What kind of behaviour is considered "needy"?


How would you stop yourself from appearing needy?

Idk I guess not being able to do things on your own

Why didnt you call, where are you, why are you late, when can I see you, INSECURITY!!!!

Someone who is always demanding your time. If they aren't with you they want to be on the phone or online with you all the time.

i been told numerous times im not needy enough

Thats not all insecurity, unless it's all of the time.

is there such a thing? too needy or not needy enough?

good point. I think if a person is to the point of being annoying then they are probably being too needy.

I deal with needy people every day at work. Many times they need help performing the smallest of tasks or chores. Always wanting and very unsure of there actions and behaviors. They need assistence even with making the most basic decisions.

Performing a full self diagnostic.

I agree

Needy behavior...I'd have to say they're acting needy when they're so wrapped up in you that they don't have a life of their own. Making huge demands on your time with tons of phone calls and wanting to be together every minute. Wanting reassurance that you still love them everytime you're in a bad mood, etc.

If I think I'm starting to act needy, I take a break from them and go do something else. Play cards with a friend I haven't seen in a while, visit relatives, etc. Pretty much just try to take my mind off of them and get centered again.

IDK, but I hope I don't appear needy, I do try to hide it.

There is always a case of mis-communication.

Ok, long story short, I was chatting with this girl and got her number and we had very good discussions several times. We seemed to click. She worked as some type of lounge waitress, but this Christmas season she butted heads with her manager who was always protective of her. So I told her that there are plenty of opportunities in the city, and a few days later, she told me that she was interviewing with another bar. She called it a working interview. Since we have not physically met yet, she didn't want to tell me where. Besides she said that she didn't mix pleasure with work. So, ok I backed off on further questions, and wished her good luck.

A couple of days later, I called to see how the interview went, but I did not get an answer, so I left a voicemail. A few hours went by, and I was actually getting worried. So, I txt'ed her saying something like, there are certainly evil people around the world, some with lots of money, and some are bar managers :-) A few hours went by and still no response, so I left another voicemail stating that I was concerned.

That night, I could not sleep well hoping that I was not a catalyst to some serious crime. The thought of anyone getting harmed because of my big mouth was just too much to bear. The next day, I called again, but still no answer. I sent her emails and text. No answer.

That night, my stress level was so high, I called the local police dept to see if there were any missing person report with her name. They told me that it's non-emergency, has to be missing 48hrs or greater, and they are just answering service and I had to call back the next morning to speak with detective. So I sent her another email explaining my intention in the morning.

Needless to say, I couldn't spleep that night and around 2AM I get an email from her stating that I was being insecure and too needy. She told me to not to contact her ever again.

I reciprocated her language and told her that I was relieved that she was ok, and told her to have a wonderful life.

So, my question is: Was I really being needy?

worktolive Wow you definately would have me running the other way.You said you had a few discussions but hadn't met yet I personly think you went way over board calling the police.Obviously she was trying to work things out on her own.In my opinion your actions seem more overly involved as opposed to needy jmo.

To answer the question what I consider needy....
Having to report in,constently reassuring your love,acceptance,apprectiation,commitment etc.
I stay away from men that I know that will draw me in by their neediness I would rather be alone if I can't have my own life seperate from his.

I live in a city rated for #2 in homicide.

Police literally find dead bodies floating in some creek daily. If it weren't for my job or cost of living, I would definitely move to San Diego.

Oh, btw, we had several lengthy phone conversations, shared photos, over 1000 text msgs, b/c due to her custody situation and my finals, we didn't have the opportunity to meet.

Worktolive you sound like a stand up guy worrying about a friend.It is to bad that she didn't acknowledge your concern earlier.A brief email to let you know she was okay would have been nice considering you have a lot on your plate with finals.Maybe you will have to chalk it up to miscomunication by both of you.Good luck with those finals!