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he's clearly lying about and or hiding something. beware.

well, I don't believe this woman at all, and if the guy is so rich, successful, and handsome as she claims he is...then I truly don't believe her because after viewing her profile, I just can't see the attraction...she's looney! JMO...hehe!

Dude, you're wayyyyy off!

Ok...after reading this comment, I've got to speak up now , on behalf of HasidicEnforcer.....

she is not looney...how very cruel to say such a thing, sir .....

HasidicEnforcer is just a sweet young lady....looking for love....just like everyone else here on this site......and she is a VERY EXTRAORDINARILY BEAUTIFUL YOUNG LADY....

MEANING.....

a LOT of men probably ADORE her..and would LOVE to do things for her....

and probably some do....just because they CARE!!!!

It is NOT like HasidicEnforcer is taking advantage of men's kindness.....not at all..and I don't see that atall.

(By the way, you can pay someone's phone bill DIRECT...meaning the gentleman most likely did not pay the bill online).

I too, have had men all my life.....begging to want to help me or do things for me.....and I gently turn them away , cause I am not one to use a guy if I am not into a relationship with him.

And I see HasidicEnforcer also wanting to be honest with men....

Also.... lot of men look at Beautiful women like HasidicEnforcer, just as "arm candy".....and I feel this is what has happened with HasidicEnforcer a lot in life...and again....all she is just looking for is love , folks....come on .....
Where is the heart!!!!


Lets Be KIND to One Another....

((((((((HasidicEnforcer)))))))))

It's hard to tell what goes on in a man's mind. My ex-fiance would set dates to get married, make reservations for hotels to run off an get married, then back out, only to have him come back a few days later apologizing wanting me to give him another chance. I kept hoping he would change.

If he really has a valid reason for cancelling once or twice, yeah, ok. But if it happens more than that, think twice. Also, if he is what he says he is as far as his job, then google him, and see what you can find. If he is that big in it, then he should be in the papers or something, even in court documents. Can't hurt.

Just be careful, don't let him keep making excuses. Maybe have him come to you.

we talked about it tonight.

He is going into surgery Wednesday.

It is prognostic that it will take him minimum 6 weeks before he can walk again.

He is buying my ticket out to see him.

I told him I am more than happy if I just sit at home and change his bandages and check on his stitches. That I am happiest when I am taking care of someone, rather than seeing the White House and the museums.

He said to let him get through the first surgery first, then he will send me a ticket to come out for a weekend.

He knows I would never ask him for money.

In fact, I seem to realise that a lot of men lately have been offering money to me, just to keep me happy. Like as if me having tons of money is going to fill my life with bliss.

My happiest point in my marriage was when we sold the 5th car and moved into a slum apartment and raise our daughter together and he worked 2 jobs to support me going to school at night and raising our daughter during the day. Because we struggled together. It was no longer about whom had the bigger bank account, because my trust fund had finally run dry just trying to raise our daughter while he was physically in so much pain he couldn't even get up to go to the restroom. I loved being able to show him how much I cared by throwing every inch of my 5'3" frame into picking his 6'4" one up and half carrying, half sliding him into the bath.

But....


There are guys that want to impress me not with flowers, not with kisses, not with sweet words, but with money.

To me, it means they don't care and think I am just a shallow bimbo.

That is when our marriage started to shift. When he would give me a handful of cash on Mother's Day or my birthday.




Anyway, this man seems genuine. And I have already made arrangements with my Bestest friend that he has the guy's phone numbers and address, so that if he doesn't hear from me within an hour of the plane landing, that he will call the man's phones and if still no answer, he will call the DC cops.

Anyway, it just took me by shock and surprise when I woke up in the morning to an email from my phone company that the full $116 had been paid.

IDK, some people just want to do nice things.

He did say he didn't think I should be without a phone.

And all my friends know that it is important to me cause of international obligations I have.

Hm...


We shall see.


I am seriously interested in someone else at this moment and if all works out with him, I feel bad for DC guy, but hey, my money grubbing sis will gladly take his money.

BTW, to the idiot that thinks I am looney?

You did not have the email conversation with the guy were I blasted him about this and told him very clearly that I have EVERY intention of paying him back, no matter how long it takes.

(He said if I could just ship him some of the food he's been hearing about from my classmates, it'd be payment enough.)

I think youre full of sh*t!!!!

Seriously girl........you are not mature enough for a relation****.......

step away from the box!!!

But ya cant for the free money~~~!!!

<----flashes boobs for $5!!!

No offence......hasic,,,,,,,,




but I do like you

I have been reading your posts and have come up to the conclusion that you have noooooooooooooooo fukcing idea what the hell you want!!! Or you think you need this man or that man to fulfill you!!11 ofdfdsjkldsjfksdfjldkfjl!!!

