Have you ever came across this? It is like they speak through their children or grand children. They say that their children like or want to see you but they don't just come out and say they want to see you.

It really turns me off when chicks try that **** and I laugh at guys that try to get chicks with their kids.

Using kids as tools is WEAK!

Major turn off!

Do you think it might be a way around shyness? Say like if you are both shy.

The reason I am asking is because I think I might miss some hints sometimes.

I wouldn't know. My child does not meet the men that I date.

agree

Have you ever been on a date and the children was the only thing that made it fun?

I would never take my child on a date with me.

I would see this as a poor way to communicate that lowers the odds for the success of the relationship. Also a real bad sign for the welfare of the child involved.

ok funny story. had a date latley? and she brought her kid with her, baby was a year and a half old (i know nothing about children) were sitting there talkin at starbucks and the baby gets a lil fussy and she says "oh i know what will make you feel better!" and takes the baby, and puts the child on its back. and im watching all this completley unaware of what was comming next! suddenly she just lifts up her shirt and starts breastfeeding! haha i didnt have a problem with it? but it was VERY shocking to me due to my not expecting it! my advice? wait a date or two before ya give a guy a shock like that haha :)

I have had it the other way around and use my kid, to get to me...like they miss seeing my kid or whatever....trying to get into my life through my kid.

Generally I keep my daughter away from men I date, however, they may come in contact with eachother for a short time (like while waiting for me to finish getting ready to leave etc..)

Or they don't let their children speak for themselves...

Either way is wrong.

I prefer a woman with no kids in the home.
That would avoid that situation and if the woman near my age can't cut the cord, I'd need to look elsewhere.

I dont have any kids (thank goodness) but I know what you are speaking of. Ive seen it done before where people will use their children in order to manipulate others. Its a form of emotional abuse.

When I'm your age, I'll have a kid in high school. I can't cut the cord. I need to get them through college.

I actually prefer when the guys date ME, not my kid.

If my kid likes you, she likes you. But don't try to sweet talk or buy your way into my life by spoiling her. She has rules she has to follow, don't corrupt her by breaking them.

And if you are not MAN enough to just say "when can I see you again?" and instead use YOUR kids and schedule a "play date" in the attempt to get to spend time with me again, get the f*ck gone.