Question for all the ladies on here. What is the line between "married" and "separated" for you? I've seen some women respond that "separated" means "still married". Others don't care either way. (hmmm?) In my case, I am separated and waiting for the courts to finalize the divorce. I'm ready to move on and start looking for another relationship, but appear to be hampered by telling the truth and stating that I am "separated".

Am I better off waiting until the divorce is final and I can state categorically "divorced?"

If anyone wants more specifics to provide a better answer, please email my profile.

Thanks.

Seperated is still married

Even though I know that there is no chance of reconciliation? and that the only reason that the divorce isn't final is because I chose to delay filing in order to cover my soon-to-be-ex for medical until she finished school and could get on her own two feet?

If that's the case, why have a category on dating sites for "separated?"

Separated is still married in my eyes.

well in this world today all these lines are blurred. If you are a spritual person then obey your rules. but as for all the other court stuff what does it matter? i think its no big deal myself, until you have choosen some one you want to marry.

still married. but it costs to get papers done and he wont talk to me or let me over to get my stuff. but agreed by my family-ive moved on and date. some see it as a bad thing and im a bad person. buy i dont.

Separated is fine to put on your profile, as long as you take the time to explain your situation. The tricky part here is to make sure that YOU are ready for a new woman. You may think so right now, but if you're not sure, keep in mind how a new lady might react....umm..speaking from experience - I've met a separated guy, and trust me, you can be all over the place, seeing as how you're in a confusing place right now. Just make sure you're on the same page. Good luck!

it is a matter of level of commitment to the relationship
other than that it is a piece of paper

but it takes a leap of faith
there is no sure way to know
until you know
you know?

Technically Separated is still married and it's a big deterrent for a lot of woman. To many men before you burned them with deciding to go back and reconcile the marriage or so on. Throw on top of that if you aren't even legally divorced yet who wants to be the first "rebound" relationship.


It's better to be honest about the marital status and even though it's just a technicality at this point, it won't stop you from making friends and getting to know people on here. Just may slow things down on the jumping right into a relationship.

then again-we all know its hard to tell who tells the truth or not. or is that just me?!

To me it's still married. And since I have old school thinking, in a way I can see it as cheating as well. I know that's a bit of a stretch. However, there's nothing wrong with making friends that just so happen to start dating as soon as the divorce is final!

If it matters, the catalyst for asking is that I recently received an email from someone I had been talking with on a dating site, that noticed after several exchanges of emails, that my profile said "separated." She informed me that she didn't date "married guys."

Since I didn't hide the fact, I was a little surprised.

Unfortunately, despite this being online, you will discover that most people....do not read the actual profile

So it it about a piece of paper or the intent?

How can it be cheating if we don't live together anymore and have no intent of ever living together again?

its done you know it, thats all anyone should need to know

i see that more lately too.

Seperated is MARRIED! I would wait until I was divorced if I was in your shoes.

separated means that your ex will probably be the primary topic of conversation over an unromantic dinner with a new date.....eek

This is what I would see as still married, with baggage. I don't see it as you being a bad person, but the ex lingering around is the real thing. You have the right to contact the police and remove your stuff, fwiw.

If the intent is what counts & not the paper,then why did you get married in the first place?

I am an atheist & do not believe in marriage myself, yet I respect the marriage contract.