Wow...where to begin. How sad is it when love is no longer enough? It seems that that's the case these days, with all the divorces, and the relationships that end on superficial bull****. What ever happened to sticking it out? What ever happened to the kind of love that changes you...that makes you a better person?

Im sure all of you reading this (assuming anyone reads this) have been on both the giving and receiving end of infidelity and loss of interest, but why is that the case? Why do people suddenly lose interest? Why do people cheat?

How can a relationship in which both of you are attracted to each other, both of you are handling your business, working, doing all the things that need to be done by an adult, fall apart? For the life of me I just don't understand it.

It makes even less sense when the relationship is ended but they tell you that they love you and that they find you sexy. If that's the case then why part? Why can't whatever problems and differences that are tearing the relationship to pieces be solved? Why give up something that has been great for a long time when you KNOW that the problems are fixable, have been addressed, and are in the process of being rectified? You know that the love is there, that compromising is not an issue, and yet you still throw in the towel? What gives?

True love comes around for everyone once in a lifetime...if they are lucky. Some people live their entire lives never experiencing a truly loving relationship. Why do people run from this love? We sabotage ourselves and our relationships constantly...is it because we are afraid to love and be loved? Is it because we feel more secure not putting ourselves out there to be hurt? Are we trying to prevent what everyone fears will happen by being the first to pull the trigger? At least WE were the one that ended it, so our pride remains intact, and we no longer have to fear the other doing it to us in the future...

I loved a girl so much that it changed me. It made me a better person. She was able to reach me and teach me things about myself I could have never learned from anyone else. She taught me what it meant to truly love someone, to give yourself over totally and unselfishly to something greater than you. And when a small amount of turmoil appeared she took that away from me. True, that the problems were created by me, but they weren't of such a nature that they could not have been overcome. There was no cheating or lying. It wasn't a matter of any sketchy action. My own selfishness became my undoing. But when the issues were corrected, being easily correctible, why did the relationship have to end? How could something so small destroy something so great, when more relationships, including previous relationships both she and I had, survived much greater obstacles? Why give up so easily?

What more could anyone want other than to find that person who loves them for them, regardless of any other factors? What greater joy exists in life than knowing that, should you need it, theres someone out there willing to bleed themself dry, if only to preserve your life for a few more minutes. WHY CAN't THAT EVER BE ENOUGH?!?!?

The pain of losing the one you love is too intense to describe to anyone who has never felt it, especially when that love was true and unconditional. How can anyone continue to open themself up to this pain?

I'll tell you how: to be in love, to love, and to receive love, is indeed the greatest joy in life. The love of family and friends, the love of significant others, nothing compares to these joys. Love is the one thing that can not be taken, can not be forced, and yet when it is freely given continues to grow and change in ways that will never be fully understood.

True love changes anyone priviledged enough to come in contact with it, whether as a recipient or bystander. For this reason people continue to put themselves out there again and again, feeling this same pain of loss again and again when it turns sour, all the while hoping that "this time it will be different."

My sweet sweet love, why cast aside the one you know loves you for you bereft of sex or any other contributory factor?

I love you with all that I am, for all that you are...
I love you in the good and bad, regardless of any extraneous impact...
I love you unconditionally now and forever...I only hope that I can have forever with you.

Heaven could't be heaven unless you are there with me!

All these things my soul cried out, still cries out, but they fall on deaf ears.

"I bleed in pain when I'm without your soul, and I love you on a level so high" -Taproot

"Dear God, the only thing I ask of you is to hold her when I'm not around, when I'm much to far away. We all need the person who can be true to you, but I left her(him) when I found her(him) and now I wished I'd stayed. Cuz I'm lonely, and I'm tired, and I'm missing you again...once again." -Avenged Sevenfold

Many songs have been written by lovesick crooners throughout the ages of man. They felt the same pain that I feel right now..that YOU feel right now...that countless billions have felt, are feeling, and will feel in days to come.

If you are reading this and you believe in love, please leave some sort of statement or story that someone else may read and find encouraging. If not, then I hope that my rant has at least made you rethink your own situation. If you are alone, don't lose hope. If you are with someone, pull them close to you and take every opportunity you can to let them know how much they mean to you. Don't let a single day pass being upset with one another...you don't know how much time you will get together!!! Cherish them and treat them How they deserve to be treated! BE FAITHFUL. Above all else, make sure they know just how much you love them. Don't sweat the little things. Compromise. Tell them that you want things to last forever and make sure they know they are the one for you!!!

Thx for taking the time to read this...I know its kinda long.

