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Topic: How do you turn down an AWFUL looking person?
popcornncoke Joined Fri 11/02/07 Posts: 2088	Mon 12/15/08 09:25 AM
How do you politely turn down an AWFUL looking person? I just do what i normally do. Stay kind to them find a way that lets them know that "you know im just really not looking for anything right now" but still hang out with them. Heck alot of those guys (and girls) are still good friends of mine just nothing more.

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Mon 12/15/08 09:34 AM
ask them if they have herpes when they say, why of course not you say, don't worry, you'll get use to them

TheOriginalFuzzy Joined Mon 12/15/08 Posts: 42	Mon 12/15/08 09:41 AM
I don't really know what my usual solutions are... usually my mind is so clouded with "I gotta get the f*** outta here!" that I don't take notice of how I really handle it... lol and anyone who wants to bash me saying looks don't matter needs to think again... human nature... if you walk into a bar looking to meet someone your first thing you look at is appearance... no one walks in and looks for the ugliest person in the place...

freeonthree Joined Tue 06/19/07 Posts: 2407	Mon 12/15/08 10:02 AM
Come on... just tell em your in a relationship. On the other hand, if you got drunk, met this person, and hopped into the sack at a previous time, you got your work cut out for you. Dennis

quiet_2008 Joined Sat 08/30/08 Posts: 11138	Mon 12/15/08 10:29 AM
Kind of ironic, when so many people like to say "looks don't matter." They matter to me. Me three. me four I've seen girls that look like their face caught on fire and somebody put it out with a wet chain I just tell em "no thanks, I have a girlfriend"

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Mon 12/15/08 10:39 AM
Kind of ironic, when so many people like to say "looks don't matter." They matter to me. Me three. me four I've seen girls that look like their face caught on fire and somebody put it out with a wet chain I just tell em "no thanks, I have a girlfriend"

luv2roknroll Joined Sun 07/06/08 Posts: 30367	Mon 12/15/08 11:30 AM
Ive met a few people that on the net looked really good.. and in real life...well...ya know... but I still go out on the date and see what their personality is like... cause alot of the time, they are so cool that... THEY COME UP!!! Looks will get me... but they wont keep me... theres gotta be more, for me.

Wulf777 Joined Fri 08/22/08 Posts: 10	Mon 12/15/08 11:36 AM
I've never been good at it. I don't like to hurt peoples feelings. I've kind of taken myself out of the dating pool for awhile. So I don't really have to make any excuses at the moment. But I do have to wonder why no one takes into consideration that I work out every day before they msg me. If I strive to be in shape I'm not going to want to date someone that doesn't care about themselves. Weird....

MyrtleBeachDude Joined Tue 12/18/07 Posts: 4028	Mon 12/15/08 11:39 AM
We have a restaurant/bar here in Myrtle Beach called the dog house. You can actually bring a pet as long it is on a leash and you eat outdoors. Besides steaks and burgers there is even dog food on the menu. If I had a date and she looked that bad, I would take her to the dog house, excuse myself from the table. Stop the nearest waiter and say "Do you mind serving a dog biscuit to that woman over there" and slip on out the door.

Riding_Dubz Joined Wed 05/21/08 Posts: 22110	Mon 12/15/08 11:43 AM
How do you politely turn down an AWFUL looking person? same way you turn down a really good looking person,

chevylover1965 Joined Sat 09/29/07 Posts: 43370	Mon 12/15/08 11:44 AM
got to go ,got to go ......

JaymeStephens84a0lc Joined Mon 04/23/07 Posts: 2704	Mon 12/15/08 11:58 AM
Honestly, no matter what someone looks like if they have kind eyes and a great smile to match... it tends to help. A boy started school with me in 8th grade who wasn't particularly attractive. He's still not, but by the time we were 21 we'd become such great friends that we fell for one another. We dated for several months, and are still really good friends despite it not working out. I love him to pieces no matter what, and he feels the same for me. I miss not seeing him or hanging out with him, but we have some amazing memories. He actually gave me some wild adventures that I other wise would not have had. When I think of the adventures tha I am missing out on for helping my mother, I try to remember that he gave me a few to hold onto in case I never get another.

Krimsa Joined Fri 04/25/08 Posts: 9960	Mon 12/15/08 01:58 PM
I actually am not drawn to "classically attractive men" By that I mean the type of men you see in movies that are considered "hunks" or the kind that grace the pages of "GQ" magazine. Nope. I tend to go for tall, thin, lanky and sometimes even the more goofy looking guys. Im more down with intelligence in fact so that is really the driving force behind a man's sexual appeal. Im sure Im not alone in that and other women can relate.

iceprincess Joined Tue 11/07/06 Posts: 5938	Mon 12/15/08 02:05 PM Edited by iceprincess on Mon 12/15/08 02:09 PM
Kind of ironic, when so many people like to say "looks don't matter." I agree !!!! Thats all you hear people say on here.. Both sides of the fence eh?? Looks don't matter when: A) your blind B) they have somehting else of higher tangible value you want and plan to use them for C)They are rich and have one foot in the grave and the other on a bannanna peal and your poised to push them in

RandomTandem Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 294	Mon 12/15/08 02:39 PM
Phew... iceprincess.. apt monicker.

sparksley Joined Wed 11/19/08 Posts: 169	Mon 12/15/08 02:42 PM
I politely and firmly explain why I am not interested. That's how everyone should handle it. It's not a big deal.

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Mon 12/15/08 03:01 PM
Honestly, no matter what someone looks like if they have kind eyes and a great smile to match... it tends to help. A boy started school with me in 8th grade who wasn't particularly attractive. He's still not, but by the time we were 21 we'd become such great friends that we fell for one another. We dated for several months, and are still really good friends despite it not working out. I love him to pieces no matter what, and he feels the same for me. I miss not seeing him or hanging out with him, but we have some amazing memories. He actually gave me some wild adventures that I other wise would not have had. When I think of the adventures tha I am missing out on for helping my mother, I try to remember that he gave me a few to hold onto in case I never get another.

TheOriginalFuzzy Joined Mon 12/15/08 Posts: 42	Mon 12/15/08 03:13 PM
Looks don't matter when: A) your blind B) they have somehting else of higher tangible value you want and plan to use them for C)They are rich and have one foot in the grave and the other on a bannanna peal and your poised to push them in Do I know you? that really sounded like something my ex would say... lol

Krimsa Joined Fri 04/25/08 Posts: 9960	Mon 12/15/08 03:16 PM
Who actually said, "looks dont matter." Just out of curiosity?

Moondark Joined Tue 11/27/07 Posts: 5866	Mon 12/15/08 03:20 PM
I actually am not drawn to "classically attractive men" By that I mean the type of men you see in movies that are considered "hunks" or the kind that grace the pages of "GQ" magazine. Nope. I tend to go for tall, thin, lanky and sometimes even the more goofy looking guys. Im more down with intelligence in fact so that is really the driving force behind a man's sexual appeal. Im sure Im not alone in that and other women can relate. I can totally relate. I don't have any one type. But for some reason, that whole GQ look doesn't work for me. It looks so plastic and phony to me. While I've had some of the best times with people that the media would say were plain or even unattractive.