra making a lover's soundtrack.

But it is not real.

true it's not, but "Real" love actually consists of Honor, commitment Caring and a touch of forgiveness of ones mistakes. not romantic movie stuff,

Funny what you said. I have raised 3 sons and yes, they pretty much are moving stuff around down there all the time.
At least the librarian can keep the books strait, aye.

You are probably asking the wrong crowd here...do any of us have a clue? We probably all had an illusion at one time and I'm guessing most of us figured out that reality can be a very different thing - thus our single status.

Hopefully we've figured out how to balance what we think we want with real human behavior - JUST in case any of us hook up beyond Mutual Match!

Both, I think. One can sustain the other when you're doing it right.

Real life love is messy and conflict-filled; sometimes our fantasy helps you get through the harder times. And face it, that "I would die for you" stuff is fantasy. It just keeps your feelings strong when they may otherwise be fading away.

Love without a little fantasy is going to be uninspired - the day you stop fantasizing about your lover is probably the day that it starts being over. But reality is always better than illusion, even if it's not as pretty. Laying in your lovers arms is a trillion times better than any fantasy could describe, when you're with someone really special.

So no, I wouldn't say the illusion of love is better. I think a lot of people just pursue the illusion too strongly, wanting something that perfectly fits what we're told that we should want. You may find a person who fits exactly what your fantasies have looked like and tell yourself that you're happy, and years later realize that you're really not.

Love is NOT an illusion but many people's idea of it is. Hopefully when real love comes along you can recognize it for what it is, even if it doesn't match your fantasy version of it.

love is great... until they get bored of the strapped down life and stiff you with a lease, take your dog, and start whoring it up around town that is.


im not jaded

The love you dream of can be amazing, but until you actually feel the reatlity of love, how can you be sure what you are dreaming is actually love?

I think it's too easy to fall into that trap, or as you put it the illusion of love. You talk, you meet...sparks, chemistry, BANG! Then reality starts setting in and it makes you wonder...

That's when you either put up or shut up with love...once that flash in the pan has burned out, what's left behind? Something deep and abiding or just burns?

I think its even. Its up to those in the relationship to make it that way though. Not always the easiest thing to do either.

Also compromise, sometimes putting the others needs or wants before your own, faith, sometimes blind faith. These and many much more are required for real love to endure through the many different times in our lives.

When it is real, love is better than fantasy. Best perhaps when real love includes room for fantasy.

I miss you Bob, Happy almost birthday.