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As quite a few people know I'm not a big fan or relationships anymore for various reasons and have not been one for a long time.
Well someone has gotten me and gotten me but good. I really don't know how to take it, or how to react to it. However I seamed to have already f*cked up. I guess I don't know what I'm doing, or I've been a pesismist and anti-social long enough that I have no Idea how to talk to people anymore with out pissing them off. Anyways, I said something today on the phone that really pissed her off and I'm really sorry about it. I don't want to drive her away because I couldn't control my mouth and said something that I shouldn't have and DEFINATLY didn't mean. It wasn't about her so don't go thinking that. She said that she'll call me when she's calmed down and not so mad at me, but I'm not sure. I've been told that before, to never hear from them again. I don't want to call her and come off like I'm obsessed or a stalker of sorts. That wouldn't go over well. So I guess what I'm wanting to know is do I wait and see, do I send flowers, Do I call and try to say I'm sorry. Do I do nothing and what comes will come? I really don't know what I'm sopposed to do.I've been away from the dating thing for a long time with no intrest in getting back into it, but alas......... What would ya'll do about this? |
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As quite a few people know I'm not a big fan or relationships anymore for various reasons and have not been one for a long time. Well someone has gotten me and gotten me but good. I really don't know how to take it, or how to react to it. However I seamed to have already f*cked up. I guess I don't know what I'm doing, or I've been a pesismist and anti-social long enough that I have no Idea how to talk to people anymore with out pissing them off. Anyways, I said something today on the phone that really pissed her off and I'm really sorry about it. I don't want to drive her away because I couldn't control my mouth and said something that I shouldn't have and DEFINATLY didn't mean. It wasn't about her so don't go thinking that. She said that she'll call me when she's calmed down and not so mad at me, but I'm not sure. I've been told that before, to never hear from them again. I don't want to call her and come off like I'm obsessed or a stalker of sorts. That wouldn't go over well. So I guess what I'm wanting to know is do I wait and see, do I send flowers, Do I call and try to say I'm sorry. Do I do nothing and what comes will come? I really don't know what I'm sopposed to do.I've been away from the dating thing for a long time with no intrest in getting back into it, but alas......... What would ya'll do about this?  You should give me her phone number and let me call her and talk to her and see if we can work this out.
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Yeah.....thanks.....
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flowers.. with a card attached.. print what you just said here and put it in the card..
honesty is best.. if she needs time to cool off.. then flowers are a good way to say."im sorry, i didnt mean it.. and this is why i did what i did" have them sent to her.. dont bring them yourself.. just a thought. best of luck  |
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Hmmm, no call. But maybe flowers with a note saying. I'm sorry. I was an ass. I screwed up. Forgive me.
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i'd give her some time she asked for it...
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Hmmm, no call. But maybe flowers with a note saying. I'm sorry. I was an ass. I screwed up. Forgive me. |
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whatever you do make sure you say the three magic words....I was wrong..
it gets us every time 
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What would work for me is ....
A simply email saying how sorry you are, that you by no means meant to offend or upset her, diarrhea of the mouth is terrible you know and if there was a cure you would jump right on it, that you understand she may be a bit heated and you take the blame and will let he calm done, hoping that this did not end what was beginning to be so good, that you will wait till she is ready to talk again, then say something to make her laugh..... flowers may be a tad bit too much so early about something like this.. bc if you do it again you will have to up the flowers to something more pricey maybe ha ha. :0) |
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I was serious, it has been a really long time for me.
