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Topic: Out of Race Relationship?
Phoenix0311's photo
Tue 05/15/07 07:40 AM
LMAO....My family's is very traditional and they never agreed on any of
my interacial relationships...oh well sucks to be themgrumble

I never let my family dictate my decision making especially when it
comes to relationships. I do listen to their advice. I figured if I
ever marry someone I'm the one who's going to live with that person not
them, so their thoughts in my relationships don't really matter as much
:heart:

MsTeddyBear2u's photo
Tue 05/15/07 07:43 AM
Would'nt bother me in the least-
If I'm the one dating them... my family is'nt dating them...:smile:

Alada's photo
Tue 05/15/07 08:00 AM
I come from a country where everybody is mixed. In my personal case, I
have afro-caribbean, spaniard, hindi, and native central american
indians (who all descend from the aztecs and mayas).

With the construction of the Panama Railroad and later the Panama Canal,
a great immigration of different races ensued, bringing a new race.
Chinese, Hindus, Spaniards, Germans, Afro-Caribeans. We are "Criollos"
which means "creole".

The fact is, we are just statistics. Once one starts labeling people, it
becomes an issue. I was never, ever, asked about my "race" until I moved
to the US. And I responded: "What do I look like to you?" Invariably,
the response would be "White/Caucasian". "Wrong". I am "hispanic". Which
really makes no sense, because there are Caucasian hispanics, and black
hispanics, and chinese hispanics, and hindi hispanics.

So race is being confused with nationality, or with the region where you
were born.

I believe "gender" should be enough. Like somebody mentioned before, we
all bleed red. Women go through the same pains whenin labor and it is no
different for a caucasian woman than for a chinese.

I don't think race is an issue. Geographical location at time of birth
is. See it yourselves. Many people born in the northern states feel
that folks born in the southern states are "hicks", or "rednecks", or
"racists". A member that posted in this forum before said it and even
apologized for being one.

I have no problem dating outside my race. Heck... what race? I am so
mixed I don't even go through the trouble of trying to explain it or
understand it. I do, however, have some issues regarding dating within
the same gender. I respect the choice, but I don't condone it, nor
explain it as an alternate "life style" to my children.

JMHO

flowerforyou

TxsGal3333's photo
Tue 05/15/07 08:11 AM
Myself, if I did date outside of my race. And my family disapproved of
whom I was with. I would expect them to deal with it. Your the one
dating them not your family. Familys should love each other with
unconitional love which no color value should be involved. If they can't
deal with the person you are or whom you are dating then they are being
narrow minded. No one can change how someone else sees things through
there eyes except that person. If they chose to not to see past the
color of ones skin. They will be missing out in life all the wonderful
people they could have met. Just because one person would not date
outside of there race there is no reason to judge others if they chose
to it is there life let them live it. And just be happy they let you
live yours without judgement. bigsmile

JaymeStephens84a0lc's photo
Tue 05/15/07 09:32 AM
I was lucky enough to be raised with the part of my family who isnt'
racist: my mother, and my Aunt Cathy raised me. I always saw my Aunt
Cathy dating men of all different races so to me its normal. I was
taught to see past skin. Sadly in the part of the country I am in now
its not so common for people to be raised that way. I hear people get
called derrogatory names all day long. I can never shut my mouth when I
hear it, it just sets me off. I never even knew that race was an issue
for anyone until I moved here. I grew up the first half of my life in
Illinois, in an area that was equally populated with several races and
nobody seemed to fight over it. At least not that I saw. I came here
and my own grandmother got mad at me for 'dating' a black boy when i was
12!! Not like I was gonna marry him...lol, I was 12!!

I have never cared what anyone thought about who I like or date. Its
ME, not them.

no photo
Tue 05/15/07 09:34 AM
hmm it really isn't their choice on whom i date.. that's my opinion

Abstrakt's photo
Tue 05/15/07 03:30 PM
your family is always going to disaprove of something or someone in your
life. If it makes you happy then do it...

taylorfan's photo
Tue 05/15/07 03:32 PM
on time i was in a race..but i twisted my ankle..dose that count??

Native_Grl39's photo
Tue 05/15/07 03:35 PM
Date him anyway and hope my family learned some tolerance!!!!!!

My family doesn't choose who I date!!!!!!!!


huh huh flowerforyou

bibby7's photo
Tue 05/15/07 03:40 PM
I am looking at my posts..And, I am ashamed..

I apologize to all whom I may offended!!

iRon's photo
Tue 05/15/07 03:50 PM
At this point my family would be happy if I dated out of my race, gender
or even out of my species. laugh laugh

They are of the thought, no one could be happy alone.


I have geven up telling them they are wrong .

AdventureBegins's photo
Tue 05/15/07 03:50 PM
Alada soon their will be so many like you that 'race' will have no
meaning.

A toast to you for you are the 'race' of the future.

wonder what we will discriminate agains then.

buttons's photo
Tue 05/15/07 03:59 PM
i offer to spank bibbylaugh laugh

NYCgirl's photo
Tue 05/15/07 04:38 PM
Im I late to answer here?

well any way....when love enters your heart, it is all about what makes
you happy not what everyone else thinks. flowerforyou flowerforyou

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