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Topic: FWB Question
franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Thu 02/12/09 10:43 AM
oldsage - guess I am running on a local track today but to whom was your post responding to? Wasn't responding to anyone special. Way I took some of the previous thoughts, felt that if Lilth was going to be upfront, I would support her in it. What works for one, may not work for another. Does NOT mean it is wrong, for ANYONE. I totally agree, was just curious, and as I say best way to find out what someone means is to ask them.

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Thu 02/12/09 10:45 AM
Ask away, dear. Just that some can't handle the answer.

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Thu 02/12/09 10:51 AM
I can take it

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Thu 02/12/09 10:53 AM
I can take it Ohhh Fran. I bet you can! So he wants to borrow something from my friend... I texted him and said it was all set for him to pick it up Saturday. This requires us spending most of Saturday together and him meeting my BFF. His response to my text saying it was all set... "You're the best". Why? I didn't do anything but relay info..... So I asked why, he says, "Why not"? Sigh....

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Thu 02/12/09 10:56 AM
That was his way of saying thank you.

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Thu 02/12/09 10:59 AM
That was his way of saying thank you. Uh huh. That was the second "You're the best" texts this week. When I said why... he coulda said for setting that up, I appreciate it. Instead he deflected the question with a question. Isn't it terrible? A psychologist who is being guarded with someone who knows he is being guarded?

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Thu 02/12/09 11:01 AM
That was his way of saying thank you. Uh huh. That was the second "You're the best" texts this week. When I said why... he coulda said for setting that up, I appreciate it. Instead he deflected the question with a question. Isn't it terrible? A psychologist who is being guarded with someone who knows he is being guarded? *You rock!!!* not in the literal sense, because you are not a rock!!! but you rock!!! as in you are awesome!!!

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Thu 02/12/09 11:01 AM
Lots of intelligent people answer a question with a question. Who was it sdaid that, Socrates of Plato?

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Thu 02/12/09 11:01 AM
lilith, "you're the best."

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Thu 02/12/09 11:05 AM
It is why this is so bad. He knows I see what he is doing, but he is smart. I'm practicing my SHUDDUP mode, as that is my problem. But by entering SHUDDUP mode, I'm now overanalyzing everything as I can't bring it up. For if I bring it up, he will be forced to acknowledge his behavior and in a sense... give me power. Or at least see that I am right or observant or astute or whatever. At least, NOT DEAF!!! And this will make him run. If he was truly ready to share with me he would do it, but at the same time will he ever be ready to share with me? Does he trust his feeilngs? Does he think that he is not worthy of a relationship? That I deserve better? Does he want a relationship, just not with me and figure he will keep me around as the sex is hot? Now you know why I SHUDDUP!

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Thu 02/12/09 11:05 AM
lilith, "you're the best." Why?

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Thu 02/12/09 11:10 AM
Don't EXPECT, that leads to an attempt to control. Learn to ACCEPT, go with the flow. I learned that way the hard way. Cost me the most important thing in my life.

Citizen_Joe Joined Sat 04/12/08 Posts: 4036	Thu 02/12/09 11:10 AM
That was his way of saying thank you. Uh huh. That was the second "You're the best" texts this week. When I said why... he coulda said for setting that up, I appreciate it. Instead he deflected the question with a question. Isn't it terrible? A psychologist who is being guarded with someone who knows he is being guarded? Just to clarify a point, are you openly admitting that your IQ drops around the opposite sex too?

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Thu 02/12/09 11:12 AM
lilith, "you're the best." Why? cuz

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Thu 02/12/09 11:14 AM
That was his way of saying thank you. Uh huh. That was the second "You're the best" texts this week. When I said why... he coulda said for setting that up, I appreciate it. Instead he deflected the question with a question. Isn't it terrible? A psychologist who is being guarded with someone who knows he is being guarded? Just to clarify a point, are you openly admitting that your IQ drops around the opposite sex too? I am openly admitting my IQ changes to SQ!!

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Thu 02/12/09 11:21 AM
Don't EXPECT, that leads to an attempt to control. Learn to ACCEPT, go with the flow. I learned that way the hard way. Cost me the most important thing in my life. Oh yeah... that is against every fiber of my being but the very reason this thread exists! I'm TRYING!!!!

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Thu 02/12/09 01:51 PM
lilith, "you're the best." Why? Why? Because I like you! It is a term of endearment. See for example: http://www.wavsource.com/snds_2009-02-08_49488402743780/tv/honeymooners/greatest.wav

padams9098 Joined Tue 03/11/08 Posts: 2644	Thu 02/12/09 03:24 PM
I think there is 1 rule: Friend + Friend with benefits = friend you won't have for long.

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Fri 02/13/09 12:09 PM
Okay... I think he just figured out that tomorrow is Valentine's day.... I got a text a few hours ago saying he was not able to go shopping like he usually does on Friday mornings (he is from just outside Buffalo and was watching the plane crash coverage all morning)... so he wanted to know if we could just order a pizza!

chevylover1965 Joined Sat 09/29/07 Posts: 43370	Fri 02/13/09 12:22 PM
Rules: 1. Don't fall in love 2. No anal...unless shes into that what e said !