You know being a statistic myself (divorced) I would have to say from personal experience... you find out along the married way that you just aren't cut out for each other. We had good communication (not great because I wasn't confrontational... yet), we had sex the night before we had to go to the court house for the divorce decree (sex daily... the rag didn't bother him LOL) and we were evenly strong in money (although I alone handled the household finances because he hated doing it). The true reason for the divorce is that we didn't fill each other's void. I think in the long run this is the true problem in most divorces and the other issues just serve as a scapegoat. This is my experience at least.

From "Love & Respect" book.

Man needs UnConditional Respect.
Guys would love getting support no matter how many time they make a mistake or fail in life. So the saying goes, Behind every great man, there is a great woman... his personal cheerleader. Life is tough enough.

Woman needs UnConditional Love.
"Do you love me?" She will always ask you. She needs constant reassurance.

You mean? CAN YOU HEAR ME NOW?

I did like the one reply that said the biggest cause of divorce was Marriage!

Communications? I think the book title is Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars?

I think the cause of Divorce is Money...Constant stress and people Change like the four seasons. It is how flexible you are or willing to be that determines the length of your relationship.
And just like me...a bad penny...I keep coming back for you to poke me in the eye again with your "SOCKO!" fist.
Seriously..marriage is work...and so people get tired of how hard it is and give up. When they told you about love and the bed of roses, no one mentioned the thorns? Have a wonderful day!

I can honestly say I'm indirectly responsible for six divorces... so it might be me.


(No I never was "the other guy," just worked out that way)

sometimes people just grow apart! or one grows up and the other refuses too! But I have to agree with alot of the posts, respect, communication and sex/money are the biggest!

I agree. My counselor puts it this way.
"Our NEEDS weren't met."
The "Needs" are hidden. You can't ask... what are your Needs? and I will just do it. She wouldn't even know. Even if she tells you what her NEEDS are... there are more NEEDS hidden away.

I think the Gays got it easy... oh wait.. they cheat on each other too...

BELIEVE me we do NOT have it easy....yes all sexes cheat it doesnt matter what kind of relationship you are in...it happens!

Problems communicating

seems to me there are three basics that have to be there in order for it to work. They are
Commitment
Communication
Compromise
and both partners have to be willing to do all 3 in order for it to work, and it is work flowers and thorns to boot.

Finances and lack of sex...............

i agree

I agree with this. Cause it happened to me as well.You think she/he is the one, and you marry, and things (on the outside) are great. You appear to be right for one another. But inside, and behind closed doors, their are issues and neither of you can satisfy the other's void.

Yep. That definitely would be the root of the problem.

how about "he tried to kill me cuz i cought him cheating"?

seems to be pretty common with the people i know.

How about, "they don't make me happy anymore, this is way too hard".

In other words, people are fvcking lazy azzes and think others should "make" them happy.


This has been my experience, in what I've heard and seen. And experienced.

I think I love you now.

You need to find friends that don't get cheated on??

But I thought you loved me before!

Well mine was because he refused to grow up and accept responsibilities, like the children, the house, and getting a job for more than eight months at a time. And his throwing temper tantrums when he didn't get his way.

money, sex, children, or lack of communication