we need the 1960s "free love" attitude back. when did people get so uptight about sex between 2 consenting adults? be seeing you

they have to be adults

lack of confidence, fear of VD, hurt feelings, emotional involvement... you know, naturally occurring human notions.

sex makes people CRAZY. absolutely batty. zany to say the least.

nothing more over-rated than sex, and nothing more under-rated than a good bowel movement.

if you are doing something (like flirting) that you knowingly keep from your partner, it's wrong/cheating, and hurting the relationship.

If neither of you have a problem with it, it's not....



me? I would have a problem with 'real' flirting (not forum flirting)... I agree forum "flirting" is public stuff that you would likely run into at the office/work/bowling alley ect.. (and your relationship should be strong enough to endure this, as it's natural in the world....

No, but I wouldn't like it one bit.

Hmmmmmm, not sure really. I guess it depends on how far you take it and what your intentions are.

If I had real interest in someone I would save my flirtations for that person I don't think I'd have interest in someone who continued to flirt with others once I showed interest

Oh yeah

If my boyfriend were chatting up strange women, either in public or in private, online or in real life, I'd feel just as hurt as if he'd taken one to bed with him.

Now there are some couples on here that each have profiles and everyone flirts here....
Awhile back I would have said Yes. Now I am not so sure Flirting in the forum is ok...But I wouldn't want to flirt with a "taken" guy in e-mail. Then it's private...leaning back toward not OK.

IMHO If you are in a committed relationship you have no business hanging out in a single date site even if it is just chatting in forums about generic topics.

The distraction and temptation my not be more than you can handle most days but there are days in every relationship where a partner will get on your last nerve or not be "everything" you need. That is all the rope you need to hang even a good relationship.

It does nothing to build the faith and trust of the person who is investing their time and emotions in you in person to walk so close to the edge so you are cutting your own relationship short which doesn't make sense to me.

It may not be possible to avoid ever firestorm in a relationship but it is a whole lot easier to maintain your boundries if you maintain a safe zone around the things and people in your life that are important.

It also seems really unfair to the people who are on a date site trying to make a connection.

Cheating no... disrespectful yes. Its not exactly cheating but I wouldn't do it and would expect my partner not to. It can lead to distrust and actual cheating. I wouldn't be happy about it.

Agreed

I also think that most here know who the couples are. And know when a male in a couple is picking at a female in another couple, it's because they are all close friends. It's joking around, not flirting. I think there is a difference in the two and sometimes one could be mistaken for the other.

Agreed!

I agree with this statement also

That is too cute Red!

Haley, you can call me Connie

Hell no. People flirt at the grocery store, the office, at parties. What makes it any different to flirt online. It's innocent. Now if you order off the menu, that's a whole other story. Besides "flirt" is subjective.

My man never flirted at the office or the grocery or any place else for that matter. I don't think all people do that.