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Can either one of you in Alaska see Russia from your house?  
I think google earth would be your friend.She is interior north of Anchorage I am south in the Panhandle all the little islands.  didn't mean to step on any toes with my joke. Still, maybe Sarah can you use a few life lines in the 2012 debates.
"Say it ani't so, Joe" wasn't classic enough? Yeah born in Alaska so i can talk
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OK, my first response is to be a hard ass about it, and join the crowd by saying "Sure, one lie now means twenty down the line". But, I suppose it really gets down to the nature of the lie, and what motivated it to be there in the first place. Was it embarrassment about something ? Being fragile of ego isn't an excuse, but it is understandable. Was it to hide something about themselves that is incriminating in some way ? Stupid, but understandable. Was it to make themselves seem more ... 'impressive' than perhaps they really are ? Dumb. But understandable. Since you specified it as a White Lie, I would say let it go, but remember the circumstance for future referrence so that if it happens again, you know what to do.
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Little confused by the lie he tried to tell and the motivation behind it. I would assume he didn't want to come off as he was surfing the internet for females over a year ago while playing that he was "new" to this. Would talk to him and give him a chance to "explain" himself. Don't really call this a white lie, since i consider white lies things only told to childern to spare them hurt/anger till they are old enough to deal with such things. Would call it a DUMB lie.. thus a reflection on his character. In the end balls in your court- continue to play or walk away.. i would take my ball and go home. This is more based on you havn't invested to much into him at this point. No point wasting more of your life wondering why a person can't be honest to you. that's the thing. he had not said that he was new to internet dating. his lie lacks necessity. except that it is a lie. which gives the appearance that it was necessary for some reason that I am not privy to. I'm just not going to call him. at this point he would know why. |
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Liars assume they are more clever than the person they are lying to and regardless of how big or small the lie is he already thinks he's got one up on you. I say call him out on it and see what he says. If he is humble enough to admit he was being coy and trying to make you think he signed up for you then maybe he's not such a doucher. If he can't even admit it once he's been called out on it then he's a supreme doucher and does not deserve a second chance! The more I think about this the more it just doesn't make sense to lie about this, either he is a pathological lier, or it could be pretty innocent. I thought maybe he forgot he had an account there, maybe it has been inactive, he created a new account not remembering he had an old account, then once he had the new account and started going through the process of setting it up he realized he had done this before and remembered he had an old account and recovered it shortly after. If this is true it could be that he just didnt feel like explaining it all not thinking it would matter. But If you do confront him, let him do the explaining don't feed him a reason. |
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so say someone you met here tells you a little fib for no good reason. do you forgive their lapse in judgment or assume this is their nature? Off with their head ! 
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Little confused by the lie he tried to tell and the motivation behind it. I would assume he didn't want to come off as he was surfing the internet for females over a year ago while playing that he was "new" to this. Would talk to him and give him a chance to "explain" himself. Don't really call this a white lie, since i consider white lies things only told to childern to spare them hurt/anger till they are old enough to deal with such things. Would call it a DUMB lie.. thus a reflection on his character. In the end balls in your court- continue to play or walk away.. i would take my ball and go home. This is more based on you havn't invested to much into him at this point. No point wasting more of your life wondering why a person can't be honest to you. that's the thing. he had not said that he was new to internet dating. his lie lacks necessity. except that it is a lie. which gives the appearance that it was necessary for some reason that I am not privy to. I'm just not going to call him. at this point he would know why. To lie for no reason? hmm yeah i would give that some consideration. There is a reason a person lies, you may never find the answer.. but there is always a reason. |
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Liars assume they are more clever than the person they are lying to and regardless of how big or small the lie is he already thinks he's got one up on you. I say call him out on it and see what he says. If he is humble enough to admit he was being coy and trying to make you think he signed up for you then maybe he's not such a doucher. If he can't even admit it once he's been called out on it then he's a supreme doucher and does not deserve a second chance!  my love!
I did ask him about it, I think it is on the first or second page. I'm just not okay with deliberating this much over someone I hardly know. too many questions way too soon. |
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To lie for no reason? hmm yeah i would give that some consideration. There is a reason a person lies, you may never find the answer.. but there is always a reason.  Kim, I like this one, I think you should talk to him 
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so say someone you met here tells you a little fib for no good reason. do you forgive their lapse in judgment or assume this is their nature?  
