So many times I hear complaints on here that when sending emails people don't get a response... I personally try to respond to everyone if possible..

What makes it impossible.. If you email and start talking sexy talk, not what I'm looking for... If you email and just say "hi" ummmmmmmmm if that's all you have to say then we don't have much to talk about...

Now I just got an email that gave me a very nice compliment and the email stated that they just felt it right to give me the compliment.. Sounds nice right? So in being courteous and gracious I respond with a "thank you very much"... Why is it now this person thinks a door is opened to IM???

I've seen other women say this is exactly why they don't respond, by responding with even a thank you at times makes people think a door is opened when it wasn't...

Had he said in the original email that he wanted to talk/get to know me, etc then he should have also asked how I felt talking to men much younger than me.... I just don't get how people that don't answer are mean yet when they do it's assumed there's a door open for saying thank you to a compliment..

Does this mean I should stop saying thank you unless I'm interested in a conversation?

This is a dating site. Its going to happen. Get over it.

Well, you are hot!!!

Okay, to answer you I think you should do things exactly the same. It is just what they do, they assume. I told one guy I matched with I wanted to mail and he replied with do you want to chat. No, I want to mail, silly. There is a barrier in what some people experience on here, and it's called ignorance. There are those who assume and have tunnel vision. It's okay Princess, they don't have clearance for you.

no more IM?? I thought you liked me...you said hi to me

(((Lilith))) (((Etrain))) muuuuahhh...

As for Mr. John above read and understand before posting an inane post... I don't mind thoughts and ideas but I do prefer substance, same with me emails but thank you for playing....

I respond to every email I get good or bad. Thank them for the interest or compliment, tell them I am not interested or whatever. It is just polite, just like saying hello back to someone who says it in passing you on the street.

Common courtesy goes along way!

At least you get mails, lovie. Tons, I'm sure. Maybe Mr. John is jealous. It's usually the guys who complain about the mails on the site. The lack thereof, that is!

PLK nice pic!

I thought so too, I even stated that although I appreciated his admission to that being his way in to trying to "seduce me" no less that I have age limits for dating but not for friendship so I'd gladly consider him a friend... Apparently, he feels my mind can be changed... So, I ask where does the courtesy begin on the other side?

Means you will just have to live with being attractive, and dealing certain guys wanting to hurry things along by talking to you.But you shouldnt stop being polite or anything,just say no thank you to the pushy or desperate types and still leave a door open for the ones patiently wanting to get to know u.But i understand emails can be frustrating for some,because there is a gap in between mails, and messenger is better to try and get to "know" someone by reaction or words...but i myself beleive its best to email a few or more times so u can at least get a feel for how they are.

this is not just any old dating site...perhaps you should re-evaluate your reason for being here.....






PRNCS for the un-birthday girl=] Its my un-birthday too=]

I did read and I do understand. But you don't have to mean about it, especially to the guys that want to get to know you. All you have to do is say thank you but not interested. You don't have to tell everyone and put down the poor guys that think they have a chance in finally meeting someone on this site. Sorry for not being a professional on this site.

Men get the same things...when one is nice they assume they can get more...

Ive been offered all kinds of stuff just cause I say thanks. But if you cant hold an intelligent convo first then there will never be more.

One thing is for sure, I do like being able to screen out the weirdos...Before I waist any time on them.

Most of the time I can pick up if they are interested right away....but some Ive really struggled to know for sure.

I also try to reply to all emails I get. Unfortunately, some guys take a response as being interested in more.

Thanks Lilith, the other picture was my fat picture. I lost 65 lbs since January and needed to update the photos.

I think Princess has figured out how to live with being attractive. She is a person though, and expects & deserves to be treated as more than a pretty face. This is about common courtesy and people taking things as more than they are.

Im not here to date. I DID come here to date or at least get to know women. awhile ago and left because of women like you.

John.... I think the point here was your post was terse and dismissive. I would've been miffed too, as it did not at all provide any sort of insight into the purpose of the thread. I definitely perceived your first post as mean.

Is This suppose to be Our Pick Me Up for the Day?

(((Angel))) where have you been sweetpea?


Socratease you are right and I try to always say thank you, etc. I understand the email and im reasons..

John 1) I wasn't putting the "guy" down.. I was expressing how I feel and understand how others feel... which is my right. Not sure you realize this but it's a free site and in America even.... Makes a difference... 2) did I say his name? and he's not in the threads.... 3)Angry much? 4)maybe a little more time in the threads before judging will give you an idea of how people are on here... again glad you played....

Joy can I IM you ?