I think it's gross.
Too many people have more than one partner around...It's why most of us are single and on a dating site.

Ummm, you think what is gross?

Are you aware this thread is NOT about mutiple sex partners?

I know right, I'm just so intuned to my brain I can talk to me no matter what aspect I have in my head at the time.

...love lily, respect her opinion and background. And your statement above on preconceived idea on view of "what we would like"- I agree. I have that idea in my head also. But the perfect person in the back of my mind that I want to spend the rest of my life with doesn't exist. And delving deeper you will find the perfect person that you want to spend the rest of your life with is--- yourself.

Agreed -- it would be nice to be in an environment where people were open to these ideas, these concepts -- regardless of how outside-the-box they are....

Or maybe beyond-the-box would be a better term....

Yes, aware.

I don't think using different people for different "needs" is appropriate.

Oh hell no I don't want to date me, did you see my rant about logical and emotional lily? Would you want to live with that? I sure wouldn't.... I'm a nut case and fickle and flighty.... I'd never date me.

Because you don't do that? All of your friends are treated EXACTLY the same, all of your relatives are visited the same amount? Everyone has catagories for people if you say you don't you are lieing or are oblivious to it which is sad either way.

my guide for living in the 80s!!

I think this may be more the rule than the exception, and for both sexes. And many people can't even distinguish between those qualities, although admittedly they are not 'cut and dried'.

As a shy man (hush) I don't have to deal with the fallout of bad choices quite as often. I simply am attracted to the bad choices but end up with the good (or better) choices. But I still see that attraction for the choices I know are bad. There's an ego element. And certainly there's an element of wanting to be with the bad girl.

It is nice to find that 'good girl' that has just enough of that 'bad girl' in her.

...agreed. But we subconciously do it anyway. Its the "bad car crash- don't want to look, but we look anyway".

If she's a good girl with bad girl in her, why would she want you....maybe a threesome?

Sorry, couldn't help myself.....

Must stay serious, must not crack jokes, must be staunch..... Oh for f*ck sake I can't do it....

...but look at the good qualities of the one you want to be with in your mind. They are your good qualities.

What constitutes a smart, white collar educated guy with animalistic passions? And a blue collar sense of fun??

And the education part....are you talking about someone with paper all over their walls? OR...someone that can talk about various subjects and not sound like a fool??

You don't get it... you don't get it. You're assuming and judging based on what you think we are talking about.

It is sorta funny.

I just want to know if richard gere had a conversation and talked lovingly to that gerbil as he was shaving it and greasing it before he gingerly shoved it up his ass. I'm kidding. I really don't want to know.

Having friends and family is one thing but when you DATE the one guy and SCREW someone else- thats another thing.
Don't see how you can even compare the two.
The same can be applied to a business...you visit certain stores for certain items.
We are talking about USING people.
The friendships I have are genuine. I I appreciate each individual for their own uniqueness.
I do not keep one person around because I like to screw them and have the other to stimulate my mind.
If the guy I'm screwing cannot stimulate my mind- then I have NO business sleeping with him.

Everyone has categories- you are right.
Try not to impersonalize a "relationship".

It's just my Opinion...I am not about to wait around to get my head bit off by you ladies.
...If you think it is ok...then great. I hope you find the best of both worlds yourselves.

Well said

This is not about the actions.

This is about the feelings and perceptions behind a bifurcated wants/needs scenario, and the influences that go into this.

Do you think richard geres perfect dream girl in the back of his mind- the one with all his preconceived qualities and traits- is in a little cage running around on an excersise wheel in a pet store?