HE,wasn't it just last week that you and Engraven were madly in love?




anyone else besides me seeing a pattern here?

ya seen and more!!!!

ummm what do you mean "and more"?

It all seems a little off one way or another.

As far as the paying of the bill, things like that are a classic ploy used by men proficient with the "exchange principle". Which basically states if I do something for you, you feel obligated to do something in return. Wanting to dote over a potential love interest is normal, but quite often out of the ordinary assistance or gifts are just a baiting technique. Not necessarily the case, but is something to think about.

Ok HasidicEnforcer..just read thru your thread again..and this caught my eye:

you wrote:

"..... he keeps setting up trips for me to come out there for a weekend, and then last minute chickens out and cancels the flights....."

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Ok Hasidic....it is not that easy to just set up flights , and then cancel flights repeatedly......meaning he probably never set up any flights to begin with.

And IF he per chance, did set up those flights and then cancel.....well he is already showing ALL the signs of a WISHY WASHY GUY !!

Hasidic...This guy sounds like he is all talk....a fantasy guy.

Sadly,These types Never follow thru on their "empty promises"...and in fact, these types already KNOW they will never follow thru...

but you are an extremely beautiful woman, and are a perfect target for these fantasy types.

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HasidicEnforcer, you also wrote:

"...We talk everyday and email each other hourly when I am unable to talk.
We spend hours on the phone, which usually results in him going to bed WAY late (time difference) and waking up groggy in the morning, but he still does it every night, except Fridays.


Hasidic.....most married men are usually UNAVAILABLE on FRIDAYS or WEEKENDS.

Hasidic.....pay close attention to red flags like this...don't wanna see you get any further hurt.

Be Blessed and Be Careful Now, HasidicEnforcer.

LOL We don't talk on Fridays because of me, not him. I am usually in Temple on Fridays, as most Jews are, and can not answer my phone in the middle of prayers. We do, however, have a chat for a few hours after the sun sets on Saturday and talk on Sundays early in the day also. We have great political battles and he thinks my sense of humour is a bit different.


As far as me and Engraven, He knows I still care about him, but, and I even warned him about it being to soon to announce it here, we came to a stick in the mud about one of my jobs and he broke it off.

Now, he has also come to me about DC dude. I told him that for the time being, DC dude is providing me with entertainment.

I am quite used to men being this way about me. Crap, I can't even go to the vending machine at school without some moron there trying to buy me a soda.

DC dude and I have been talking almost as long as me and Engraven. However, where me and E started as friends and never intended anything more, DC and I knew what we wanted.

And no, I do not jump from guy to guy. The men in MY life have always been there, but never romantically. I take forever to make a move. As my boss once said after I had my heart ripped out by the same man twice, "Girl, there is no ring on your finger. You can date and be friends with however men you choose. Just remember, you are the one that sets the rules."

It may appear that y'all think I am a bit easy.

Yes, I agree it seems that way.

However, I am pretty damn careful about who enters my boudoir. Jobs and children and life are on the line.

I DO know what I want. I am just getting the opinions of others as to if the particular man is right for me. See, I learned something with my ex-boyfriend. I dated him purely on clouded eyes of lust. Had I known the truth, I would never have done so or have been with him for so long.

Nor would I have gotten married to my ex-husband. But there are things you can only see in hindsight. That is why I was quite a bit startled when I woke up with an email from my phone company.

All I know is that with me and E, I don't want to talk about it until I am sure of it. I warned him about posting here about us. In the beginnings of romance, I wait. I think if me and E did hit it off and lasted for at least a month, THEN I would let y'all know.

I knew we were rushing when he started posting about us.

I pretended to continue to 'flirt' with him on the boards, but he announced it to the Mingle world. Look back on old posts and you will see I even confronted him about it here by saying, 'You just couldn't wait, eh?' and privately messaged him about it.

This is life.

I just simply was in shock by the kindness of this man that is many miles away.

I have every intention of paying it back as I do not like to 'owe' anything or be asked to 'repay' something.

As for me and E, I think he and I have learned our lessons.

We have agreed to give it one more try, JIC. Can't say you didn't like it if you never tried it.

I must go. Baby is pinging me on Skype and I hate to be distracted when the little cutie reads me bed time stories in Hebrew.

G-d dang it! I am so impressed with her!

The guy in DC has been emailing me and telling me that he loves me and wants to meet me at a motel.

Then you can have him, Mirror.

I am sorry I ever came here for advice.

Apparently people assume sh!t and yet, when I read their posts, they are all over the place with flirts.

I keep my flirting to you and E for the most part.