OK here it is. I live with my girl friend and she claimes she is over her ex husband that she has a 9 year old daughter with. Here is the problem. When she talks to him she sais things like babe, dear, hun and I love you when she is on the phone. She claimes she still cares for him and does love him but its not the same love that she has for me. Its really bothering me and I have talked to her about it and she sais she will work on it and that Im just being paranoid and insecure.

Run away...very far away and now

Wow, the "i love you' thing would send me over the edge - that's crazy.

That isn't normal!

get used to it or leave, cause its not going to change....

If she really does care about you it should go away with time, but if not then she's only lieing to you and herself.

Man Run Run for your life.....Mine was like that but mine didn't even have a kid with her ex.....she told me the samething.....who am I with...who do I go to bed with.....mine would sneak around behind my back and I would catch her everytime.....but here again mine was Bi Polar and after 4 years of the crazyness I ran and have not looked back....

hummmmm, how does she talk other people besides him. Does she call everyone babe, hun, and etc? Or is it just him?????

If this is just how she talks in general to good friends and etc. Don't sweat it but, if she doesn't just do this with just anyone, then move on.

How long has it been since the breakup?

I know people that have been divorced for 30 years and they still have Love for their Ex, but they just can't live with them dealing with the day to day Reality crap. OH.. and that is with pain and nasty divorce.

"New Girl Friend is HIV Positive"
Hmm, I remember your pic. Is this the same girl friend as in this thread?

I think you are over reacting. Now if she calls him "Pookie" and makes noises like she is kissing him it's different. She says these things and you are around. Does that sound like someone who is cheating on you or has feelings other than being platonic for someone else?

Think man, think!

Yes its true that she talks to allot of her friends that way. We just talked about it some more and sais that its just her way of talking and that the I love you does not mean the same as when she sais it to me...

That's normal. Ain't nothin'. Just make sure you don't share the same nicknames as the exes. If so . . . La Legionne will still take you at your age.

Of course I am from Arkansas.

I totally believe her. I used to do the same exact thing with my ex. Since then we do it only on occasion and in a very casual sort of way. She is a friend, a damn good friend now. If she was hiding it then you should worry, but now she may as you told her it bugs you. Still totally innocent.

Edit: Oh and for the record, I spent the last three months with my ex by sleeping on the couch every night. I would never think of getting together with her again. *shivers* She's a great person and that's it.

weither it means the same or not.. if he is an ex.. and if she has any respect for you she shouldnt be saying it.. "i care for you too" or something, but anything beyond that??
i dont know that I would be ok with it..

If you choose to not trust her you'll just be miserable and may as well just break up.

However, the way I think about it is, they are exes for a reason. This ex was around long before you, and she could be with him instead of you if she wanted to.

Either trust her, or just break up and save yourself a lot of anguish. Because dude man is always going to be lingering around if they have a child together.

well, how separate or together are we

love is limitless for some in some cases.

it is a small feeling to be insecure

limitations and expectations may close your world too

Dude.

If a woman said things like "I love you" to another man, and then had the gall to accuse me of being paranoid, I would tell her to get out of my life. "On your bike!"

RED FLAG!!! RED RUM!!!

proceed with extreme caution!!!

There is always going to be a bond because of the child. He is an ex for a reason. I wouldn't read too much into it. My ex and I say "I love you" to each other, but doesn't mean we want to be together.