Topic: How to make a man recover his selfsteem?
IndnPrncs's photo
Wed 08/06/08 09:54 PM


Wait we know how to make a woman recover her self-esteem? that's news to me.. How????
...believe in yourself...that is all


That is not correct.. I'm sorry but having studied psychology and people and worked on helping people I know that is NOT the answer...

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Wed 08/06/08 09:55 PM
alot of girls been complimenting me(they say i gotta nice bodyblushing )so that works for mebigsmile

Spaceman2008's photo
Wed 08/06/08 09:56 PM

alot of girls been complimenting me(they say i gotta nice bodyblushing )so that works for mebigsmile


Yeah, that would work for me too, Wolf, but I never get told that....oh well....

fdp1177's photo
Wed 08/06/08 09:57 PM
You can't MAKE anyone recover their self esteem... its like the victim vs survivor perspective. Either you are in charge of yourself, or you let the world run you over.

Men are more likely to hide a weakness, or to "man-up" and face their problem... it's just normal social behavior. No one likes a man who is a wuss, so we either have to fake it, get over it, or accept being total losers.

For some reason women are far less likely to try and hide what they consider to be their personal failings and weaknesses.

:shrugs:


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Wed 08/06/08 09:57 PM


alot of girls been complimenting me(they say i gotta nice bodyblushing )so that works for mebigsmile


Yeah, that would work for me too, Wolf, but I never get told that....oh well....


well darlin i happen to think you are very attractive...(so hope that helps) :wink:

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Wed 08/06/08 09:58 PM


alot of girls been complimenting me(they say i gotta nice bodyblushing )so that works for mebigsmile


Yeah, that would work for me too, Wolf, but I never get told that....oh well....
oh great,now im making some people feel worse,my bad spacemandrinker

wiley's photo
Wed 08/06/08 09:58 PM

You can't MAKE anyone recover their self esteem... its like the victim vs survivor perspective. Either you are in charge of yourself, or you let the world run you over.

Men are more likely to hide a weakness, or to "man-up" and face their problem... it's just normal social behavior. No one likes a man who is a wuss, so we either have to fake it, get over it, or accept being total losers.

For some reason women are far less likely to try and hide what they consider to be their personal failings and weaknesses.

:shrugs:




In my experience, that's usually when the claws come out. laugh

IndnPrncs's photo
Wed 08/06/08 09:58 PM

You can't MAKE anyone recover their self esteem... its like the victim vs survivor perspective. Either you are in charge of yourself, or you let the world run you over.

Men are more likely to hide a weakness, or to "man-up" and face their problem... it's just normal social behavior. No one likes a man who is a wuss, so we either have to fake it, get over it, or accept being total losers.

For some reason women are far less likely to try and hide what they consider to be their personal failings and weaknesses.

:shrugs:





FD you are so on point "except" not all women are as you described, some of us either man up or hide it...

Spaceman2008's photo
Wed 08/06/08 09:59 PM



alot of girls been complimenting me(they say i gotta nice bodyblushing )so that works for mebigsmile


Yeah, that would work for me too, Wolf, but I never get told that....oh well....


well darlin i happen to think you are very attractive...(so hope that helps) :wink:


blushing blushing blushing blushing blushing blushing

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Wed 08/06/08 10:00 PM



Wait we know how to make a woman recover her self-esteem? that's news to me.. How????
...believe in yourself...that is all


That is not correct.. I'm sorry but having studied psychology and people and worked on helping people I know that is NOT the answer...
I respect your point of view ...and I gave you mine one, I am telling by my experience, I tried many things and I always end up feeling the same, so I start doing things that would make me know that I worth it and How I get it, by believing in myself, thinking and believing that whatever people think of me it is not necesary the truth it is just an opinion, for some people I might be the ugliest girl in the world and for some other I would be the most pretty one, who cares it is what I believe ...so low selfsteem it is the low appreciation you have for yourself, but if you really believe in yourself and trust yourself and instead of approach yourself you prize yourself, believe me low selfsteem will dissapear of course, how I said before not all cases are the same it is just my experience.....sometimes we can be our best psicologist.

