perception is everything . .

I talk to a girl periodically on a chat about this. She isn't someone I date, but I offer her advice, she is a good friend. She started out as "nothing is good" , "everything is terrible" and no matter what topic I talked about her, she was constantly negative. "Everyone sucks", "that' not gonna happen" "yeah right" "not in my lifetime" etc etc....slowly she's been turning around though...damn..I mean, I can't believe, people just don't know they are the ones to create their life and universe around them as chachacha said, it's how you perceive and how you handle it.

I am 42, was married 18 yrs and single now for 4. I don't have any kids. Maybe women see that as a bad thing?? lol I will admit I am pretty picky now because I know what I want. Hoping she is out there somewhere!!

Well...I just checked and yr account id de-activated. Why's that?

I felt the same way. I was 35 when I got divorced. I don't know why it is that way. I still have not found anyone, and it has be almost 2 years. It gets easier to deal with in a way, although the loneliness doesn't go away.

Are you kidding?Your thirties are the prime of your life.When I am in my 60's I will feel like I am losing hope.

I'm 33 and enjoy being single (then again I have only been single 4 eight months). Granted I it does get lonely at times even with 3 kids but I know that one day I'll find love patience I think it the key.

life goes on don't dwell on the past but move to the future, stay around people that will lift you up because we all know its easier for others to pull us down. Look up and smile, God is great!! 35 your still young just wiser for what you have gone through and to me that is smarter than going through a second divorce.

sorry to say, but ill be happy with just a friend because its to many dogs out there and i dont want flea's, so if i have to be alone for the rest of my life with out a mate then so be it!

What I find difficult at this age is that with my experiences (& learning from them) I know what I like & dont like (or want) in a man. Call me picky but why should I settle for less? I have been divorced for 13 years & have a teenager. I am always being hit on by much younger guys BUT the problem there is not the age (age is jsut a #...but I dont want to date beyond 10 years older then me either) but that most of these younger guys are either still in the game playing stage or they want children. I dont want any more kids. BUT, the guys my age or a bit older are usually recently divorced & not looking to jump into another relationship &/or have young kids (under 10 years old). I hate to sound *****y but I raised my kid & am not really wanting to help raise someone elses. Now if this means I stay single for another 13 years, then so be it....I'll find that needle some day Im sure of it :)

I feel the same way and I'm ONLY 6...uh ...never mind

hello

can i jump in on this topic?

I wonder the same thing myself.

I guess alot of us feel this way. I'm going to be 38 next month & I think about it all the time. I don't know. I gave up trying to meet someone. I figure if it happens it happens. If not, so be it.

Well as you can see you are not alone with this feeling. My x and I were together for 16 years. Started dating our Senior year in High School. After 3 kids, 16 years, and everything we had been through I never dreamed he would leave. I think part of what makes it hard is after you've been hurt you aren't willing to settle. You know what you want and don't want to waste your time with someone that isn't worth it. For me, my kids are my priority and I haven't found anyone that feels the same. He is out there somewhere, I just need to learn to be patient cause it will be soooooo worth it in the end!!!

Looking younger helps some, but most of it comes down to how you protray yourself. If you go around saying "omg i'm so old and still single" who really wants to spend time with that. Get out, smile once in awhile.. if you don't have a reason to, find one.

No matter what age you may be, life is what you make it.

Hi.. Dont be discouraged and dont settle for anything less than the high standards you want in a longterm partner just because your lonley.
Love will find you!
Look up!!

Hey...I'm 35 never married and just ended yet another 5 year realtionship. I'm starting to think I'm defective.

could be worse, you could have never met anyone special.