I don't think it's about "needing" to see all of those things in order to "know" your guy isn't cheating on you. I think it's more that he doesn't mind you happening to see if you do.

As in, say, he's checking his email and you happen to walk in. If he's like, "Hey, Babe, I'm just checking my emails, what's up?" And you bring him a soda or something, and he doesn't care if you catch a glimpse of his email.

Now if he's like, "Oh, you're here! Uhhhhhh..." then closes his email and gets all freaky about it, that's a sign something is amiss! Now it could be a surprise he is planning, but a lot of it is in how he acts toward you about it.

Same things go for women. I have nothing to hide, so I wouldn't care if my boyfriend saw me typing up an email, even to a guy friend.

At the same time, I think privacy is needed and should be respected between the two of you. I wouldn't want my guy "pilfering" in my inbox, thinking I'm cheating on him or something. That would be weird.

My ex actually gave me his mingle password in case he forgot it, but I never went into his account. There was no need to.

Unfortunately, having someone do you wrong in the past can affect your future relationships. Some people can be manipulative and fool others quite well. And if that has happened to you, you tend to have some trust issues regarding it. But if that's something a couple knows about and faces and tackles early on, then I think it doesn't have to become an issue at all in the long run.

lol i only freak out when someone answers my phone if im waiting for a buisness call otherwise i dont care lol i normally ask my gf to hold it for me since she has the purse.

when he wont answer his phone in front of you,when He gets straight into the shower when he comes in these are two big red flags

You said you liked it when i was showered fresh

Thank you!

again...COULD be flags. but maybe he doesn't want to be rude and interupt the 2 of you or (like in Texas) it gets very hot here and I go take a shower first thing because I feel gross.

there is a bigger picture...yes they maybe cheating...but there also might be another explaination and I won't jump to conclusions

I think that would fall into the category where it's not something new to your behavior. That's something that was pointed out earlier is that it's a sign when it's a change in someones normal behavior...

Unless the b@stards been cheating on you from the start j/k

hahhahaha

i c you've done this b4....lol

The cell phone says a lot. Theres no way to hide another - when you are available 24hrs a day with the great invention of the cell phone. More sooner that later BOTH partners will begin to notice the others calls coming in. I think someone has the right to find out as soon as possible if they are being decieved cheated on. Unless you have a open relationship, being cheated on and spoon fed all the lies required - causes a lot of undue damage and hurt to its victims. People have a right to look out for themselves. Remember A truely sincere and honest guy has - "nothing to hide...

those that cheat are usually the first to accuse someone of cheating

they see cheating because they themselves are doing

and to justify their cheating

they assume that everyone cheats

Here are some warning signs that your spouse could be cheating on you.

* Your spouse seems bored. Bored with you, with job, with kids, with hobbies, with life in general.

* There is considerably less intimacy in your relationship. Your sex life is practically non-existent.

* You notice your spouse has a sense of confusion about self.

* You spouse has become lazy, especially around the house.

* You can't get your spouse to communicate with you.

* Your spouse gets very defensive if you mention infidelity or affairs.

* Your spouse is suddenly more attentive than usual.

* Your mate is working longer hours at work.

* Your spouse is dressing nicer, looking nicer.

* You notice charges on credit card statement that don't make sense.

* Your spouse is indifferent to family events like birthdays and holidays.

* You find your partner has been lying to you about a variety of things.

* Money becomes more of an issue between the two of you.

* He/she doesn't want to go anywhere or do anything with you anymore.

* You can't even get your mate to fight with you.

* You feel as if you are being avoided.

* Your partner abandons religious faith.

* Your spouse seems more secretive.

no eye contact when you talk is a good sign that theye are hiding something.......anything
also ask questions and look for tense muscle movement in the neck as its an involintary giveaway

I agree. I wouldn't like a man looking in my purse or wallet either.

See no prob, nothing to hide...

She stayed gone for two days, many pics of some guy on her lap top, and hundreds of long distant calls to south carolina. AND she drained the bank account. just brought up a few red flags.

I would say those are signs of cheating.

the others in this thread can have explanations other than cheating. they could be something to watch out for but they aren't signs he is cheating

just remember when someone is pointing a finger at you they have three more pointing back at them.

you really should change your name to Bright Side or Silverlining

lol...i just learned from experience to not jump to conclusions because they can backfire. I try to look at other angles of things as well because I don't like things biting me in the butt

I'm a rose....watch out for the thorns too