No definitely no smothering going on. She says a day off here and there is good which we had Wednesday to ourselves and last night she was ill and I wanted to stop by and cheer her up (she said she wanted me to come by), but she couldn't even get out of bed because shes dorming at her school and needs to come outside get me sign me and she lives on the second floor at the end of the hallway so it was a little much.

How often do you want to see them? Is it needy to want to see them like 4 days a week?

Me and my girlfriend are both busy tomorrow. We hung out last night as sort of a valentine's day thing. Should I offer to just see her after I get off work even if she can't? I've never been with anyone on valentine's before.

Before it happens, yes.

:)

I'll kiss her I always do

we've been going out like 3 days!

:(

I won't be able to see my gf this weekend for valentines. Im going to see her today should I get her chocolates?

yea theres 4 years and its weird for me. Most 23/24 year olds have graduated college and have even a job like me, but shes unemployed and not even done with a 2 year college (which I graduate in June). Plus I'm not gonna lie I can be immature for my age I mean I'm young I play video games and make stupid jokes and I'm not always serious hence why I prefer someone my age.

Well, I told her. Hope I didn't hurt her feelings. I just want someone who is more motivated and who actually has a job and preferably younger.

The truth does hurt. I'll just tell her I don't want to date someone who doesn't have a job and who seems to be lagging on their future. I won't question the driving because there are people out there who just fear or don't want to drive.

Drawing a blank here. The only positive things shes ever talked to me about is "treating her man right" and "being sweet".

I have.. I just really should have asked how I drop her without hurting her/ending our friendship. I value her as a friend she wants more

My question should be how do I let her down without hurting her?

So, I should date someone who has no job, no ambition, doesn't drive (shes admitted she NEEDS to drive but doesn't anyway), and who I feel awkward around because shes older and still does less stuff than me? Yea, shes sweet and really nice, but I just don't feel the connection beyond friendship and shes just not the type of girl I want to be with. I want someone who's attempting to make a better future for themselves and can support them self and not rely on me for money like it seems she wants to.

Yea, I know. I feel bad because shes a really sweet girl, but she just doesn't even seem to be trying with her life. No job taking only 1 class in school (I'm taking 5 and working) and just doesn't drive or seem to have much ambition. She also already is complaining that we can't go out to dinner due to her lack of funds so I'm thinking she may be after me for money (which I don't even have).

Yea, I don't know its just weird. I'm only 20 and shes about to turn 24. Just a little odd that I'm further along in my schooling and drive and she doesn't. Plus she doesn't even have a job

Yea, I agree I don't find it shallow at all. Shes also 3 years older which is just a little weird for me

they don't, but its the combination of both. I'm not that attracted to her due to her weight (shes about 90 pounds I'm like 175) and on top of that shes 23 and doesn't drive yet.