Well it is a hard thing to deal with. The situation that I am dealing with is sort of the same...my wife or ex what ever she decides got preg by another guy while we were still together and I am ok with it. The father of the child had told her that he wants nothing to do with her because she is still with me. I have told her that even though that this child isnt mine I will still love and take care of it. I have 4 kids with her and all of them are mine. I feel that being a father to my children is the most inportant thing that I can do. Now even though I am planning on being there for all of them she wants nothing to do with me....so that is sort of the other side if it helps at all. There are a few guys out there that are willing to be a father and are able to care for the child like their own so just keep your head up and no matter what you will always find the happiness that you so seek and desire. Just remember that you are looking for not only you but also for you child to be happy so look long and hard and look with your heart and that will give you the direction that you soo seek and deserive hun.

I would go with Fast Car by Tracy Chapman it is all about the struggles of starting off in life