Topic: How to make a man recover his selfsteem?
IndnPrncs's photo
Wed 08/06/08 10:19 PM


You're right, you didn't keep the boundaries which is a "my bad" but if she pushed them or disrespected them under NO circumstances is that ok.. She was wrong...


Yeah...I'm learning more every day that it really was not all my fault in this....



You have to believe in you and your ethics and know that if you're a good person then the other issues are usually someone else's... Don't get me wrong, we're all a pain in the azz some days we're human but in general most aren't 'bad'...

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Wed 08/06/08 10:20 PM



You're right, you didn't keep the boundaries which is a "my bad" but if she pushed them or disrespected them under NO circumstances is that ok.. She was wrong...


Yeah...I'm learning more every day that it really was not all my fault in this....



You have to believe in you and your ethics and know that if you're a good person then the other issues are usually someone else's... Don't get me wrong, we're all a pain in the azz some days we're human but in general most aren't 'bad'...
you see Believe in you/

Spaceman2008's photo
Wed 08/06/08 10:20 PM

If I may interject. When at the end of the day, the only person you have to measure up to is the one in the mirror.
I came from a place where my self esteem was lower than whale $%^&, and with the help of a lot of true friends who believed in me when I didn't believe in myself, and told me what I needed to hear, not what I wanted to hear, today life is great. At least I can roll with the flow of the river today, even when life isn't so great.


OH YEAH! That's what I am doing right now. Great point!

fdp1177's photo
Wed 08/06/08 10:21 PM

And how are men?


Well that's a changing archetype too, but it is less out of place for a guy to come off all tough and macho.

Spaceman2008's photo
Wed 08/06/08 10:21 PM




You're right, you didn't keep the boundaries which is a "my bad" but if she pushed them or disrespected them under NO circumstances is that ok.. She was wrong...


Yeah...I'm learning more every day that it really was not all my fault in this....



You have to believe in you and your ethics and know that if you're a good person then the other issues are usually someone else's... Don't get me wrong, we're all a pain in the azz some days we're human but in general most aren't 'bad'...
you see Believe in you/


YEP! I am! Thanks fo rthe input ladies...I really appreciate it!

IndnPrncs's photo
Wed 08/06/08 10:21 PM




You're right, you didn't keep the boundaries which is a "my bad" but if she pushed them or disrespected them under NO circumstances is that ok.. She was wrong...


Yeah...I'm learning more every day that it really was not all my fault in this....



You have to believe in you and your ethics and know that if you're a good person then the other issues are usually someone else's... Don't get me wrong, we're all a pain in the azz some days we're human but in general most aren't 'bad'...
you see Believe in you/


I don't disagree with your point of believing in ourselves ONLY THAT we cannot make OTHER believe in themselves....

vlpete's photo
Wed 08/06/08 10:22 PM
it doesn't happen overnight either, at least it didn't for me

Spaceman2008's photo
Wed 08/06/08 10:24 PM

it doesn't happen overnight either, at least it didn't for me


No, it doesn't. It's been almost a year for me, and I'm still dealing with stuff....

vlpete's photo
Wed 08/06/08 10:25 PM





You're right, you didn't keep the boundaries which is a "my bad" but if she pushed them or disrespected them under NO circumstances is that ok.. She was wrong...


Yeah...I'm learning more every day that it really was not all my fault in this....



You have to believe in you and your ethics and know that if you're a good person then the other issues are usually someone else's... Don't get me wrong, we're all a pain in the azz some days we're human but in general most aren't 'bad'...
you see Believe in you/


I don't disagree with your point of believing in ourselves ONLY THAT we cannot make OTHER believe in themselves....

I agree, unless someone wants to believe, they can't

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Wed 08/06/08 10:27 PM
Edited by YamilethJ on Wed 08/06/08 10:27 PM
of course .....it is something like ...me myself and I..ANOTHER THING I WAS THINKING ABOUT WHAT COULD HELP TO LIFT THE SELFSTEEM TOO IS ....LOVE....LOVE DO WONDERS TOO YOU KNOW.

