wouldn't cheating imply a deception?

someone asked me after looking at my profile if I was trying to start a harem

cheating would be deception and wrong

yeppers...that's what I thought too

there, I fixed my statement to be more clear

Dan, are you ever gonna get those buggers out of your nose and sexual joking or joking with another woman is a form of flirting, as are the compliments. guess everyone has a different perception of what they consider flirting.

not like cyber sex or something

BINGO! Smart quote!

Not necessarily. Hiya Tom how ya doing hon?

Agreed.

This seems to be just a bit off-topic, but I'm gonna address it anyway....

First of all, I've said many times before that this is simply a social website....period! People do not go to the hardware store to look for the most compatible person for them and take them home with them in the real world, and this place is no different. If that were the case, we all would've gone home by now. We are all here simply to be social, and if a connection happens to spark between two people, and they make the decision to pursue it further, it's a bonus for them....but it should NOT be the sole reason for a site such as this, or any other like it. It's all in the mindset you have for this site when you join it....will you be swayed by the hype by thinking it's simply a "dating site", or will you look at the whole picture and intelligently realize that there can BE no "dates" without first socializing and making friendships? See, therein lies the difference, and too many people join a site like this with the wrong mindset.

Secondly:



Why? Just because you're in a committed relationship, does that automatically disallow you from having friends anymore?



Again with the misdirected mentality of "date site". Once people figure out the difference, they'll get it.

I think it all depends on who you are flirting with and why. If you are flirting on the forums in public for fun with friends as a game, but you are emailing in private acknowledging that it is just a game and sharing the real world as friends, it is no different than going to a party and flirting with old friends (my friends love to flirt and have for many years).

Flirting with the intention of cheating is a whole different ballgame. To pretend there is a chance of something "happening" when there is none, or to make someone think a relationship is developing when you are in another relationship is just wrong. From what I have experienced, flirting in the forums is more of a way to create public jokes and have fun. The real flirting goes on behind closed e-mail doors.

naw i dont consider flirting a cheating because flirting is a natural reaction which sometimes we dont control. A purpose act is considered cheating.

aye

We don't control Flirting? Then who, pray tell, does???

And some folks socialize in the hardware store, grocery store, Church, park, beach, whathaveyou....in hopes of meeting a nice person to befriend, date, or score with. Whether online or in real life, its all about INTENT. People make out of situations what they will. Some are more opportunistic (in a predatory way) than others.

Well said.

Fair enough. I'll buy that. So, when I go to the hardware store, my INTENT is to buy a tool or some other item I need for work. IF ANYTHING ELSE should happen, it is considered a BONUS, and not part of the original INTENT.

The same applies here. People come here to talk and socialize, and if something happens between two people, it's a BONUS.

I agree.... but,

What about the attached woman or man that goes into a real life or online social situation with the "intent" of getting a "bonus" if one should naturally arise? I've known one or two people like that, sadly enough.

Now THAT is a horse of a different color!

and that is when it goes beyond flirting though

flirting isn't a bad thing...it can be a way to socialize and joke. the S/O would need to be ok with it or it could be disrespect.