That was incredibly beautiful...well written...and one day I plan to actually read it...but today is not the day You have a cool hair doo though

I read it and it was awesome!!!!

I saw him through a window. I said to myself, I will marry him someday. We met and 4 dates later he asked me to marry him. We were married 28 years until god needed him more. I had that once in a lifetime, but I also believe that love is what you are willing to give. I know someday I will love again, because I know it is possible.

OMG! What a picture

put another way, does anyone belive in miracles anymore?

people cheat because they can
doesn't make it right, it's just a fact of life...

and loving some people can never be enough for THEM...
they want your soul, time, money, etc...

not giving up on love, just gonna be wiser this time around...

One of the thing that happens is that there's this expectation in most people's minds that if someone isn't "perfect" then that must mean they're not right for you. People (even really young people) go around with these grocery type lists. "Hm... he's good looking, smart, has a great job, a great sense of humor, and I really care for him, and he really cares for me, but he has a roving eye. I could never trust him," or, "She's the best thing that ever happened to me, we're so compatible, she's so kind and forgiving, and I love her laugh... but her a$$ is too big. Better keep looking."

It's sort of a paradox, in other words. Also, a lot of the time people will allow their peer group to choose a mate for them. So you end up with the person your friends and family wanted you to be with, when you really would have been better off with the person they were all dissing. Social peers can be very devious and manipulative that way--you can be sort of corralled into a situation without even knowing what's going on. (I don't mean literally "you", OP--I mean "you" in the general sense.)

I used to work in mental health and it was really remarkable how these people--who make their living out of telling others how to live and be happy--will listen to a person express doubts about a partner, and then sort of grin at the end of the story and say, "Well, you just said it yourself: He's not right for you!" And then if the person starts to protest, the counselor will cut it off: "That's what you're telling me! You KNOW this person isn't right for you, deep down. You need to cut your losses and move on." You say you love that person: "No, you don't! It's just a sick infatuation!" (or "co-dependence", or "immaturity" or "selfishness" or whatever suits their purpose the best. You say that you feel you should try to work things out: "Oh, don't be so old-fashioned! Do you REALLY want to spend the rest of your life with this person?" and so on.

Naturally, the counselor would rather that the client NOT work out his/her relationship problems and stay with the one he loves, because then he would be HAPPY and SATISFIED and have a feeling of ACCOMPLISHMENT after having got through a difficult patch. That's not going to help the counselor at all! He needs for you to keep coming in the door every couple of weeks so he can keep food on the table and make his car payments.

Anyway, those are just some thoughts I have on the matter. yours in Chaos, Scarlett

PS: Not everyone is so shallow, or has given up on love entirely. Some of us just feel it's sort of in poor taste to talk about our great love affairs when there are so many lonely people who, as you say, have never even experienced that transforming love that you're talking about here.

Love is for p*ssies!

I love a lot of wonderful women

I'm impressed by the depth of your words for one that is so young you truly have a way with words. But I do believe that kind of love will happen more then once in a lifetime. Even though at times we feel that we have found the love of our lives then something happens and it falls apart. Regardless one can not work out those problems unless the other is willing to do the same. When you find out that only one is willing to work on the situation and the other just gives up. Then you must learn to move on and realize it was not meant to be. We learn from past loves and one day will find that one meant for us.

I read your story and though it did cause my eyes to tear for the pain you've endured. My question to you my friend;
Why do you ask why?
You are right some people spent a lifetime never understanding the true meaning of love nor will some ever be blessed with that feeling. God graced you with his love and he gave you, if only for a moment, a touch that's real.

We meet millions of people in our lifetime and only a few will ever leave an inevitable mark on us. These are the people who makes us look at life though another's eyes. Because of these people we learn who we are, our worth, and what we truly deserve. When we are a part of the painting it's very hard to see the canvas. But through every nagitive experience, there is always something positive for us all to be grateful for. She made you open your eyes, let go of your past heartaches, forgive, and to love. She helped you to live once again. Is that not enough?

There's a poem posted on my site, please stop by.

Hahahaha well according to what I have heard you have applied for that position

You are what you eat right?

You are a very wise and deep hearted Young Man,,,
Your story brought tears and smiles all at the same time,,,

Love is,, and from there we must nuture it kindly,
Show it wisely, share it openly and unconditionally except things we can not change,

Love is,, quite simply the purest form of ones Soul,,,,

Blessings to you

God is love...when no one else loves you...He always will.

That is very long and one day i entend to read it,




as for the answer to the question, at the top of the page,


I'm just here for lust,

STILL LUSTING

Sadly, I am a man, so I don't garner your love, do I?

STIL LUSTING!