Really! You Can call me Connie Too!

Totally agree.. I've had a marriage ruined because he did this all the time.. plus planned on meeting them...

Yea sure we go back to and attitude that lead to people believeing that casual sex is the be all / end all of existence. Relationships last about as long as an instant coffee and you are a disposable commodity. So children concieved grow up parentless (more or less) and don't need their parents and after the flush of youth starts fadeing husbands and wives and parents seem less necessary. That works for awhile but as chronic headonism drains your credit and sometimes your health more traditional people don't feel like cleaning up your self made mess. Life is a give and take proposition and people who only take sooner or later end up begging for someone to take advantage of. Begging for someone to take care of them. Because they have not learned how to take care of themselves be ever holding up their end of a relationship.

"relationships last about as long as an instant coffee and you are a disposable commodity" ?????


I'm sorry if you have experienced that PS, but I certainly did not.

I thought we were just talking about flirting around on the forums....this is getting heavy......

Perhaps I read that incorrectly. I apologize if I did. I now think she meant the flirting person can cause all of that??

IF YOU ARE FLIRTING WITH YOURSELF ON LINE, THAN NO IT'S NOT CHEATING


IF YOU ARE FLIRTING WITH SOMEONE ELSE, THEN YES IT IS, IF YOU HAVE SOMEONE IN YOUR LIFE THAT YOU LOVE, THEN WHY FLIRT??????

...don't fluff it up? I'm reminded again of peccy in a baby blue tux and a mullet haircut at his prom. The answer is yes. Except in your case where both you and your wife are both on here flirting.

i think a man may be brain dead if he wants a real girlfriend and continues to flirt online

I think if you are in a committed relationship , you have no business flirting with others on a single site.It shows a lack of respect to your S.O. and yourself. By that I mean the person doing the flirting shows a callousness about his/her attitudes toward a committed relationship. So not in any form. is it acceptable to me. There are some here I kid around with, but I also now that I am not going to have a committed relationship with them.

I agree with you DD. I think the problem comes in when kidding around is mistaken for flirting. Hopefully the two are distinctly separate.

I flirt / kid around with people in the forums all the time, but it's just messin around and joking with people I talk to or see on here on a regular basis. But I keep it the forums... if my bf wants to read them, he's more than welcome to. I've got nothing to hide.
However, I don't invite people to email me, and even when they do, I make it CLEAR that I have a bf and only looking for friends. I even talk about him in the forums, so it's not like I'm hiding him in any way. I also have my instant messenger on here turned off, just avoid that altogether.

Paper... I almost always agree with what you have to say and I respect your views, but I don't think it's the same. I think chatting with people, as long as you leave it at that, maybe the occasional flirt, is a normal part of life. I think if I tried to make my bf feel as tho I would truly be hurt and consider it cheating just by him chatting with a female, it would show I don't trust him. That would run him off. And me too. I don't want him having a fit anytime I have a conversation with someone that happens to be male.

Aww, you're so sweet jill

i don't think it's necessarily wrong, or bad, for anyone to flirt online. all that i'm saying is that it isn't something i'd ever want to see robin do and that, if i did, i'd be really hurt.

i guess it's just different for everyone, and i was just explaining my own stance on it, not making a general assumption about whether it should be classified as cheating, or not. and, i don't think anyone specified exactly what they consider flirting - there's flirting and then there's the extreme.

I'm just all about trust. I have to be able to trust him when I'm not around in order for me to want to even stay with him. lol he drives a party bus full of drunk college kids... complete with a "stripper pole" on the weekends. Now if that's not giving him full trust, IDK what is. I'm sure at least a few times a night some cute lil drunk college chick is flirting with him. I don't let it bother me. I don't mind that they flirt with him, I know he's fine but I trust him until he gives me a reason not to.

there is a very fine line ive been cheated on and it started over the damn computer

me too. I've been cheated on and lied to more than my share of times. I'll never do it to anyone else.

I have real issues with it and make no bones about it. I find it downright disrespectful of both my feelings and our relationship. I have no issues with my s/o having other sex friends, but you talk to your friends, you joke with your friends, you don't flirt with your friends. When you start crossing that line it is all too easy to give someone else the impression that you aren't satisfied with your relationship and may be open for more than friendship. And it can all too easily lead to misunderstandings and hurt feelings, not just within the couple but for anyone else who might get their hopes up because of misleading behavior.

I agree... It's disrespectful and sets yourself up for possible failure... Why put yourself in that position? Little things matter too... The time you are spending flirting with another woman could be the time you could be spending making your relationship stronger..

If you are that f*cking board in your relationship that you need to get attention from the opposite sex online then that should tell you something about you and your relationship..
I would suppose this would not apply to all who are couples on here,,, because both parties are ok with it and see first hand what is being said.. Well at least in the forums that is??

If both people are ok with it in a relationship then I don't see a problem.. If one person is not then I see a problem... I have seen peoples marriages brake up over similar scenarios .. Putting yourself in certain situations can lead to more because you become comfortable and some how justify it in your mind that it's not a big deal or cheating... But progressively it can lead you to cheating...

I'm not suggesting every case,,, but I would imagine more then not...