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i think there is more to a relationship then sex theres romance , holding hands , hugging, kissing , just being together jmo WOW. I just looked at your profile. You are wise way beyond your age!! |
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i think there is more to a relationship then sex theres romance , holding hands , hugging, kissing , just being together jmo WOW. I just looked at your profile. You are wise way beyond your age!!  heheheh  thanks
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i think there is more to a relationship then sex theres romance , holding hands , hugging, kissing , just being together jmo true, but one thing i've noticed. In most, not all but MOST of the relastionships that one partner feels those departments are lacking, it usually points to something else that isn't one of the things you said. Even hugging, cuddling, holding hands and romance has the same effect. When there missing there usually pointing at something being up. Usually IMO it's communication or lack of wanting to try. |
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i think there is more to a relationship then sex theres romance , holding hands , hugging, kissing , just being together jmo There is more to a relationship than just sex, but sex can be an important part of a relationship. It's up to each of us to realize what our sexual needs are, and to know how important it is to us to get those needs met. Telling someone they should look beyond their frustration with their sex life is basically saying that they should ignore their sexual needs, which seems unlikely to lead to a healthy, happy relationship. |
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Have an honest, non-accusatory talk with him, and make it clear to him that you view this as a real issue. See if you two can come to some sort of agreement that might work well for both of you. If not, then you need to decide whether you can live happily in a relationship where you're not sexually satisfied. good advice... but let me point out one thing. When you bring most guys into a 'talk' it's implied that its accusatory. Now when you tell a guy he's not sexually santisfying you...thats generally a recipe for disaster. It's knda like telling a guy he has a small ****. Even if its not true, it will always be in the back of his mind and he will always try to make up for it. If you have the talk you gotta do it in a way where it makes him feel more confident in bed, not less confident. I would hope most people wouldn't get defensive off the bat when you try to communicate something with them in as emotionally neutral a way as possible. How are you supposed to form a healthy relationship if you can't communicate openly with each other about these kinds of issues? "You're not sexually satisfying me" sounds a lot different from, for instance, "I have a really high libido and I'm feeling frustrated with the disparity. I would love to have more sex with you and see if we can work toward a happy medium for both of us. Any ideas?" |
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If the glove don't fit, you must aquit! Wait...not the right thread for that......
Ummmmm, if the sex is bad or if it becomes stale, then it will cause problems in a relationship. If you have tried to talk to him and he brushes it off, then you either try again or just take the hint that he doesn't want to talk about and won't. He probably feels comfortable with you guys' sex life as it is, and sees no reason to discuss it. If it aint broke, then why discuss it to try and fix it is what he is more than likely thinking. You need to make him realize that it is important to you. If he doesn't, then I think this sends a clear message. I know sex is not what a relationship is supposed to be all about, but it does matter. |
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Have an honest, non-accusatory talk with him, and make it clear to him that you view this as a real issue. See if you two can come to some sort of agreement that might work well for both of you. If not, then you need to decide whether you can live happily in a relationship where you're not sexually satisfied. Thanks for that I think that I should definitely have a talk with him but im kinda of being standoffish until I know what appropriate words to say...........wise words though... 
