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Topic: Would you consider online flirting cheating?
galendgirl Joined Sun 07/06/08 Posts: 24728	Fri 05/15/09 10:17 PM
If you are in a serious relationship? Maybe so... I guess it depends on what you and your partner think flirting really is...what level of interaction online is. This is so far out of my paradigm range that it's hard to judge.

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Wed 05/27/09 07:41 PM
Be honest, don't "fluff" it up and say what you think people want to hear. Oh yeah If my boyfriend were chatting up strange women, either in public or in private, online or in real life, I'd feel just as hurt as if he'd taken one to bed with him. Paper... I almost always agree with what you have to say and I respect your views, but I don't think it's the same. I think chatting with people, as long as you leave it at that, maybe the occasional flirt, is a normal part of life. I think if I tried to make my bf feel as tho I would truly be hurt and consider it cheating just by him chatting with a female, it would show I don't trust him. That would run him off. And me too. I don't want him having a fit anytime I have a conversation with someone that happens to be male. Aww, you're so sweet jill i don't think it's necessarily wrong, or bad, for anyone to flirt online. all that i'm saying is that it isn't something i'd ever want to see robin do and that, if i did, i'd be really hurt. i guess it's just different for everyone, and i was just explaining my own stance on it, not making a general assumption about whether it should be classified as cheating, or not. and, i don't think anyone specified exactly what they consider flirting - there's flirting and then there's the extreme.

SharpShooter10 Joined Tue 11/20/07 Posts: 11271	Wed 05/27/09 08:27 PM Edited by SharpShooter10 on Wed 05/27/09 08:28 PM
depends on wether or not you are doing it on the sly or if your partner knows you are online. Depends on if it is innocent flirting or you are trying to get in someones pants or not, hell, a lot of depends there If it was a problem with my partner then I would stop but it's not, and I wont, I'm relentless

SharpShooter10 Joined Tue 11/20/07 Posts: 11271	Wed 05/27/09 08:34 PM Edited by SharpShooter10 on Wed 05/27/09 08:35 PM
Be honest, don't "fluff" it up and say what you think people want to hear. IF YOU ARE FLIRTING WITH YOURSELF ON LINE, THAN NO IT'S NOT CHEATING IF YOU ARE FLIRTING WITH SOMEONE ELSE, THEN YES IT IS, IF YOU HAVE SOMEONE IN YOUR LIFE THAT YOU LOVE, THEN WHY FLIRT?????? cause i'm a natural born flirter, plus, most of the people I flirt with in here know my partner anyway, not like there are any secrets plus women friends are better, who wants to hang with a bunch of hairy ugly smelly guys all the time

SharpShooter10 Joined Tue 11/20/07 Posts: 11271	Wed 05/27/09 08:38 PM
I think if you are in a committed relationship , you have no business flirting with others on a single site.It shows a lack of respect to your S.O. and yourself. By that I mean the person doing the flirting shows a callousness about his/her attitudes toward a committed relationship. So not in any form. is it acceptable to me. There are some here I kid around with, but I also now that I am not going to have a committed relationship with them. so what about all the friends you made till you met them, I myself love talking to the ladies I know on here. Key word flirt, not the other F word

SharpShooter10 Joined Tue 11/20/07 Posts: 11271	Wed 05/27/09 08:40 PM
I agree with you DD. I think the problem comes in when kidding around is mistaken for flirting. Hopefully the two are distinctly separate. I definately flirt, then again, it's like the old folks diapers, a lot of depends on this one

