Well truthfully doctor for depression and why would you have to move there just go by once a week and he can do the same to make sure there is nothing she needs from the store ect and to see how she is doing. She can call in between to see how things are give her her space and check with a Doctor on the Depression part.

whats a uti?

The only other thing I can think of to mention is this...would there be any reason, a smoker, lung disease...that she might have oxygen deprivation? THAT can and does mimick dementia BIG TIME! We found that out the hard way! Turns out she had COPD and was placed on oxygen 24/7. Got so bad she thought my deceased dad was in the bathroom getting ready for work...Got her on oxygen and she was just fine for a long time.

urinary track infection

She needs help, and though she may complain about your brother being there, she may have harmed herself had he not been there. I hope you get this sorted. My prayers are with you and your family

yes she smokes... has quit several times but smoking again and she has a inhaler and alergies too she hacks really bad in mornings my brother says

Ok well...there again...lung capacity, dementia, depression ALL of these possibilites are things a doc would need to diagnose so make that appt! HUGS DEB!

yeah what the bee said.you would be amazed at the change of personality these infections cause,even hallucinations.the symptoms mimic schizophrenia.

well she ran off my brother said to go to exercise class and to go play cards at a old peoples home is what she told my brother when he asked her.... and her exercise class is on tuesdays and has never played cards at an old peoples home before.... but i told her she is too old for this stress and im not goning to see it anymore before she hung up she told me well maybe ill talk to you sometime soon

i dont know her insurance or where she has to go?

I think maybe you should visit and evaluate the situation for yourself...good luck and prayers to you and yours.

i have i cant stand all the fighting there!

i cant be around both of them at the same time.... one at a time yes not both

are we siblings?

Why is this here?

I'm sorry you're going this. I know for a fact that depression can have this affect on people. If she is in denial then that really limits what you can do. With all due respect, your brother is taking advantage of the situation. I would sit down with your mom and ask her what is wrong. Ask why she is feeling so negative. You may or may not get a direct answer. But it's worth a try. The key here is to find out what triggered this. Then maybe you can find a solution. Really listen and read between the lines. Maybe try to get her out of the house and do something with just the two of you. All you can do is be there for and love her. If she doesn't come out of this, then I would seriously consider trying to talk her into getting some medical help. Please keep us informed and best wishes.

She probally has medicare cause its mandatory once you reach the ssi age and i'm sure she has a primary physician who will order up some lab tests.

like i said all they do is argue my mom and him to the point my stomach turns... 2 xmas ago i even threw up over it from my nerves

wow.sounds like poor mom is stressed out and you are too.maybe she resents your brother being there and is doing things to freak him out.its good he is moving,it may just be the ticket to help her perk up.

ty i am past this point been talking to her for a yr about it.... says its my brother.. but she only tells me half truth like i said... its never her... just like her eyes....there has also been something wrong mentally for yrs... as i cant go into detail about it but she was abusive to us as children