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I have been dating this wonderful man for the past 11 months.Things were great but we have a little problem that is going to end up being a big one if it doesnt get better. I am 5 years younger than him and I think that we are sexually incompatible..........I have a high labido and he doesnt..........so what should I do end it now or should i try other things(which I have but) its kind of becoming a pain............(Advice Please!) A guy not wanting alot of sex usually means one of three things. He's depressed, your not doing what he likes or he's just not that into you and or cheating. My last gf lasted a very very short time because sex sucked. I didn't want it, because she was the type to lay there or want this and that. You kinda have to exparament with each person to find what they like, unless there REALLY expierenced and know. and that doesn't mean just the amount of times. It means the amount of stuff they tried. Honestly, sex is usually the easiest thing to fix. I had a friend who saved her marriage and sex life simply by dressing up as a catholic school girl outfit once a week and learning how to talk dirty. It seems kinda silly, but it's true. Usually there is one thing that each person has that turns them on so much that there pretty much always ready to go knowing its there. To be honest, traditional quickies and the same repeated things is what makes it uninteresting for most guys, cause we are visual people. That being said, it's stupid to end a relastionship if sex is the only problem. Thing is, i've never heard of a relastionship where sex was the only problem, nor one that was good everywhere else but sex. There is usually a missing piece hidden somewhere. Sex may seem like no big deal but then you just said that your relationship ended because the sex sucked.............I think he is into me but I think that I have been the aggressor so long he just waits for me.............by the way thats why im askig for peoples opinion so that i can see a different perspective.............I was planning on spending the rest of my life with him but if we lack communication what is the point........... Well see, thats what i mean. Yes, sex sucked last time, but it was because she said she liked one thing, but in turn really didnt, and when i told her what i liked she just didnt bother doing it...ever. Thats not sexual incompatability, thats just really bad communication. The one time we did communicate, it was awkward at first and i didnt really get a chance to get comfy with it. If you can find a way to encourage him to tell you what to do in bed, and for you to tell him what to do WITHOUT hurting his ego, yours, or messing with any issues, then sex honestly gets to a whole new level. Most people can't, simply because its awkward at first and you feel stupid. Honestly if i was a chick, i would flirt with the guy to find out differnt things to try. Maybie watch a porno and see what he likes. 11 months of the same sex makes it routine (if its the same) and makes it less desireable then before. Honestly, most chicks hate to hear this, but we like it changed up a bit. If you start it, then yea, we probly expect you to change it up. The fact that your the aggressor might also be huge into it. I love being jumped every now and then. It's a turn on, but it's also a turn on to jump a sig other. In my expierence chicks that where always the aggresors usually made it hard for me to make the first moves. Even when we where dating for a bit. Either there intimadating, or you honestly think they prefer it that way. One thing one of my ex's did that totally broke that was she dressed up in something i thought was completely hot, and just did her normal day to day things until i just was like **** it, i want some. Though it took a few and i dont think she expected that result. End result, if you keep trying with the guy you'll get frustrated before you figure out what works. You'll figure out what works or find out that nothing works sooner or later. If you really planned on spending the rest of your life with him, then maybie it's worth it to follow the path to the end and see. See you have said it best thanks for that little insight of what men think.........I tried to talk to my guy friends about it and all they would tell me was to dump him............wth and I was like can you give me some insight of how guys think and they were like we just did...........UHHH....... I do understand that i have to have a open discussion with him that is for sure......i also think that i am mos def backing off on being so aggressive because then he is expecting it and I got that this weekend..... On the fact that I want to spend my life with him he is a great guy but so are many other guys should I sacrifice something that is part of making a relationship work (intimacy).......then what is the point then we should just be friends since friends dont have to be intimate (real friends)........... |
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Sounds like he is bored with the sex and looking for an easy avenue out.... Haha so typical............well he has the avenue but he hasnt taken it..............i dont think i will have a problem being with another man......... |
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Sounds like he is bored with the sex and looking for an easy avenue out.... Haha so typical............well he has the avenue but he hasnt taken it..............i dont think i will have a problem being with another man......... I dont either...Best of luck Sex must be good, no matter what anyone says 
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i think there is more to a relationship then sex theres romance , holding hands , hugging, kissing , just being together jmo True that and I get all the cuddling, romance, holding hands,etc from him all the time..........actually he does that so often especially when its in public (and its sometimes inappropriate and I have to tell him).........but when all that is going on then when we get to the bedroom that part gets lost.................wth |