Do flowers still work? Should I do flowers? Ipod? New car? I really don't care. Money means s*it to me..... But it would really make me leary if I have to buy something for her...... I've been used for my money before and I'm not looking to for that again..... I'm not saying that I think thats whats going on, I know its not. But still...... I hope someone knows what I'm trying to say and I'm not sounding like a paranoid ass. This is a issue to me, because when I'm working I cansay anything perfect Damn near everytime. But in this situation, nothing comes outright. Is there something wrong with me? Am I incapible of doing this? Hell...... |
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Humility always works. And flowers of course
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I was serious, it has been a really long time for me. Do flowers still work? Should I do flowers? Ipod? New car? I really don't care. Money means s*it to me..... But it would really make me leary if I have to buy something for her...... I've been used for my money before and I'm not looking to for that again..... I'm not saying that I think thats whats going on, I know its not. But still...... I hope someone knows what I'm trying to say and I'm not sounding like a paranoid ass. This is a issue to me, because when I'm working I cansay anything perfect Damn near everytime. But in this situation, nothing comes outright. Is there something wrong with me? Am I incapible of doing this? Hell...... You've been bitten by the bug. She has you flustered, and you feel like a kid without a clue for the first time in a long time. That pretty close?? The best thing you can do is send her flowers with a note saying what a dipsh*t you are. Apologize profusely. There is nothing wrong with you. You aren't incapable. You have just managed to find someone who makes you feel like you haven't felt in a long time. |
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I was serious, it has been a really long time for me. Do flowers still work? Should I do flowers? Ipod? New car? I really don't care. Money means s*it to me..... But it would really make me leary if I have to buy something for her...... I've been used for my money before and I'm not looking to for that again..... I'm not saying that I think thats whats going on, I know its not. But still...... I hope someone knows what I'm trying to say and I'm not sounding like a paranoid ass. This is a issue to me, because when I'm working I cansay anything perfect Damn near everytime. But in this situation, nothing comes outright. Is there something wrong with me? Am I incapible of doing this? Hell...... if you want to nort be used for your money do not flaunt it get ya a decent non flashy car go to cheap places on your dates and see if they stick around awhile b4 you break out the good stuff |
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Edited by
Krimsa
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Fri 12/19/08 05:38 AM
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As quite a few people know I'm not a big fan or relationships anymore for various reasons and have not been one for a long time. Well someone has gotten me and gotten me but good. I really don't know how to take it, or how to react to it. However I seamed to have already f*cked up. I guess I don't know what I'm doing, or I've been a pesismist and anti-social long enough that I have no Idea how to talk to people anymore with out pissing them off. Anyways, I said something today on the phone that really pissed her off and I'm really sorry about it. I don't want to drive her away because I couldn't control my mouth and said something that I shouldn't have and DEFINATLY didn't mean. It wasn't about her so don't go thinking that. She said that she'll call me when she's calmed down and not so mad at me, but I'm not sure. I've been told that before, to never hear from them again. I don't want to call her and come off like I'm obsessed or a stalker of sorts. That wouldn't go over well. So I guess what I'm wanting to know is do I wait and see, do I send flowers, Do I call and try to say I'm sorry. Do I do nothing and what comes will come? I really don't know what I'm sopposed to do.I've been away from the dating thing for a long time with no intrest in getting back into it, but alas......... What would ya'll do about this? It sounds as though you are quite inexperienced with relationships and communicating with women generally speaking. You mentioned that this has occurred before. I can only wonder at what you said. There is nothing you can do. Im assuming that you are only creating this thread in the hopes that she will read it and feel bad and call. You need to wait and she will call you in due time or she wont and if she doesn't, you blew it and you will need to either begin learning from some of these mistakes, or continue to make them. |
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Have your tongue removed. JK LOL
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seriously.... i hate getting flowers after an argument.. what they mean to me is im gonna buy you flowers and everything is gonna be ok.. flowers should not be a symbol of a fight, but should be a symbol of love when you arent fighting or like flowers just because you are special... its just my opionion.. the flowers dont make things better its communication and showing in the future that you respect her feelings by truely being sorry and not letting it happen again.Remember its your mouth, communication, words and actions that got you into this.I'm sure those are the things that will help you find your way back outta this....
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this is easy unless this happens often....Leave her alone until she calls.....Dont over explain..Dont call dont text dont email...If you havent heard in 7 days then send email and ask for a chance to apologize and take her out to make up for sounding like a jerk...wait patiently for her to cool down...If she really cares she has to have time to call all of her family and friends and ***** about you and then she will call you
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Edited by
Krimsa
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Fri 12/19/08 07:45 AM
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I feel as though I NEED to know what was said to her in order to properly navigate this situation. You claim it "wasn't about her" but what does that mean exactly? Was it in regards to something else that effects her and the relationship? Its hard to give any real advice on this without having that information but I would say dont call and wait for her to contact you. You WILL come across as stalker like if you dont allow her time and distance to clear her head.
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A sincere apology is all you can really do. Presents may seem like stalker material to some or they could be well received by others.
Only you know her and the idea behind getting past the issue is to change her mind about you. The only way you can do this is to bring a smile to her face. Will flowers do this? I don't know you know her, not I. |
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