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i do have family, really thats ALL i need.
and my relations with him, civil or any other way is cut off. i backed down and said my peace to him in a civil way. and now i am on my way to better things. |
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This is why you should always have a jimmy................I dont think girls or women seem to think things through in the heat of the moment but come on we have to these days...............men will play these games on you when all they wanted to do was fukc you so please........please lets stop being delusional so this epidemic of pregnancies can end and lets give our girls enough common sense and self esteem to be a better judge of character.................. 
yeah thats big help |
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dont take the poor bastard onto a show like that, ull just be doing more damage to ur relationship with him == thats LOW CLASS If he is the father than their relationship is important to be civil for the childs sake. IMO |
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dont take the poor bastard onto a show like that, ull just be doing more damage to ur relationship with him == thats LOW CLASS If he is the father than their relationship is important to be civil for the childs sake. IMO |
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that is a bonus but what makes me think he'll give me child support? yeah the goverment will go after him, but my mom is going through the same bull**** with my dad. my dad only pays maybe 20$ a month at the most, sometimes he doesn't pay at all. What makes me think that he will? They'll garnish his wages and he won't get his income tax and more. If that's what your Dad is doing, he's behind in payments. He will eventually be paying it all. |
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This is why you should always have a jimmy................I dont think girls or women seem to think things through in the heat of the moment but come on we have to these days...............men will play these games on you when all they wanted to do was fukc you so please........please lets stop being delusional so this epidemic of pregnancies can end and lets give our girls enough common sense and self esteem to be a better judge of character..................
yeah thats big help I know the truth hurts but think of it the next time...........and give insight to your child.............you are young you will fall into this trap again if your not careful.............you should be glad that he only got you pregnant what if he gave you and STD thats wasnt curable........... |
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yeah my dad owes my mom over 2,000$ for over the course of four years or so.
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This is why you should always have a jimmy................I dont think girls or women seem to think things through in the heat of the moment but come on we have to these days...............men will play these games on you when all they wanted to do was fukc you so please........please lets stop being delusional so this epidemic of pregnancies can end and lets give our girls enough common sense and self esteem to be a better judge of character..................
yeah thats big help I know the truth hurts but think of it the next time...........and give insight to your child.............you are young you will fall into this trap again if your not careful.............you should be glad that he only got you pregnant what if he gave you and STD thats wasnt curable........... yeah, good point, thank you. |
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yeah my dad owes my mom over 2,000$ for over the course of four years or so. It doesn't go away. He'll be paying it for a while. Maybe even when you're 30. |
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Edited by
Jess642
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Fri 01/23/09 12:54 PM
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What you have right now, is you... and the imminent birth of your child.
Whomever the biological father is, is of no consequence to you or the child right now. You have better things to do with your time than buy into someone's dramas.... look after you... and focus on the role ahead of you... as the mother of a little person who will need ALL of your focus. Show the ex the door.... and close it firmly behind him... you don't have time for someone elses fragile game playing. 
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What you have right now, is you... and the imminent birth of your child. Whomever the biological father is, is of no consequence to you or the child right now. You have better things to do with your time than buy into someone's dramas.... look after you... and focus on the role ahead of you... as the mother of a little person who will need ALL of your focus. Show the ex the door.... and close it firmly behind him... you don't have time for someone elses fragile game playing.
 thank you
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well ok..settle for alimony in all its unfulfillment then
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we'll see what happens.
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Edited by
dbh1966
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Fri 01/23/09 01:06 PM
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I in no means support a dead beat father. I do believe people fall under hard times, problems, trials, addictions, apathy, in their life. Close the door but if he pulls together some wisdom, care and concern for his child then open it back up for a time for your childs sake of having a father. One day your child will ask who his/her father is. Its easier to be cordial
Best of luck Lfer 
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thank you
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The man can earn the right to be a participant in the child's life.... too many men and women use their egos and own agendas as weapons with the child the innocent victim in the crossfire.
Prioritise... and of course allow the biological father access to supporting his child financially and emotionally.. Sperm and ovum do NOT make a parent... you can be a biological father or mother... it doesn't make you a dad or mum... remember... kids spell LOVE........... T.I.M.E. |
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well jesus i'm sorry if i'm whats called SCARED. You don't want to know what I was thinking about your first post. As for this one, well. I hear you. I sincerely hope at some point you see the gift in all of this. If you don't, you probably wont keep the child, and he or she will become someone else's gift. |
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Depending on what kind of guy he is he might come around..
Believe it or not, guys get scared too, except for me of course.. Anyways, he could just be scared of having a child and the only way he knows to deal with it is by lashing out and embracing denial. Some guys come around and some don't though, there is no way to tell how he will be effected when he sees the child. I know I was scared at first and didn't know what to do. Then one day I was talking in some chatroom on IRC and some guy simply told me to stop being a ***** and do what's right. Everybody has their turning point. That was mine. That day I started my paperwork to join the military. Chasing him down for child support though would honestly just be a waste of your time. All that really matters is having family to help you through it and you loving your new child. In the end the child matters most. Trying to force someone who is scarred into doing something usually ends bad. He will have his turning point, the only question that can't be answered is when. |
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Depending on what kind of guy he is he might come around.. Believe it or not, guys get scared too, except for me of course.. Anyways, he could just be scared of having a child and the only way he knows to deal with it is by lashing out and embracing denial. Some guys come around and some don't though, there is no way to tell how he will be effected when he sees the child. I know I was scared at first and didn't know what to do. Then one day I was talking in some chatroom on IRC and some guy simply told me to stop being a ***** and do what's right. Everybody has their turning point. That was mine. That day I started my paperwork to join the military. Chasing him down for child support though would honestly just be a waste of your time. All that really matters is having family to help you through it and you loving your new child. In the end the child matters most. Trying to force someone who is scarred into doing something usually ends bad. He will have his turning point, the only question that can't be answered is when. thank you!
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A lot of us have made horrible mistakes and gotten involved with the wrong people. I've made an industry out of it myself. But you can't let that destroy your future. Accept the fact that there are going to be people who simply aren't worth wasting your time on, and move on with your life. There are other issues to deal with....
And I wish you the best.... |
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