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Sounds like he is bored with the sex and looking for an easy avenue out.... Haha so typical............well he has the avenue but he hasnt taken it..............i dont think i will have a problem being with another man......... I dont either...Best of luck Sex must be good, no matter what anyone says You know you are a troublemaker............ |
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Sounds like he is bored with the sex and looking for an easy avenue out.... Haha so typical............well he has the avenue but he hasnt taken it..............i dont think i will have a problem being with another man......... I dont either...Best of luck Sex must be good, no matter what anyone says You know you are a troublemaker............ |
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Sounds like he is bored with the sex and looking for an easy avenue out.... Haha so typical............well he has the avenue but he hasnt taken it..............i dont think i will have a problem being with another man......... I dont either...Best of luck Sex must be good, no matter what anyone says You know you are a troublemaker............ Seriously not trying to start trouble...Honestly
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Sounds like he is bored with the sex and looking for an easy avenue out.... Haha so typical............well he has the avenue but he hasnt taken it..............i dont think i will have a problem being with another man......... I dont either...Best of luck Sex must be good, no matter what anyone says You know you are a troublemaker............ Seriously not trying to start trouble...Honestly 
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Have an honest, non-accusatory talk with him, and make it clear to him that you view this as a real issue. See if you two can come to some sort of agreement that might work well for both of you. If not, then you need to decide whether you can live happily in a relationship where you're not sexually satisfied. good advice... but let me point out one thing. When you bring most guys into a 'talk' it's implied that its accusatory. Now when you tell a guy he's not sexually santisfying you...thats generally a recipe for disaster. It's knda like telling a guy he has a small ****. Even if its not true, it will always be in the back of his mind and he will always try to make up for it. If you have the talk you gotta do it in a way where it makes him feel more confident in bed, not less confident. I would hope most people wouldn't get defensive off the bat when you try to communicate something with them in as emotionally neutral a way as possible. How are you supposed to form a healthy relationship if you can't communicate openly with each other about these kinds of issues? "You're not sexually satisfying me" sounds a lot different from, for instance, "I have a really high libido and I'm feeling frustrated with the disparity. I would love to have more sex with you and see if we can work toward a happy medium for both of us. Any ideas?" See thats very very true. Some girls do need to realize all men simply can't do that, or don't want to. Same as not all girls want to sit down and talk stuff out. I'm the type that loves to talk stuff out, and rarely gets offended. Even with that being said, if you tell me i suck in bed, or that i'm not santisifying you, then yea, i'll end up taking it as an attack on my manhood. It's not that i want to, it's just natural instinct. The differnce is i can probly handle it and get over it. There are alot of guys where you say something like that to once, and they get so incredably defensive that the relastionship is over. There are of course guys in the middle ground. I would just say "look, i love sex, and i love sex with you. We've been together for almost a year now. I really want to f*ck you. So if you have a need to throw me down in the middle of something, i wont resist. If you want to try new things i'm totally in." It sounds a bit crude, but honestly the f*ck part makes it attractive to a most guys. |
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I have been dating this wonderful man for the past 11 months.Things were great but we have a little problem that is going to end up being a big one if it doesnt get better. I am 5 years younger than him and I think that we are sexually incompatible..........I have a high labido and he doesnt..........so what should I do end it now or should i try other things(which I have but) its kind of becoming a pain............(Advice Please!) A guy not wanting alot of sex usually means one of three things. He's depressed, your not doing what he likes or he's just not that into you and or cheating. My last gf lasted a very very short time because sex sucked. I didn't want it, because she was the type to lay there or want this and that. You kinda have to exparament with each person to find what they like, unless there REALLY expierenced and know. and that doesn't mean just the amount of times. It means the amount of stuff they tried. Honestly, sex is usually the easiest thing to fix. I had a friend who saved her marriage and sex life simply by dressing up as a catholic school girl outfit once a week and learning how to talk dirty. It seems kinda silly, but it's true. Usually there is one thing that each person has that turns them on so much that there pretty much always ready to go knowing its there. To be honest, traditional quickies and the same repeated things is what makes it uninteresting for most guys, cause we are visual people. That being said, it's stupid to end a relastionship if sex is the only problem. Thing is, i've never heard of a relastionship where sex was the only problem, nor one that was good everywhere else but sex. There is usually a missing piece hidden somewhere. Sex may seem like no big deal but then you just said that your relationship ended because the sex sucked.............I think he is into me but I think that I have been the aggressor so long he just waits for me.............by the