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id say its definatel a red flag... keep an eye out
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Edited by
msmyka
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Fri 01/09/09 06:15 PM
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This is the thread NON-DOUCHER'S should go to talk to Kim
http://mingle2.com/topic/show/190969?page=21 |
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To lie for no reason? hmm yeah i would give that some consideration. There is a reason a person lies, you may never find the answer.. but there is always a reason. Kim, I like this one, I think you should talk to him
hmm  do you think he has more pictures?
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He better if he hopes to attract a quality woman such as yourself.
Joe- handle it. |
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What is the difference between a "white" lie and a "lie"?
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Edited by
JoeW99
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Fri 01/09/09 06:23 PM
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To lie for no reason? hmm yeah i would give that some consideration. There is a reason a person lies, you may never find the answer.. but there is always a reason. Kim, I like this one, I think you should talk to him
hmm do you think he has more pictures?
Lol i see... recent pictures hmm? Well how would i put this in a respectful way. Not sure if you know, but kinda new( OK REALLY NEW ) to meeting people online.. New Years Resolution thing that actually isn't that bad. The "recent" pictures i do have- have errr.. well other people in them and for the most part that would be ODD. Was going to try and crop them.. but random limbs like arms/legs/cheeks made it seem more creepy then anything. But yes i will work on getting more pictures.. Promise.
On a sidenote- yes you are very attractive.
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What is the difference between a "white" lie and a "lie"? I was wondering. I never considered childhood tales to be lies but rather fibs even though in this context it is clear that they are equally deceptive and unnecessary. |
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To lie for no reason? hmm yeah i would give that some consideration. There is a reason a person lies, you may never find the answer.. but there is always a reason. Kim, I like this one, I think you should talk to him
hmm do you think he has more pictures?
Lol i see... recent pictures hmm? Well how would i put this in a respectful way. Not sure if you know, but kinda new( OK REALLY NEW ) to meeting people online.. New Years Resolution thing that actually isn't that bad. The "recent" pictures i do have- have errr.. well other people in them and for the most part that would be ODD. Was going to try and crop them.. but random limbs like arms/legs/cheeks made it seem more creepy then anything. But yes i will work on getting more pictures.. Promise.
On a sidenote- yes you are very attractive.
I am a photoshop guru and would gladly offer my assistance in this matter. |
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What is the difference between a "white" lie and a "lie"? I was wondering. I never considered childhood tales to be lies but rather fibs even though in this context it is clear that they are equally deceptive and unnecessary. Yeah. I mean, you hear people defend their "small, insignificant" lies as "white lies"....meaning that they feel that they don't "hurt" anyone. Or, lieing for "The Greater Good". Wow.....we have so many types of "lies".
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What is the difference between a "white" lie and a "lie"? I consider white lies things that you tell childern that can't fully understand the implications of the turth, such as why is my goldfish swimming upside down. There is some gray area for me when it comes to this such as when i person under extreme stress-sadness ask you how they look... "You look fine, are you feeling better?" does wonders for them, compared to "OMG, YOU LOOK LIKE DEATH." Otherwise a lie is a lie.. no point sugar coating it. |
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To lie for no reason? hmm yeah i would give that some consideration. There is a reason a person lies, you may never find the answer.. but there is always a reason. Kim, I like this one, I think you should talk to him
hmm do you think he has more pictures?
Lol i see... recent pictures hmm? Well how would i put this in a respectful way. Not sure if you know, but kinda new( OK REALLY NEW ) to meeting people online.. New Years Resolution thing that actually isn't that bad. The "recent" pictures i do have- have errr.. well other people in them and for the most part that would be ODD. Was going to try and crop them.. but random limbs like arms/legs/cheeks made it seem more creepy then anything. But yes i will work on getting more pictures.. Promise.
On a sidenote- yes you are very attractive.
I am a photoshop guru and would gladly offer my assistance in this matter. Aww that's sweet! But still odd, i love the people that just took paint and blacked out the person next to them, one guy put horns on his exs picture next to him.. classic. No i will work on getting other pictures up, just put up the camera phone so noone would have to look at a white screen. |
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