Right now, there is another thread where people are planning a "Welcome
Back" party for Mr. "eat a d**k" when he gets off his suspension.

What do you think would happen if it was YOU or I that repeatedly used
this kind of vulgar and abusive language?

And these are some of the same people that complain about the newbies
ruining the site.

Unbelievable. Hypocrites. But they think it's OK because he's their
"friend."

NOPE....It doesn't matter who it is...People as you say deserve to be
treated with respect...It doesn't matter who the rude or abusive person
is....We're adults here and it's not that hard to either talk decently
to someone or don't talk to them at all!!!!!!!!

you go native,,

Ehem....


Now stepping down off my soap-box!!!!!!!!!!

Lex, I really don't follow all threads. But from what I see in your last
post is just trying to start trouble. I really have no enemies on here.
I don't mind the "newbies" if that's what you want to call them. I do
see your point about remarking in a thread and getting no response
because you're not part of that crowd. I try to not call any certian
group as a "gang" so to speak. I never even heard of CS until they
mentioned it. I, myself am glad we are getting new "members", although I
am sure they are not new to forums. But I do see a personal attack
aginst spay here. I have posted in threads spay was in . I am sure if he
said something to offend you, he would apoligize. I really don't know
him and I do think I have been bashed somewhere down the line. I really
could care less what anybody said to me, and don't even remember. That
shows you how much depth I took in whatever was said to me. I really do
get tired of all these types of post. I say if ya can't post something
nice, don't post at all.

But who am I to say???

YOUR NERVES!! ROFLMAO!!!

Nerves -- he never apologized. I reported him. He was suspended
briefly. I was told that he would be banned permanently if he made one
more abusive remark. He made another abusive remark and got a week's
suspension, which he then managed to stretch into 30 days by trying to
sneak in with another identity. He is coming back.

Rules DON'T apply to this guy. I'm not trying to start trouble, I'm
just curious as to why it is he can gat away with anything and
everything. I'd like to know why I was told he would be banned
permanently and wasn't. There's a double standard here. Anyone else
would have been banned long before now.

Nerves, trust me I know Lex on more levles then anybody here. The last
thing he would EVER try to do is start trouble. That is just not in his
nature. But in all honestly I have to agree with him about Spay. How
come rules seem different for some people but not the others? Can you
explain that to me? I have been wondering about it for quite some time
myself. But have been keeping my mouth shut. So if you can give me a
logical explanation, then I will continue to keep my moth shut.

whisper, please give it a rest and you 2 lex
Im sure that all of us have made remarks that the other person did not
like, it does not have to be insulting for a person to feel insulted, so
we all have,
Im sure you remember the old days whisper? do you?
like I said, we all have hurt someones feelings at one time or another,
but this is enough already,

lex you stated your point and most of us agree with you
but taking it to another level, does not make one different then the
other!!

Nerves -- also, the point isn't so much what he said, as the fact that
it was a reply to the very first post I made on this site.

I mean, if the first thing you hear upon joining a site is "eat a d**k,"
what are you going to think about that site?

This is merely an element of a larger point, which is that some of the
people on the site are all too ready to point fingers at new people over
imaginary or insignificant problems, while simultaneously ignoring the
much more egregious behavior of their "friend." It's a double standard,
and I'd like an explanation. I even tried posting the question on a
thread about the guy, and I was totally ignored.

Come on, "friends" of Mr. "eat a d**k," please explain to me HOW that is
an appropriate comment to make to a newbie?

Needless to say, I won't be holding my breath....

Morena, of course I remember the old days. I mean my memory is bad but
not bad enough to not remember 5 months ago. You say nobody is different
but I ask you how are we all the same?

Morena, talk to me about it when you see me say something like "eat a
d**k" to a newbie. Which you will never see me do, by the way. Anyone
who knows me at all knows that is NOT how I treat others.

The question stands: How is it acceptable or in any way legitimate to
make that sort of comment to a newbie? I would REALLY like to see
someone make an attempt to justify this sort of thing.

read my post again whisper, never said we are all the same
just reminding you that we do the same but without the name calling, and
in the past you me and most of us have hurt others feelings, but if we
keep steering the sh!t, is gonna stink
2 wrongs don't make a right!!


good night

Lex my friend. First of all your post at all times have always come from
a very wise man. You have the knowledge of words and know how to use
them. The post you were refering too I remember it well and the post you
made in think it was Help not sure. But I read it as well and agreeded
with you completly. Myself wondering not only why it happen or the
reason for it. But why did several times things like that happen, it got
pushed to the back burner with certain ones and then others got banned
right off the bat. But Lex you can bring yourself down to that level and
try to figure out why. But you know as well as I do you will never be
able to fgure out the reason for it all. And by bringing it up sounding
more like an attack instead of a question. It has managed to get under
your skin and has started to eat away at you what is so bad about that
is it has brought your level of thinking down. And the sad thing about
that is you will never get the answer you are seeking. I respect your
way of thinking and the way you tend to handle situations. So at this
time please take a minute and reflect on this situation and how it has
been eating at you. I do agree no one should have to deal with that it
was uncalled for. Just think about it all is it really worth it all. At
times we must reflect on what happen in the past knowing we can not
change it but also not let it affect our future thoughts either.

Lex, the posts you refer to were often mine. I have a right to my
opinion, you have yours. My point was not to allow new people, but
rather new people need to make their acquaintances with the oldsters a
bit and learn how to take different personalities before they go
snitching to Van and Mike like snot nosed brats.
I know you won't see it this way, Lex, but you seem VERY, VERY
sensitive.....unable to allow things to roll off your back or to realize
and accept the fact that we don't all march to the beat of the same
drummer. Buck up, man! Get some confidence! Don't personalize
everything. Try handling some of the issues w/out tattling. Whisper, you
know, I can't even count the number of times you have posted "I'm
leaving the site"....because someone hurt your feelings....I am not
bashing either of you....I am stating fact....whiper, you have a
tendency to seek attention frequently and I have spoken to you about
working on your self-confidence. You need to buck up a bit,too, before
you jump into a situation that is going to send you to the brink of
self-destruction.
Please know this post, Lex, is the perfect example of what I have been
posting in reference to. Thin skin. Don't know how to accept different
personalities. Spay would appologize to you if he hurt your feelings.
However, you may not have sounded too sensitive about the person you had
questions about. Was she one of Spays friends? I didn't see the post,
but sometimes you need to look beyond yourself to see the whole picture.
I don't whine. I don't like listening to whining and I have no respect
for tattletales. That is the main point to my posts. Why should we have
to tip-two around herejust because SOME of the NEWER folks are
"sensitive". You all live and let live, quit narking, and I'll be my
same sweet self again. Peace.

OOOPPPPSSS!! CORRECTION: MY POINT WAS NOT TO DISALLOW NEW
PEOPLE.........

Ya' all, PLEASE. You're getting way too emotional with the 'ole
computer. If we were in the same room, then OK; let's duke it out; but
here in a virtual world, with people we think we know but don't?? Come
on!

omg i don' tiptoe don't expect it from others it is a fricken dating
site.......


not a support group for depression!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!









ugh pulling out my hair........

brushing tulips hair ever so gently

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