way thats why im askig for peoples opinion so that i can see a different perspective.............I was planning on spending the rest of my life with him but if we lack communication what is the point........... Well see, thats what i mean. Yes, sex sucked last time, but it was because she said she liked one thing, but in turn really didnt, and when i told her what i liked she just didnt bother doing it...ever. Thats not sexual incompatability, thats just really bad communication. The one time we did communicate, it was awkward at first and i didnt really get a chance to get comfy with it. If you can find a way to encourage him to tell you what to do in bed, and for you to tell him what to do WITHOUT hurting his ego, yours, or messing with any issues, then sex honestly gets to a whole new level. Most people can't, simply because its awkward at first and you feel stupid. Honestly if i was a chick, i would flirt with the guy to find out differnt things to try. Maybie watch a porno and see what he likes. 11 months of the same sex makes it routine (if its the same) and makes it less desireable then before. Honestly, most chicks hate to hear this, but we like it changed up a bit. If you start it, then yea, we probly expect you to change it up. The fact that your the aggressor might also be huge into it. I love being jumped every now and then. It's a turn on, but it's also a turn on to jump a sig other. In my expierence chicks that where always the aggresors usually made it hard for me to make the first moves. Even when we where dating for a bit. Either there intimadating, or you honestly think they prefer it that way. One thing one of my ex's did that totally broke that was she dressed up in something i thought was completely hot, and just did her normal day to day things until i just was like **** it, i want some. Though it took a few and i dont think she expected that result. End result, if you keep trying with the guy you'll get frustrated before you figure out what works. You'll figure out what works or find out that nothing works sooner or later. If you really planned on spending the rest of your life with him, then maybie it's worth it to follow the path to the end and see. See you have said it best thanks for that little insight of what men think.........I tried to talk to my guy friends about it and all they would tell me was to dump him............wth and I was like can you give me some insight of how guys think and they were like we just did...........UHHH....... I do understand that i have to have a open discussion with him that is for sure......i also think that i am mos def backing off on being so aggressive because then he is expecting it and I got that this weekend..... On the fact that I want to spend my life with him he is a great guy but so are many other guys should I sacrifice something that is part of making a relationship work (intimacy).......then what is the point then we should just be friends since friends dont have to be intimate (real friends)........... If he's being romantic and holding hands, and all that, then somethings up. If its new, he's probly depressed. If it's always been that way, then there may be other issues, or he may not be 'awakened' yet. Most girls and guy's love sex to the point of obession. When they don't its usually they either haven't expierenced what they like or to much stress is going on in life. I know for me i litterly can't have sex unless i atleast trust the chick. So it's no use otherwise. But if i do, then i can pull 24 hour shifts if i'm close to her. Some people have weird quirks like that. |
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Have an honest, non-accusatory talk with him, and make it clear to him that you view this as a real issue. See if you two can come to some sort of agreement that might work well for both of you. If not, then you need to decide whether you can live happily in a relationship where you're not sexually satisfied. good advice... but let me point out one thing. When you bring most guys into a 'talk' it's implied that its accusatory. Now when you tell a guy he's not sexually santisfying you...thats generally a recipe for disaster. It's knda like telling a guy he has a small ****. Even if its not true, it will always be in the back of his mind and he will always try to make up for it. If you have the talk you gotta do it in a way where it makes him feel more confident in bed, not less confident. I would hope most people wouldn't get defensive off the bat when you try to communicate something with them in as emotionally neutral a way as possible. How are you supposed to form a healthy relationship if you can't communicate openly with each other about these kinds of issues? "You're not sexually satisfying me" sounds a lot different from, for instance, "I have a really high libido and I'm feeling frustrated with the disparity. I would love to have more sex with you and see if we can work toward a happy medium for both of us. Any ideas?" See thats very very true. Some girls do need to realize all men simply can't do that, or don't want to. Same as not all girls want to sit down and talk stuff out. I'm the type that loves to talk stuff out, and rarely gets offended. Even with that being said, if you tell me i suck in bed, or that i'm not santisifying you, then yea, i'll end up taking it as an attack on my manhood. It's not that i want to, it's just natural instinct. The differnce is i can probly handle it and get over it. There are alot of guys where you say something like that to once, and they get so incredably defensive that the relastionship is over. There are of course guys in the middle ground. I would just say "look, i love sex, and i love sex with you. We've been together for almost a year now. I really want to f*ck you. So if you have a need to throw me down in the middle of something, i wont resist. If you want to try new things i'm totally in." It sounds a bit crude, but honestly the f*ck part makes it attractive to a most guys. Oh I can say that and I have but before that we can get there I think that we need to figure out how to please me............see he isnt complaining because he is getting his and he is getting it in all types of ways...........meaning im almost open to anything and I try to make sure that we have a variety of things going on..........but with that said its when he gets his he thinks that the whole thing is over...........see this guy knows he has a woman that will get him off and thats i dont matter thats what im starting to think.............JMO |