Spaceman2008's photo
Wed 08/06/08 10:27 PM

of course not.....it is something like ...me myself and I..ANOTHER THING I WAS THINKING ABOUT WHAT COULD HELP TO LIFT THE SELFSTEEM TOO IS ....LOVE....LOVE DO WONDERS TOO YOU KNOW.



Yes...indeed it does....

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Wed 08/06/08 10:28 PM


of course not.....it is something like ...me myself and I..ANOTHER THING I WAS THINKING ABOUT WHAT COULD HELP TO LIFT THE SELFSTEEM TOO IS ....LOVE....LOVE DO WONDERS TOO YOU KNOW.



Yes...indeed it does....
SO CAN WE SAY THAT IF WE WANT TO FEEL BETTER ...WOULD BE OK TO FIND LOVE?

IndnPrncs's photo
Wed 08/06/08 10:30 PM



of course not.....it is something like ...me myself and I..ANOTHER THING I WAS THINKING ABOUT WHAT COULD HELP TO LIFT THE SELFSTEEM TOO IS ....LOVE....LOVE DO WONDERS TOO YOU KNOW.



Yes...indeed it does....
SO CAN WE SAY THAT IF WE WANT TO FEEL BETTER ...WOULD BE OK TO FIND LOVE?



see I disagree again... I was taught that you can't be loved unless you love yourself.. I truly believe that.. If you don't believe in YOU or LOVE YOU then how can anyone else see the value in you??? What we put out is what others perceive...

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Wed 08/06/08 10:31 PM




of course not.....it is something like ...me myself and I..ANOTHER THING I WAS THINKING ABOUT WHAT COULD HELP TO LIFT THE SELFSTEEM TOO IS ....LOVE....LOVE DO WONDERS TOO YOU KNOW.



Yes...indeed it does....
SO CAN WE SAY THAT IF WE WANT TO FEEL BETTER ...WOULD BE OK TO FIND LOVE?
i AM ASKING I AM NOT SAYING THAT IS THE WAY, ...


see I disagree again... I was taught that you can't be loved unless you love yourself.. I truly believe that.. If you don't believe in YOU or LOVE YOU then how can anyone else see the value in you??? What we put out is what others perceive...

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Wed 08/06/08 10:32 PM
Edited by YamilethJ on Wed 08/06/08 10:33 PM
lET ME ASK AGAIN.....WOULD LOVE HELP TO LIFT LOW SELFSTEEM?

IndnPrncs's photo
Wed 08/06/08 10:33 PM

lET ME ASK AGAIN.....WOULD LOVE CURE LOW SELFSTEEM?



A BIG FAT NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

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Wed 08/06/08 10:34 PM


lET ME ASK AGAIN.....WOULD LOVE CURE LOW SELFSTEEM?



A BIG FAT NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
HAVE YOU EVER BEEN IN LOVE?

wiley's photo
Wed 08/06/08 10:36 PM
If a person falls in "love" with someone who doesn't love themselves, it's more likely they feel sorry for them. The end result is usually nothing but problems one way or the other.

IndnPrncs's photo
Wed 08/06/08 10:36 PM



lET ME ASK AGAIN.....WOULD LOVE CURE LOW SELFSTEEM?



A BIG FAT NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
HAVE YOU EVER BEEN IN LOVE?


Yes I have and HE did not fix my self-esteem.. I did that... I am the only one in control of what I feel or think or do... Love is wonderful but it doesn't make us who we are.. If anyone thinks it does then they don't believe in theirself and that is where they need to work on things... not only can you not be loved until you love yourself, but you cannot love, if you do not love yourself...

vlpete's photo
Wed 08/06/08 10:37 PM
It depends on what kind of love you are looking for. romantic love will not cure low self esteem, it might temporarily. But the unconditional love that true friends and family would go a long way in helping.
The real cure is an inside job