Question.

I have seen a couple of ladies say that they won't date gamers at all.

Does that mean that owning a gaming system, even if it's not used all the time or winds up being turned off for weeks at a time, completely kills a chance at a date?

I mean, do you come out and say " Do you own a PS3??? You do??? Well then I can't date you??? "

This one time I played Streetfighter at my friends house who lives in his mom's basement, and on the way home I came across a Ninja fighter so I pressed my X and A button at the same time and it took his head clean off.

I'm lucky I remembered that move...

It was a close call.

If you have ever waited in line for a new game on it's release day, I'd say no. If you own one and play it once or twice a week... I don't see an issue with that.

Ok. Just checking.

I have never stood in line for a game. I play my PS3 only sporadically.

When the new version of Gran Tourismo comes out, I will buy that ( without waiting in line lol ) and play it quite a bit for a couple of weeks. But it doesn't take over my life.

There are times when I use it just to blow off some steam after a particularly stressful day. Then there are times when I just feel like messing around with it.

I do see where you are coming from though. My friend is a big time WoW player. He keeps trying to talk me into playing it, but I don't have the time to put into it that he does.

I say RPG, and I mean it. If you play more than 10 hours a week of videogames or ANY sort of fantasy role playing game, that is a dealbreaker. Or if you ever say to me, "sorry babe I'm playing this game, can't do it (don't want to go, count me out, etc)"

I am not averse to the occasional military game (as boys do love guns) or sports/racing stuff.... but I mean the Internet gamers, Guy.

My brother in law plays WoW. I think he's an addict.

Ok. I was just trying to clarify things for anyone who may have been confused by the term " gamer ". After all, there are a couple of different different definitions.

I KNOW my friend is. He was putting 30+ hours a week into it for a while there.

Reality is WAYY overrated.

So is delusion.

The funny thing is, some of the people in this thread that are saying spendin all the time playing a game is wrong, spend countless hours on this very site themselves. Posting on Mingle is just like playing a game.

OWNED.

Theyll say "but but, Im talking to ppl and getting to know them". Indeed compare this to talking with over 10 million ppl world wide getting to know them and forming great bonds. As well as experiencing team building skills and communication skills and leadership skills and the list goes on.

I dont care what you do with your free time, just dont knock others for their choices in life as long as they are not harming anyone. Its fine if you dont wanna date someone who games, good for you you know what you want. But some ppl DO wanna date someone who games so live and let live.

True, everything in moderation, the OP stated that her relationship was destroyed due to it. That is an addiction. Any kind of addiction is bad. Myself and lillith have talked about this and a gamer (most not all of the time) is so into the game that they don't have outside, real life experience.

Anything that interferes with real life is an escape, and if you need to escape your real life, you're broken. If you're broken you need to fix that before you need to play online games or go online or whatever else your "vice" is.

OWNED? don't you mean pwned?

That's all anyone has said, why are you so defensive about it?

Nope that comes from the same ppl who cry NUB at the drop of a hat. For serious? This whole topic is riddled with gamer bashing holier than thou rubbish. If ppl think they are better than others for their choices in life great, good work, have fun with that.

Thou protest too much.

I'm sorry you had to go through that. You did right for you. How could this not be? From what you are saying this is the way you need to be. The pain? Hurts like hell and will last until you naturally heal. Who knows how long that will be but patience and not having anything to do with him at all will heal you the best. I called my ex and made things worse on me. He called too and I should have never answered. I feel better now. Whenever I feel a negative feeling now, it is no longer because of him. It seems impossible to heal but it's real. Hope you make it through just fine.

It is an addiction, because it is taking him out of TIME/LIFE.

Seriously, like a drug type addiction.
When he is not playing it and he is talking about the game... watch his body... his hand will shake and his adrenaline will kick in. He will even dream about it and think about it when he is not playing.

This is just my theory.
Like a Runner's high.. a rush of natural brain producing endorphs is causing his high and he wants more. Like drugs, he will require more and more stimulus to get the same effect.


I BET he has turned down Sex for the game.

The only way to quit, is if he recognize it is a problem in his life and he has to choose to completely delete it off his computer and go cold turkey. There is no other way... time limiting don't work.

Treat it like an illness, like any other addiction.

I was hooked on American's Army. AA for short. An I had an AA meeting every night for 5 to 6 hours. I got angry when someone interrupted me.

First person shooter game... it was like Chess with split seconds timing. There is a High yu get everytime you succeed in that meaningless world.

Get him a Wii, that way the physical body will get tired after 1 or 2 hours of playing.

Anyone seen the Wii Fit Hula Hoop Girl... ALL guys should get one of those for their girlfriend. After seeing the video on youtube you will know why it is still SOLD OUT at the stores.

Ever felt like just screaming, "I TOLD YOU SO?"

Well, this is one of those times for me.

I absolutely love it when I am RIGHT!

(if curious, check out my other posts folks!)

No it's not. A game, you can win.