wouldn't cheating imply a deception?

cheating would be deception and wrong

wouldn't cheating imply a deception?

Flirting with anyone when you are taken is wrong, online or otherwise.

Depends what you see as flirting though. I may JOKE with a woman in the forums, and it could be of a sexual nature, but its still a joke.

Unless you intend to take any flirting to a new level, then i dont see any use or any point to it. Except maybe you like to have your ego stroked when they flirt back with you.

Flirting with anyone when you are taken is wrong, online or otherwise.

Depends what you see as flirting though. I may JOKE with a woman in the forums, and it could be of a sexual nature, but its still a joke.

Unless you intend to take any flirting to a new level, then i dont see any use or any point to it. Except maybe you like to have your ego stroked when they flirt back with you.

cheating would be deception and wrong

For the most part...yes

IMHO If you are in a committed relationship you have no business hanging out in a single date site even if it is just chatting in forums about generic topics.

It also seems really unfair to the people who are on a date site trying to make a connection.

IMHO If you are in a committed relationship you have no business hanging out in a single date site even if it is just chatting in forums about generic topics.

It also seems really unfair to the people who are on a date site trying to make a connection.

naw i dont consider flirting a cheating because flirting is a natural reaction which sometimes we dont control. A purpose act is considered cheating.

People do not go to the hardware store to look for the most compatible person for them and take them home with them in the real world,.... If that were the case, we all would've gone home by now. We are all here simply to be social, and if a connection happens to spark between two people, and they make the decision to pursue it further, it's a bonus for them....but it should NOT be the sole reason for a site such as this, or any other like it. It's all in the mindset you have for this site when you join it....will you be swayed by the hype by thinking it's simply a "dating site", or will you look at the whole picture and intelligently realize that there can BE no "dates" without first socializing and making friendships? See, therein lies the difference, and too many people join a site like this with the wrong mindset.

I think it all depends on who you are flirting with and why. If you are flirting on the forums in public for fun with friends as a game, but you are emailing in private acknowledging that it is just a game and sharing the real world as friends, it is no different than going to a party and flirting with old friends (my friends love to flirt and have for many years).

Flirting with the intention of cheating is a whole different ballgame. To pretend there is a chance of something "happening" when there is none, or to make someone think a relationship is developing when you are in another relationship is just wrong. From what I have experienced, flirting in the forums is more of a way to create public jokes and have fun. The real flirting goes on behind closed e-mail doors.

Whether online or in real life, its all about INTENT.

Fair enough. I'll buy that. So, when I go to the hardware store, my INTENT is to buy a tool or some other item I need for work. IF ANYTHING ELSE should happen, it is considered a BONUS, and not part of the original INTENT.

The same applies here. People come here to talk and socialize, and if something happens between two people, it's a BONUS.

I agree.... but,

What about the attached woman or man that goes into a real life or online social situation with the "intent" of getting a "bonus" if one should naturally arise? I've known one or two people like that, sadly enough.

I agree.... but,

What about the attached woman or man that goes into a real life or online social situation with the "intent" of getting a "bonus" if one should naturally arise? I've known one or two people like that, sadly enough.