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LMAO....My family's is very traditional and they never agreed on any of
my interacial relationships...oh well sucks to be them I never let my family dictate my decision making especially when it comes to relationships. I do listen to their advice. I figured if I ever marry someone I'm the one who's going to live with that person not them, so their thoughts in my relationships don't really matter as much |
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Would'nt bother me in the least-
If I'm the one dating them... my family is'nt dating them... |
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I come from a country where everybody is mixed. In my personal case, I
have afro-caribbean, spaniard, hindi, and native central american indians (who all descend from the aztecs and mayas). With the construction of the Panama Railroad and later the Panama Canal, a great immigration of different races ensued, bringing a new race. Chinese, Hindus, Spaniards, Germans, Afro-Caribeans. We are "Criollos" which means "creole". The fact is, we are just statistics. Once one starts labeling people, it becomes an issue. I was never, ever, asked about my "race" until I moved to the US. And I responded: "What do I look like to you?" Invariably, the response would be "White/Caucasian". "Wrong". I am "hispanic". Which really makes no sense, because there are Caucasian hispanics, and black hispanics, and chinese hispanics, and hindi hispanics. So race is being confused with nationality, or with the region where you were born. I believe "gender" should be enough. Like somebody mentioned before, we all bleed red. Women go through the same pains whenin labor and it is no different for a caucasian woman than for a chinese. I don't think race is an issue. Geographical location at time of birth is. See it yourselves. Many people born in the northern states feel that folks born in the southern states are "hicks", or "rednecks", or "racists". A member that posted in this forum before said it and even apologized for being one. I have no problem dating outside my race. Heck... what race? I am so mixed I don't even go through the trouble of trying to explain it or understand it. I do, however, have some issues regarding dating within the same gender. I respect the choice, but I don't condone it, nor explain it as an alternate "life style" to my children. JMHO |
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Myself, if I did date outside of my race. And my family disapproved of
whom I was with. I would expect them to deal with it. Your the one dating them not your family. Familys should love each other with unconitional love which no color value should be involved. If they can't deal with the person you are or whom you are dating then they are being narrow minded. No one can change how someone else sees things through there eyes except that person. If they chose to not to see past the color of ones skin. They will be missing out in life all the wonderful people they could have met. Just because one person would not date outside of there race there is no reason to judge others if they chose to it is there life let them live it. And just be happy they let you live yours without judgement. |
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I was lucky enough to be raised with the part of my family who isnt'
racist: my mother, and my Aunt Cathy raised me. I always saw my Aunt Cathy dating men of all different races so to me its normal. I was taught to see past skin. Sadly in the part of the country I am in now its not so common for people to be raised that way. I hear people get called derrogatory names all day long. I can never shut my mouth when I hear it, it just sets me off. I never even knew that race was an issue for anyone until I moved here. I grew up the first half of my life in Illinois, in an area that was equally populated with several races and nobody seemed to fight over it. At least not that I saw. I came here and my own grandmother got mad at me for 'dating' a black boy when i was 12!! Not like I was gonna marry him...lol, I was 12!! I have never cared what anyone thought about who I like or date. Its ME, not them. |
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hmm it really isn't their choice on whom i date.. that's my opinion
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your family is always going to disaprove of something or someone in your
life. If it makes you happy then do it... |
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on time i was in a race..but i twisted my ankle..dose that count??
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Date him anyway and hope my family learned some tolerance!!!!!!
My family doesn't choose who I date!!!!!!!! |
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I am looking at my posts..And, I am ashamed..
I apologize to all whom I may offended!! |
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At this point my family would be happy if I dated out of my race, gender
or even out of my species. They are of the thought, no one could be happy alone. I have geven up telling them they are wrong . |
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Alada soon their will be so many like you that 'race' will have no
meaning. A toast to you for you are the 'race' of the future. wonder what we will discriminate agains then. |
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i offer to spank bibby
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Im I late to answer here?
well any way....when love enters your heart, it is all about what makes you happy not what everyone else thinks. |
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