Spaceman2008's photo
Wed 08/06/08 10:00 PM



alot of girls been complimenting me(they say i gotta nice bodyblushing )so that works for mebigsmile


Yeah, that would work for me too, Wolf, but I never get told that....oh well....
oh great,now im making some people feel worse,my bad spacemandrinker


No sweat man...not your fault! I was told for 4 years by my ex that I was not "sexually attractive."

fdp1177's photo
Wed 08/06/08 10:03 PM

FD you are so on point "except" not all women are as you described, some of us either man up or hide it...


I agree that not all women are the same, but it is far easier to tell when a woman is doing it, because it isn't the norm. A woman who hides her esteem issues ALWAYS has a tell when something hits close too home, and the ones that man up come off as a bit gruff until they truly over-come whatever it is.

madamx7316's photo
Wed 08/06/08 10:03 PM




alot of girls been complimenting me(they say i gotta nice bodyblushing )so that works for mebigsmile


Yeah, that would work for me too, Wolf, but I never get told that....oh well....
oh great,now im making some people feel worse,my bad spacemandrinker


No sweat man...not your fault! I was told for 4 years by my ex that I was not "sexually attractive."


WHAT???????????? noway

IndnPrncs's photo
Wed 08/06/08 10:03 PM




Wait we know how to make a woman recover her self-esteem? that's news to me.. How????
...believe in yourself...that is all


That is not correct.. I'm sorry but having studied psychology and people and worked on helping people I know that is NOT the answer...
I respect your point of view ...and I gave you mine one, I am telling by my experience, I tried many things and I always end up feeling the same, so I start doing things that would make me know that I worth it and How I get it, by believing in myself, thinking and believing that whatever people think of me it is not necesary the truth it is just an opinion, for some people I might be the ugliest girl in the world and for some other I would be the most pretty one, who cares it is what I believe ...so low selfsteem it is the low appreciation you have for yourself, but if you really believe in yourself and trust yourself and instead of approach yourself you prize yourself, believe me low selfsteem will dissapear of course, how I said before not all cases are the same it is just my experience.....sometimes we can be our best psicologist.



I appreciate your point of view but psychologist's study behavior and that is why I tend to steer with the proven.. However, talking to 1000 people vs. 10 people would give a better idea of how and what makes people tick.. I stand by all are different and you either "man" up or you don't but NO ONE can change the way you think about yourself unless they can convince you and more times than not that's impossible to do...

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Wed 08/06/08 10:03 PM




alot of girls been complimenting me(they say i gotta nice bodyblushing )so that works for mebigsmile


Yeah, that would work for me too, Wolf, but I never get told that....oh well....
oh great,now im making some people feel worse,my bad spacemandrinker


No sweat man...not your fault! I was told for 4 years by my ex that I was not "sexually attractive."
Because you are not sexually atracted to her that does not mean you are not sexual atracted to mesmooched

no photo
Wed 08/06/08 10:03 PM




alot of girls been complimenting me(they say i gotta nice bodyblushing )so that works for mebigsmile


Yeah, that would work for me too, Wolf, but I never get told that....oh well....
oh great,now im making some people feel worse,my bad spacemandrinker


No sweat man...not your fault! I was told for 4 years by my ex that I was not "sexually attractive."
Because you are not sexually atracted to her that does not mean you are not sexual atracted to mesmooched

MsCarmen's photo
Wed 08/06/08 10:04 PM




alot of girls been complimenting me(they say i gotta nice bodyblushing )so that works for mebigsmile


Yeah, that would work for me too, Wolf, but I never get told that....oh well....
oh great,now im making some people feel worse,my bad spacemandrinker


No sweat man...not your fault! I was told for 4 years by my ex that I was not "sexually attractive."


Either your ex was blind or just plain stupid. You are definitely a HOTTIE!!!

IndnPrncs's photo
Wed 08/06/08 10:04 PM


FD you are so on point "except" not all women are as you described, some of us either man up or hide it...


I agree that not all women are the same, but it is far easier to tell when a woman is doing it, because it isn't the norm. A woman who hides her esteem issues ALWAYS has a tell when something hits close too home, and the ones that man up come off as a bit gruff until they truly over-come whatever it is.


And how are men?

RainbowTrout's photo
Wed 08/06/08 10:06 PM
Believing in yourself does seem to be a good answer. I would go so far to add that if you believe in yourself that others will believe in you, too. Or atleast it has been my experience for that to be true.:smile:

Spaceman2008's photo
Wed 08/06/08 10:06 PM
MsCarmen, YamilethJ

Thank you.....blushing blushing blushing blushing X 1 million