The major qualities I look for are confidence, goal-minded, betters
himself, helps me better myself, supportive...etc
Although I have to admit I have to first be attracted to them and
appearance makes a difference. Not that you have to be a model Ken, but
not extremely overweight or ugly by my standards because that is what I
am attracted to. The last guy I dated was short, had a gut, and
smoked...his personality made him much more attractive, but got to admit
if he was extremely overweight I would not have gone out with him.

Hi Lady,

Wow, I am really sorry to hear that. I hate narrow minded bigots.
Maybe it's a good thing you found out what you did when you did, though,
before you married the guy and had to deal with an ignorant, bigoted
MIL.

Vent anytime, I do it, too, it helps me feel better when I'm feeling
down.

Best wishes from SheNerd :)

nyc, you dont look very heavy to me. in fact you look smokin hot.

is it narrow minded to know what you like? as a rule i dont date heavy
gals but there are exceptions.

awwww
rambill79, thank you!!

a great personality is the deal breaker...weight is just a thing...

Good morning everyone and Happy Mother's Day to all you lucky mothers
out there!
I'm still fairly new to this site, so I hope I will be forgiven for just
"jumping into the topic" like this!?
Due to personal experience, I can speak from both sides of the fence: A
few years back I got skeleton thin, because I was trying to find my
prince charming and thought I had to look like that, in order to get
him. Turns out that not one guy looked at me. Infact, they told me to
GAIN weight for they'd be afraid to touch me......such a disappointment!
And I made myself sick (physically and mentally) for the right
guy...WOW!!!
NOW, I gained weight because I quit smoking last year (better go on a
diet, rather than walking around with an oxygen tank someday!) and guys
look at me more now, then they did then.
Truth is, I think it depends on your inner happiness with yourself,
because that shines through and makes you noticeable to others. You
surely are a wonderful young woman and the right guy is out there for
you. LET HIM FIND YOU!!! Just be yourself! Love yourself, love life and
the "love of your life" will come along, when the time is right!!

Good luck and Best wishes

..... WHO SAID THAT?

...MUST HAVE BEEN AN IGNORANT GUY

LuvMeNice welcome and as long as you are happy, that it's all it
matters.

Thank you NYCgirl!

I am happy with myself now!
I would never hurt myself again, the way I did then, just to take that
"single" lable off. No man should ever be worth that high of a price
tag! Selfworth is more important.

Have a great day!

Guys are visually sensitive, That being said, I know lots of guys who
are very much into women who have your shape Pinky! I am not forgetting
that you are probably a wonderful girl and have lots to offer anyone who
becomes close to you!

woman are visually sensitive also

yah thats true nurse. we can thank hollywood for that one. who dont want
the smokin hottie of the opposite sex? well, my cousin for one,
actually. hes a chubby chaser.

who wants me?

hello joyce

hey newg

you're so cute

yah shes a hottie. wish i could message ya.... im just too damn old.

LOL joyce! sshhhhhh

hotie, rambill? why thanks!

oh i can message you

ok Im outta here

bye everyone
bye joyce

bye sweetie <newg>

When you find the man that looks past the outside...Then you have found
the one that can love you for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It only takes one and the others don't matter!!!!!!!!!