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Topic: Open marriage
panther1972's photo
Tue 12/02/08 06:25 AM
Is there anyone out there in an oopen marriage, if so do you have any advice to give to someone in a newlly open marriage?

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Tue 12/02/08 06:38 AM
Edited by MisKim323 on Tue 12/02/08 06:40 AM
noway noway noway noway Welcomehuh huh huh huh

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Tue 12/02/08 06:41 AM
Edited by revolution on Tue 12/02/08 06:42 AM
yeah get a divorcerofl rofl rofl

TessMac's photo
Tue 12/02/08 06:43 AM
Why be married if you are going to see other people? What's the point? A roommate can help with the bills and it's less heartache. Marriage is a one on one commitment.

panther1972's photo
Tue 12/02/08 06:54 AM
We have a child and right now it is less of an impact on her to try this than going through a divorce and shipping her between two houses. My wife and I are not arguing or fighting. We are getting along better now than in a long while. There is also finacial things to consider, especially the way things are now with the economy.

TessMac's photo
Tue 12/02/08 07:02 AM

We have a child and right now it is less of an impact on her to try this than going through a divorce and shipping her between two houses. My wife and I are not arguing or fighting. We are getting along better now than in a long while. There is also finacial things to consider, especially the way things are now with the economy.

Is this what you would want for your child? Children are not stupid, they know what's going on even if you think they don't.

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Tue 12/02/08 07:04 AM

We have a child and right now it is less of an impact on her to try this than going through a divorce and shipping her between two houses. My wife and I are not arguing or fighting. We are getting along better now than in a long while. There is also finacial things to consider, especially the way things are now with the economy.
And I can tell you...THIS will only lead to what you are trying to avoid....best thing to do is get counseling and try to salvage the marriage...cheating will not save it...cheating will only break it...JMOohwell Mom and Dad being with other people is in no way, shape or form going to benefit the child...all it will do is give each of you a bit of fun and cause jealousy and bad feelings.

bad_girl's photo
Tue 12/02/08 07:10 AM
Well said {{kim}}flowers


We have a child and right now it is less of an impact on her to try this than going through a divorce and shipping her between two houses. My wife and I are not arguing or fighting. We are getting along better now than in a long while. There is also finacial things to consider, especially the way things are now with the economy.
And I can tell you...THIS will only lead to what you are trying to avoid....best thing to do is get counseling and try to salvage the marriage...cheating will not save it...cheating will only break it...JMOohwell Mom and Dad being with other people is in no way, shape or form going to benefit the child...all it will do is give each of you a bit of fun and cause jealousy and bad feelings.

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Tue 12/02/08 07:11 AM

Well said {{kim}}flowers


We have a child and right now it is less of an impact on her to try this than going through a divorce and shipping her between two houses. My wife and I are not arguing or fighting. We are getting along better now than in a long while. There is also finacial things to consider, especially the way things are now with the economy.
And I can tell you...THIS will only lead to what you are trying to avoid....best thing to do is get counseling and try to salvage the marriage...cheating will not save it...cheating will only break it...JMOohwell Mom and Dad being with other people is in no way, shape or form going to benefit the child...all it will do is give each of you a bit of fun and cause jealousy and bad feelings.

{{{{Merle}}}} good morning Darlin'..and thanksflowers flowers flowers flowers flowers flowers

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Tue 12/02/08 07:17 AM
JMO, but you're "toying" with disaster. And please don't use the child as an excuse.

panther1972's photo
Tue 12/02/08 07:21 AM
Looking at the number of marriages out there with one partner or the other cheating, I felt that this was a way to stop the lies and the jealousy. We are being open and honest about what is happening and it does not happen in the home. Yes, my daughter is a very bright girl, and what she sees is a mother and a father who love each other and get along with each other. Yes jealousy has come up, but when it has we have talked about why one of us is feeling that way and taken actions to correct that. I know that this is not a traditional relationship, but it is worth a try. The worst that could happen is things not work out and end in divorce. The best is that both of us are happier and and can raise our daughter together without worrying about how shipping her back and forth is going to affect her.

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Tue 12/02/08 07:24 AM

Looking at the number of marriages out there with one partner or the other cheating, I felt that this was a way to stop the lies and the jealousy. We are being open and honest about what is happening and it does not happen in the home. Yes, my daughter is a very bright girl, and what she sees is a mother and a father who love each other and get along with each other. Yes jealousy has come up, but when it has we have talked about why one of us is feeling that way and taken actions to correct that. I know that this is not a traditional relationship, but it is worth a try. The worst that could happen is things not work out and end in divorce. The best is that both of us are happier and and can raise our daughter together without worrying about how shipping her back and forth is going to affect her.


I don't understand, so help me out here. You love each other and get along with each other? So what's wrong with the marriage that you need to seek an intimate relationship with others?

FearandLoathing's photo
Tue 12/02/08 07:26 AM
Oh, this is strikingly brilliant...

lilith401's photo
Tue 12/02/08 07:26 AM
Come now, the best way to solve problems in a relationship is to bring other people into it. That fixes everything! happy

bad_girl's photo
Tue 12/02/08 07:28 AM
If you love each other and get along, why in god's name would you feel that an "open" marriage is the solution. noway Sex with someone besides your husband/wife is wrong if you are married.noway. I don't understand this at all

Looking at the number of marriages out there with one partner or the other cheating, I felt that this was a way to stop the lies and the jealousy. We are being open and honest about what is happening and it does not happen in the home. Yes, my daughter is a very bright girl, and what she sees is a mother and a father who love each other and get along with each other. Yes jealousy has come up, but when it has we have talked about why one of us is feeling that way and taken actions to correct that. I know that this is not a traditional relationship, but it is worth a try. The worst that could happen is things not work out and end in divorce. The best is that both of us are happier and and can raise our daughter together without worrying about how shipping her back and forth is going to affect her.

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Tue 12/02/08 07:29 AM
Sounds as though you both have your minds made up, so why ask for opinions? Most of us here are spending our lives trying to find "THE ONE"....and yet the two of you aren't happy with just one....hmmmmmmmmmm.....just a bit of insight....this site is full of very loving and caring people and really aren't thrilled when they see two people taking advantage of one another. Love is love, and if that is not what you have, best to move on....and we will pray that your child doesn't suffer too badly from this...but, needless to say...she will:cry: And by the way...running out and having sex with someone else is not going to fix this for you...get away from each other and save your child, or get to counseling and save your child and your marriage

lilith401's photo
Tue 12/02/08 07:30 AM
This must be a post if you agree thread, then?

FearandLoathing's photo
Tue 12/02/08 07:31 AM

This must be a post if you agree thread, then?


Yep...and shockingly I don't see the OP...

lilith401's photo
Tue 12/02/08 07:32 AM
Drama drama drama.....

I dream of a man who is married and doesn't want a divorce because of his child and he says he can't afford it. That would make me feel so special and wanted....

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Tue 12/02/08 07:34 AM

Drama drama drama.....

I dream of a man who is married and doesn't want a divorce because of his child and he says he can't afford it. That would make me feel so special and wanted....
flowers flowers flowers flowers flowers flowers Yep....hmmmmmm...think he may have chosen the wrong site to get the answer he was looking forohwell

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