Get a paternity test.

If you don't want to get pregnant, use condoms, abstain or masturbate.

A paternity test will answer the question

best of luck though.

May you have a healthy, happy baby.

Sorry you are scared. You have every right to be. Consequences can be a real Biotch when you are a pregnant teenager.

Reading your profile and your posts it wouldn't appear that you do NOT have the mind set to be prepared to be a parent. Or that your mother is going to be able to be much help. I can't expect you to learn what you don't live.

Not a big fan of adoption I still would not rule that option out given the thumbnail observation of your situation. If the child is born healthy and has no major strikes against his placement you would be giving your child a lot better chance at life and yourself.

I don't know exactly what you are scared of but if it is delivery then that is normal. If you are eating right, exerciseing, stay sober you should have a fairly normal delivery. Yea it hurts but you you forget the pain eventually even when it is a difficult birth if you are like most women and me.

I think that you have stayed in school is a VERY GOOD THING and I commend you for that. Get as much out of it as possible because you are going to need employable skills or you will live a life of poverty and so will your child.

If you read the parenting thread you will find you are not alone. One of my greatest resources raiseing my family was peer support. I strongly suggest you find a single parent's group and network.

I wish you well and will pray for you. If you have specific questions you are welcome to email. If I don't know the answer I am usually pretty good at finding a resource.

Yes I agree. Adoption is the best option at this point.

not for me, i'm a strong person, this is something handed to me because of my own doing.

Much improved in the attitude department. Good luck with your labor of love.

Well that is your own choice to carry this baby to term and keep him or her. If that is your final decision, I would still recommend that paternity test so you can get child support out of this guy. He needs to step up to the plate and it sounds like he is going to high tail it if he hasn’t already.

Best advice for you is after the baby is born call your local DA's office about child support list him as the Dad if he disputes it they will make him take a DNA test if in fact it is his he will have to pay for the DNA test and child support will be established.

Good luck with what ever you do but as far as him would wash my hands of him and do the above.

Sorry to say if in fact this is not what you do then I can't blame him for saying it is not his for to him that just proves to him your not sure. JMO

Yes excellent advice.

i got a good one. when i found out i was pg with my daughter. he denied she was his for his mom stated that he had the mumps when he was little so he was aparently starle... yea ok well we did the blood test and it was 99.31% so he wasent starle. he just didnt want to pay anything.. and she looked idenical to him... my daughter is now 25yrs. and she doesnt really claim him as her dad for he was really never there... i have a friend that met her husband while she was pg. and he claimed her 1st and 2nd child as his. now thats one awsome guy

I was pregnant with my first child at 18. She is now a beautiful 15 yr. old. I don't regret a day my decision to raise my child. HOWEVER, that is my story and yours may be different. First, cut yourself some slack in the fear department. That is totally normal regardless of your situation. Every Mom experiences this feeling and as you are in your last trimester your body is not your own. Lots of weird feelings both physical and mental come into play at this stage. IF you choose to raise your baby I will tell you it is hard but so very worth it. It can be done. After my daughter was born I still struggled with fears. Do your best and above all love your little one as they are a precious gift.

Now, for the Dad part. This is a hard choice. You need to weigh the child's need for a TRUE Father against what he is actually like. In my cousin's case, her husband filed for divorce the day he found out she was pregnant and accused her of having an affair. Totally not true. He was cruel and abusive after that. The divorce was final before her baby was born so she never put his name on the birth certificate. She felt the need for child support was not worth him being apart of her child's life. She has struggled but they have made it and to this day does not regret her choice.

Only you know the truth of this situation and only you can decide. Just be honest with yourself and make sure your motives aren't out of anger, or revenge. Believe in yourself and find a good friend or family member that will be there for you. Don't be afraid to ask for help. That was a very hard lesson for me.

Hang in there Sweetie! I'm pulling for you!

Sadly, you cannot force someone to be a good parent, emotionally or financially. You can go after them for child support but then that makes YOU dependant on THEM for support they can mess around with on a whim. Best advice I can give you is to get it through your head and heart that you will be doing this on your own, with no help and support from him. He may come around (many men do once the child is born) and then you can be thankful for any help and support he gives. But, in order to truly stand on your own, don't depend on it. And, don't, for the love of all that's holy in this world, use your child as a weapon or do anything to sabotage the child's potential relationship with it's father. You need to be the better person and give your child an example to live up to.

I wish you well. It's not easy but millions of women do it every day and it's well worth it.

Well it is a hard thing to deal with. The situation that I am dealing with is sort of the same...my wife or ex what ever she decides got preg by another guy while we were still together and I am ok with it. The father of the child had told her that he wants nothing to do with her because she is still with me. I have told her that even though that this child isnt mine I will still love and take care of it. I have 4 kids with her and all of them are mine. I feel that being a father to my children is the most inportant thing that I can do. Now even though I am planning on being there for all of them she wants nothing to do with me....so that is sort of the other side if it helps at all. There are a few guys out there that are willing to be a father and are able to care for the child like their own so just keep your head up and no matter what you will always find the happiness that you so seek and desire. Just remember that you are looking for not only you but also for you child to be happy so look long and hard and look with your heart and that will give you the direction that you soo seek and deserive hun.