guess i was raised old fashioned, i wouldent be comfortable with a woman paying :)

Do you want to explore that or would you rather not be psycho-analyzed today?

I could understand and accept this, if it were still the time when men could & were expected to support their women on their income alone. Paying for the date was a way of showing a woman that she would be well cared for by that particular man. Those days are gone...most couples can not afford to live on only 1 income anymore. There is no point to the man paying for everything. If the relationship develops into a committed, co-habitating one, both will need to contribute financially to their lives together. May as well begin at the beginning, as I see it.

Nothing wrong with a woman's contribution to dating once in awhile.

if i ask the guy out on a date, i would pay

if i were asked out on a date, i would expect him to pay (but i'd bring along enough just in case)

however, if it's a serious relationship, i just look at it as it's all OUR money anyway and that it doesn't really matter who puts the actual cash on the table.

I think the guy in the next booth over should pay. That would be best for both on the date I would think. Take the pressure off, ya know?

Well, you paid for your ticket down here so only fitting I pay for expenses while you were here...now If I fly to New Mexico, I will leave my debit/credit card at home

awww, i'm jealous. new mexico is beautiful. if you do fly there, can i come and visit the both of you and leave my debit/credit card at home too?

if he asks he pays, if he can't afford dinner then he should plan a date that is economically sound for him, a walk in the park or whatever... if he asks me to pay after he asked me out.... he's doing dishes.

Sure, everyone is invited. Peccy is loaded!

Some ladies demanded equal rights, not all ladies demanded them.

Joshy I always thought you were the romantic type... I was fooled.

Im old school,I feel like its the mans job to pay.

not if he asked .. it would need to be MY idea

If he asked? Maybe not. Just as I wouldn't ask him to pay. But, I'm fine with paying sometimes, as he should be to. Splitting the bill most of the time is fine with me.

loaded with bills she meant to say............lol

the person who does the inviting should pay...if Im invited out to dinner I dont expect to pay...and vice a verse....

most of the time the guy should pay but there are exceptions

I agree also to add sometimes the female some times might make than the man and if she wants to pay it should not be a problem

I guess that I would be considered "old skool" on this one. I was brought up that a man paid for everything on a date, and that was it. Thats the way it was and the way that it is.End of subject.


Buttttttttt....... I meet
((("Lucy")))



I realize that those days are gone. It is time for a change. Change is good. I have met someone on this program who is a very very dear to me and a great friend. We have known each other for about 4 months now. We exchanged e-mails for almost a month on here before we met in person.

When we met in person approx. 3 months ago,we met two other people from this program in an area around where I live.When we both first saw each other, something just clicked. We had a great time together and it was one of the best times that I have ever had in my life.

I, of course being under my "old skool" ways insisted on buying a beer where we met the other people, and later dinner at a favorite restaurant.

When this lady and I were talking while really enjoying each others company and getting to know one another, she starts to explain her view on dating, and one of her views was that the man shouldn`t pay for everything. I of course had to put my opinion in as to how the man was to pay for everything on a date. Bullhead that I am. Well to make a long story short, I took her to a favorite place in this area to get a "frozen custard". Not sof-serve ice cream , but the real thing. She insisted on paying. I did not want to offend her, so she paid. As we are sitting there talking, we had a really great time sitting there and getting to know each other better. One of the best conversations I have had in my life. I`m sitting there listening to her talk and I`m getting more and more impressed with this lady and her ways. After that we had to call it a night, because of traveling distances. Her famous "saying" to me as we left was,"I owe you a beer".

So the next weekend, I visited her area, and got my "owed" beer.We go out to eat, and I insist that I pay.We gotta go there again sometime.Food was great. We had a blast. It was like I have known this lady my entire life. When I go home, I am more impressed with this lady, and the way she is.

About a month later, she invites me to a concert in her area. She tells me that she has it covered.
Yes, I wanted to go to the concert, but Bullhead tries to get in the way. To make a long story short, Bullhead gets "retired". We really have a great conversation on "relationships and hanging out". This lady moved a mountain. We are great friends. We talk on the phone at least 4 times a week. It seems like 10 minutes that we are talking on the phone, when it is actually sometimes it`s almost 3 hours.She sometimes gets a word in edgewise In fact, she took this picture of me when we were at the concert. I will treasure this picture for the rest of my life. It is one of the best pictures ever taken of me.

I would sincerely like to take this opprotunity to say Thank You ((("Lucy"))) .You are one of the greatest ladies that I have ever met in my life. It is always a pleasure to get to talk to you on the phone, exchange e-mails, and spend time in person with you. You already know that you are "ACES" in my book. I consider it an honor to have you in my life as a friend.

Heres to good friends It`s a blast "hanging out" with you.

I owe you a when I visit,next time.

does not knowing who pays play a role in what you order???

I can see someone ordering lobsters, filet mignon, and all they have in their pockets is dollar menu money. (just kidding)

I was brought up, the one that invites someone out pays, so if I ask I pay, if he asks he pays, and if it's a mutual decision or discussed, 50-50 it is.