SharpShooter10 Joined Tue 11/20/07 Posts: 11271	Wed 05/27/09 08:42 PM Edited by SharpShooter10 on Wed 05/27/09 08:44 PM
i think a man may be brain dead if he wants a real girlfriend and continues to flirt online I agree... It's disrespectful and sets yourself up for possible failure... Why put yourself in that position? Little things matter too... The time you are spending flirting with another woman could be the time you could be spending making your relationship stronger.. If you are that f*cking board in your relationship that you need to get attention from the opposite sex online then that should tell you something about you and your relationship.. I would suppose this would not apply to all who are couples on here,,, because both parties are ok with it and see first hand what is being said.. Well at least in the forums that is?? If both people are ok with it in a relationship then I don't see a problem.. If one person is not then I see a problem... I have seen peoples marriages brake up over similar scenarios .. Putting yourself in certain situations can lead to more because you become comfortable and some how justify it in your mind that it's not a big deal or cheating... But progressively it can lead you to cheating... I'm not suggesting every case,,, but I would imagine more then not... I flirt relentlessly, c'mon, nothing on here is private,

directandwrite Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 6638	Wed 05/27/09 08:44 PM
I would say if you are with someone then yes....definitely....If I am not seeing anyone, sometimes I flirt and joke on the forums...but if I am seeing someone, I definitely won't do that...it's just kind of inappropriate I think...

SharpShooter10 Joined Tue 11/20/07 Posts: 11271	Wed 05/27/09 08:46 PM
Be honest, don't "fluff" it up and say what you think people want to hear. I don't think it is. Like I always say, you can window shop as long as you don't touch. like a fine rifle, might not be yours but don't hurt to check it out just don't dry fire it without permission

SharpShooter10 Joined Tue 11/20/07 Posts: 11271	Wed 05/27/09 08:47 PM
I would say if you are with someone then yes....definitely....If I am not seeing anyone, sometimes I flirt and joke on the forums...but if I am seeing someone, I definitely won't do that...it's just kind of inappropriate I think... your purple hair is sooooo sexy

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Wed 05/27/09 09:03 PM
IMO if the s/o is fine with it and the person being flirted with knows that's all it is and it's ok ewith them...so what?

SharpShooter10 Joined Tue 11/20/07 Posts: 11271	Wed 05/27/09 09:10 PM
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yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Wed 05/27/09 09:10 PM
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SharpShooter10 Joined Tue 11/20/07 Posts: 11271	Wed 05/27/09 09:11 PM
If I get out of line, trust me these ladies will put you in your place real quick

SharpShooter10 Joined Tue 11/20/07 Posts: 11271	Wed 05/27/09 09:11 PM
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SharpShooter10 Joined Tue 11/20/07 Posts: 11271	Wed 05/27/09 09:14 PM Edited by SharpShooter10 on Wed 05/27/09 09:16 PM
my s/o has my permission to flirt, talk, chat, have friends of either sex, I'm comfortable with our relationship and trust her completely as she does me, 'cause at the end of the day, when I go to bed, it is her that i'm with and snugglin' with we have both been married a couple of times, not our first rodeo. We know what we want and have

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Wed 05/27/09 09:15 PM
I have always been a flirt but I will also make it clear if I am with someone as well. the people that know mw know that it's all in fun.

SharpShooter10 Joined Tue 11/20/07 Posts: 11271	Wed 05/27/09 09:17 PM
I have always been a flirt but I will also make it clear if I am with someone as well. the people that know mw know that it's all in fun. very true, my profile clearly states my intentions (((((((((((( rose ))))))))))))))

SharpShooter10 Joined Tue 11/20/07 Posts: 11271	Wed 05/27/09 09:18 PM Edited by SharpShooter10 on Wed 05/27/09 09:22 PM
long as there is no deception in the flirting and you are honest with people, I don't think it is wrong.

Dan99 Joined Sat 08/23/08 Posts: 14941	Wed 05/27/09 09:19 PM
Flirting with anyone when you are taken is wrong, online or otherwise. Depends what you see as flirting though. I may JOKE with a woman in the forums, and it could be of a sexual nature, but its still a joke. Unless you intend to take any flirting to a new level, then i dont see any use or any point to it. Except maybe you like to have your ego stroked when they flirt back with you.