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I have been dating this wonderful man for the past 11 months.Things were great but we have a little problem that is going to end up being a big one if it doesnt get better. I am 5 years younger than him and I think that we are sexually incompatible..........I have a high labido and he doesnt..........so what should I do end it now or should i try other things(which I have but) its kind of becoming a pain............(Advice Please!) A guy not wanting alot of sex usually means one of three things. He's depressed, your not doing what he likes or he's just not that into you and or cheating. My last gf lasted a very very short time because sex sucked. I didn't want it, because she was the type to lay there or want this and that. You kinda have to exparament with each person to find what they like, unless there REALLY expierenced and know. and that doesn't mean just the amount of times. It means the amount of stuff they tried. Honestly, sex is usually the easiest thing to fix. I had a friend who saved her marriage and sex life simply by dressing up as a catholic school girl outfit once a week and learning how to talk dirty. It seems kinda silly, but it's true. Usually there is one thing that each person has that turns them on so much that there pretty much always ready to go knowing its there. To be honest, traditional quickies and the same repeated things is what makes it uninteresting for most guys, cause we are visual people. That being said, it's stupid to end a relastionship if sex is the only problem. Thing is, i've never heard of a relastionship where sex was the only problem, nor one that was good everywhere else but sex. There is usually a missing piece hidden somewhere. Sex may seem like no big deal but then you just said that your relationship ended because the sex sucked.............I think he is into me but I think that I have been the aggressor so long he just waits for me.............by the way thats why im askig for peoples opinion so that i can see a different perspective.............I was planning on spending the rest of my life with him but if we lack communication what is the point........... Well see, thats what i mean. Yes, sex sucked last time, but it was because she said she liked one thing, but in turn really didnt, and when i told her what i liked she just didnt bother doing it...ever. Thats not sexual incompatability, thats just really bad communication. The one time we did communicate, it was awkward at first and i didnt really get a chance to get comfy with it. If you can find a way to encourage him to tell you what to do in bed, and for you to tell him what to do WITHOUT hurting his ego, yours, or messing with any issues, then sex honestly gets to a whole new level. Most people can't, simply because its awkward at first and you feel stupid. Honestly if i was a chick, i would flirt with the guy to find out differnt things to try. Maybie watch a porno and see what he likes. 11 months of the same sex makes it routine (if its the same) and makes it less desireable then before. Honestly, most chicks hate to hear this, but we like it changed up a bit. If you start it, then yea, we probly expect you to change it up. The fact that your the aggressor might also be huge into it. I love being jumped every now and then. It's a turn on, but it's also a turn on to jump a sig other. In my expierence chicks that where always the aggresors usually made it hard for me to make the first moves. Even when we where dating for a bit. Either there intimadating, or you honestly think they prefer it that way. One thing one of my ex's did that totally broke that was she dressed up in something i thought was completely hot, and just did her normal day to day things until i just was like **** it, i want some. Though it took a few and i dont think she expected that result. End result, if you keep trying with the guy you'll get frustrated before you figure out what works. You'll figure out what works or find out that nothing works sooner or later. If you really planned on spending the rest of your life with him, then maybie it's worth it to follow the path to the end and see. See you have said it best thanks for that little insight of what men think.........I tried to talk to my guy friends about it and all they would tell me was to dump him............wth and I was like can you give me some insight of how guys think and they were like we just did...........UHHH....... I do understand that i have to have a open discussion with him that is for sure......i also think that i am mos def backing off on being so aggressive because then he is expecting it and I got that this weekend..... On the fact that I want to spend my life with him he is a great guy but so are many other guys should I sacrifice something that is part of making a relationship work (intimacy).......then what is the point then we should just be friends since friends dont have to be intimate (real friends)........... If he's being romantic and holding hands, and all that, then somethings up. If its new, he's probly depressed. If it's always been that way, then there may be other issues, or he may not be 'awakened' yet. Most girls and guy's love sex to the point of obession. When they don't its usually they either haven't expierenced what they like or to much stress is going on in life. I know for me i litterly can't have sex unless i atleast trust the chick. So it's no use otherwise. But if i do, then i can pull 24 hour shifts if i'm close to her. Some people have weird quirks like that. My guy friend said the samething but if that is the case then i guess we arent at a place where he trusts me to tell me whats up............he is a quiet guy and sometimes shy........usually I have to intiate a convo and its rarely he does.....and im not a mind reader............ |
