Well if this is the only lie he has ever told this would be his second chance and there would not be another period. For me I think for a white lie or a really dumb lie. I give another chance usually since I have also said little white lies where I was trying to be nice and not brutally honest with someone. So therefore I try to be a bit more forgiving since most people do them without thinking and then it is a mess.

Hey there yourself I just noticed. Eagle River you are right up here you are a neighbor even though you are a 1,000 miles away. How is your weather we are in about a foot of slushy crap that 4 wheel drive only...

do I smell a cat fight? meeoww!

damn I need some popcorn

Meh.

agreed. no one is perfect. myself included. (shock the world!)
I don't know him well enough to determine if I really like him.
I look forward to the conversation.
he makes me laugh.
we have spoken maybe 4 times...?
but I don't need to worry about what lie might come next.
I don't deserve it.
personally, I would rather disappoint than deceive.
if I am willing to make that kind of effort, can I not ask for the same in return?

I would be EXTREMELY cautious

may I ask why you have not posed this same question to Sitka as she is also in Alaska?
Or is that who you intended it for?
to answer your question, rude as it may be, the 10 to 1 theory was very accurate in the 80's
and might still reign true in some remote areas where jobs center around physical labor
but not so much for more populated areas, such as where I live.
the people here know me.
and they know I'm not a man posing as a woman.
you can get to know me too
but if you would, please refrain from calling me out on authenticity in the forums
as it a violation of the forum rules
and will likely get you suspended
which would be overall bad for our potential friendship.

Oh boy I will answer these questions for you.. You sure aren't going to like my answers but since I have lived up here for almost 20 years this time around I feel qualified.

I love how this stat goes up in number. A year ago I was asked this question and it was 10 to 1 ratio. Wow a lot of women have left Alaska in the last 18 months. Funny I didn't get that memo. Why are you on here since you are from a city that has roughly 3,000 people for every square mile. My little old Alaskan mind can't even wrap around that many people crammed together anywhere sorry..


Wow where did all this angst come from. I am sorry you felt you had to come in here and bash a fellow alaskan. I think each one of us has our own defects. I have a saying no one walks on water unless it is frozen then look out for over flow because you will eventually get wet.


I think we are all on the site for our own reasons.

sorry Everyone stating my opinion. I also think Day...that the decision of whether to give this guy another chance is up to you and only you.

If they're lying to you about anything right away, it's probably not a great sign.

Umm, that seems to me to be a direct and somewhat pointless lie. I would not hesitate to distance myself.

But I pride myself on being direct and honest, which means in many ways I do not sell myself the way I could . . . fine by me, if and when I find that someone I will know its because they value that over any imperfections.

Good way to put it. I agree I would rather disappoint then deceive, hope you don't mind my shamelessly stealing that line!

Can either one of you in Alaska see Russia from your house?

good thing you're standing up! badumbum.

This isn't just a 'little white lie'.
Those are things we tell children to spare thier feelings when knowing the truth would serve no purpose.

This is someone who not only lies, but is obviously comfortable and well practiced with lying. Not only does he lie to you about just joining myspace, but he also embellishes his un-truth by talking about having his first 'friend request' etc.

And BTW, you look amazing. I'd think all you'd need to do is let it be known you are 'available' and you'd have a different guy to date for each day of the week.

I think google earth would be your friend.She is interior north of Anchorage I am south in the Panhandle all the little islands.

I don't get all this... its a lie he easliy could of told the truth he chose not to... so the other part is should you forgive and forget? no way... a lie is a lie its an attempt to decieve and he got caught simple fact.. makes him dumber then a box of cat liter.. all I can say is that I would never let it slide with a woman.. it shows dishonesty and the willingness to try and be a "player" again I say run and as fast as you can....

Little confused by the lie he tried to tell and the motivation behind it. I would assume he didn't want to come off as he was surfing the internet for females over a year ago while playing that he was "new" to this. Would talk to him and give him a chance to "explain" himself.

Don't really call this a white lie, since i consider white lies things only told to childern to spare them hurt/anger till they are old enough to deal with such things.

Would call it a DUMB lie.. thus a reflection on his character. In the end balls in your court- continue to play or walk away.. i would take my ball and go home. This is more based on you havn't invested to much into him at this point. No point wasting more of your life wondering why a person can't be honest to you.

Off with their head !

Oh and for the dipstick with the 10:1 guy/girl ratio thing... Aussie was 7:1 girl/guy and still a ton of single guys there.

If you have 10 rotten apples does that mean you have to eat one of them?

Liars assume they are more clever than the person they are lying to and regardless of how big or small the lie is he already thinks he's got one up on you.

I say call him out on it and see what he says. If he is humble enough to admit he was being coy and trying to make you think he signed up for you then maybe he's not such a doucher. If he can't even admit it once he's been called out on it then he's a supreme doucher and does not deserve a second chance!

didn't mean to step on any toes with my joke. Still, maybe Sarah can you use a few life lines in the 2012 debates.

If they gotta lie they are no good!