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I have been dating this wonderful man for the past 11 months.Things were great but we have a little problem that is going to end up being a big one if it doesnt get better. I am 5 years younger than him and I think that we are sexually incompatible..........I have a high labido and he doesnt..........so what should I do end it now or should i try other things(which I have but) its kind of becoming a pain............(Advice Please!) A guy not wanting alot of sex usually means one of three things. He's depressed, your not doing what he likes or he's just not that into you and or cheating. My last gf lasted a very very short time because sex sucked. I didn't want it, because she was the type to lay there or want this and that. You kinda have to exparament with each person to find what they like, unless there REALLY expierenced and know. and that doesn't mean just the amount of times. It means the amount of stuff they tried. Honestly, sex is usually the easiest thing to fix. I had a friend who saved her marriage and sex life simply by dressing up as a catholic school girl outfit once a week and learning how to talk dirty. It seems kinda silly, but it's true. Usually there is one thing that each person has that turns them on so much that there pretty much always ready to go knowing its there. To be honest, traditional quickies and the same repeated things is what makes it uninteresting for most guys, cause we are visual people. That being said, it's stupid to end a relastionship if sex is the only problem. Thing is, i've never heard of a relastionship where sex was the only problem, nor one that was good everywhere else but sex. There is usually a missing piece hidden somewhere. Sex may seem like no big deal but then you just said that your relationship ended because the sex sucked.............I think he is into me but I think that I have been the aggressor so long he just waits for me.............by the way thats why im askig for peoples opinion so that i can see a different perspective.............I was planning on spending the rest of my life with him but if we lack communication what is the point........... Well see, thats what i mean. Yes, sex sucked last time, but it was because she said she liked one thing, but in turn really didnt, and when i told her what i liked she just didnt bother doing it...ever. Thats not sexual incompatability, thats just really bad communication. The one time we did communicate, it was awkward at first and i didnt really get a chance to get comfy with it. If you can find a way to encourage him to tell you what to do in bed, and for you to tell him what to do WITHOUT hurting his ego, yours, or messing with any issues, then sex honestly gets to a whole new level. Most people can't, simply because its awkward at first and you feel stupid. Honestly if i was a chick, i would flirt with the guy to find out differnt things to try. Maybie watch a porno and see what he likes. 11 months of the same sex makes it routine (if its the same) and makes it less desireable then before. Honestly, most chicks hate to hear this, but we like it changed up a bit. If you start it, then yea, we probly expect you to change it up. The fact that your the aggressor might also be huge into it. I love being jumped every now and then. It's a turn on, but it's also a turn on to jump a sig other. In my expierence chicks that where always the aggresors usually made it hard for me to make the first moves. Even when we where dating for a bit. Either there intimadating, or you honestly think they prefer it that way. One thing one of my ex's did that totally broke that was she dressed up in something i thought was completely hot, and just did her normal day to day things until i just was like **** it, i want some. Though it took a few and i dont think she expected that result. End result, if you keep trying with the guy you'll get frustrated before you figure out what works. You'll figure out what works or find out that nothing works sooner or later. If you really planned on spending the rest of your life with him, then maybie it's worth it to follow the path to the end and see. See you have said it best thanks for that little insight of what men think.........I tried to talk to my guy friends about it and all they would tell me was to dump him............wth and I was like can you give me some insight of how guys think and they were like we just did...........UHHH....... I do understand that i have to have a open discussion with him that is for sure......i also think that i am mos def backing off on being so aggressive because then he is expecting it and I got that this weekend..... On the fact that I want to spend my life with him he is a great guy but so are many other guys should I sacrifice something that is part of making a relationship work (intimacy).......then what is the point then we should just be friends since friends dont have to be intimate (real friends)........... If he's being romantic and holding hands, and all that, then somethings up. If its new, he's probly depressed. If it's always been that way, then there may be other issues, or he may not be 'awakened' yet. Most girls and guy's love sex to the point of obession. When they don't its usually they either haven't expierenced what they like or to much stress is going on in life. I know for me i litterly can't have sex unless i atleast trust the chick. So it's no use otherwise. But if i do, then i can pull 24 hour shifts if i'm close to her. Some people have weird quirks like that. My guy friend said the samething but if that is the case then i guess we arent at a place where he trusts me to tell me whats up............he is a quiet guy and sometimes shy........usually I have to intiate a convo and its rarely he does.....and im not a mind reader............ |
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