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Topic: Is marriage that big of
Citizen_Joe Joined Sat 04/12/08 Posts: 4036	Tue 06/17/08 02:48 PM
I'd say it's a huge deal. a bit more than just paper I only plan to do it once. So did I. When it begins, the paper could be made out of platinum, because gold is so 20th century When it's done, it's just paper, requiring more paper to get rid of. And we're supposed to be a paperless society!

Blaze1978 Joined Tue 03/25/08 Posts: 1281	Tue 06/17/08 02:58 PM
I'll get married once, but if it doesn't work out, never again!

Rapunzel Joined Tue 08/22/06 Posts: 16246	Tue 06/17/08 03:04 PM
it use to be something special that lasts....now i think people think of marriage as a joke...i work in a law office and a few of our lawyers do family law...if half of these ppl would fight for their marriage like they do over pointless stuff so the other one can't have it, it still would very true...

itsmetina Joined Sun 12/09/07 Posts: 18944	Tue 06/17/08 03:05 PM
no some people take it serious.I take as a promise i wouldn't break

lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Tue 06/17/08 03:09 PM
I just don't need a piece of paper to tell me I am bonded to someone. The only thing I want tying me to another is the feelings in my heart for him.

itsmetina Joined Sun 12/09/07 Posts: 18944	Tue 06/17/08 03:11 PM
for me it means alot to carry ones name that a real commitment to me

lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Tue 06/17/08 03:15 PM
for me it means alot to carry ones name that a real commitment to me I like my name...it's same as my daughters. Not making light of your convictions, but to me, a name doesn't mean commitment.

itsmetina Joined Sun 12/09/07 Posts: 18944	Tue 06/17/08 03:17 PM
i carry the last name as my kids as well

Citizen_Joe Joined Sat 04/12/08 Posts: 4036	Tue 06/17/08 03:18 PM
for me it means alot to carry ones name that a real commitment to me I like my name...it's same as my daughters. Not making light of your convictions, but to me, a name doesn't mean commitment. One girlfriend used to brag that she was never worried about losing me to another woman, but was worried about losing me to another computer, and I never frequented dating sites.

Cutzie Joined Tue 06/17/08 Posts: 40	Tue 06/17/08 03:22 PM
You can use it as a deduction.

Citizen_Joe Joined Sat 04/12/08 Posts: 4036	Tue 06/17/08 03:29 PM
You can use it as a deduction. What line do you put pain and suffering under?

BlueskyJ Joined Tue 06/26/07 Posts: 2927	Tue 06/17/08 03:34 PM Edited by BlueskyJ on Tue 06/17/08 03:35 PM
Marriage is a signed legal document....At the time of divorce or death there are issues and decisions to be made related to finances, property, and children.....what's yours is hers & what's hers is yours.... none of them, not family, property or money has anything to do with love or commitment....and vows?....you can't sign up for that, it has to be freely given

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Tue 06/17/08 03:36 PM
for me it means alot to carry ones name that a real commitment to me I like my name...it's same as my daughters. Not making light of your convictions, but to me, a name doesn't mean commitment. I agree with this and a paper does not make the commitment. But you have the same name as your children because you did get married, right? I've not had mine yet and having one family name is important to first timers like me.

lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Tue 06/17/08 03:36 PM
for me it means alot to carry ones name that a real commitment to me I like my name...it's same as my daughters. Not making light of your convictions, but to me, a name doesn't mean commitment. I agree with this and a paper does not make the commitment. But you have the same name as your children because you did get married, right? I've not had mine yet and having one family name is important to first timers like me. Yeah, but I am now widowed.

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Tue 06/17/08 03:41 PM
for me it means alot to carry ones name that a real commitment to me I like my name...it's same as my daughters. Not making light of your convictions, but to me, a name doesn't mean commitment. I agree with this and a paper does not make the commitment. But you have the same name as your children because you did get married, right? I've not had mine yet and having one family name is important to first timers like me. Yeah, but I am now widowed. I know (((Angel))) And to change your name would be very different I would think than if you'd been divorced. I'm just saying that you would not share your kids name if you'd not signed the papers with your husband. So though the papers don't make the marriage, they do give your family one name. If I'd already had kids with someone, I'd prolly have a lot of reasons to feel differently about it, but since it's my first and there could be kids from it...maybe...the papers are important to me as well as the commitment. But the commitment is what truly makes the marriage...no doubt.

Sir_Galahad Joined Tue 05/27/08 Posts: 600	Tue 06/17/08 04:01 PM
why can't I change MY name? dang laws.

lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Tue 06/17/08 04:04 PM
Not sure anyone of age 15 knows what commitment is Odd, a lot of the Southern states allow 15 yrs olds and younger in some cases to marry, but doesn't allow two consenting adults to cohabitate...things that make you go..hmmmmmmmmmmm??????

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Tue 06/17/08 04:04 PM
I know (((Angel))) And to change your name would be very different I would think than if you'd been divorced. I'm just saying that you would not share your kids name if you'd not signed the papers with your husband. So though the papers don't make the marriage, they do give your family one name. If I'd already had kids with someone, I'd prolly have a lot of reasons to feel differently about it, but since it's my first and there could be kids from it...maybe...the papers are important to me as well as the commitment. But the commitment is what truly makes the marriage...no doubt. She would still have the same last name as her children if she had not married. The children would have had her maiden name as their last name if she hadn't married their father. Or is this another one of those things that is different in the South?

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Tue 06/17/08 04:05 PM
Not sure anyone of age 15 knows what commitment is Odd, a lot of the Southern states allow 15 yrs olds and younger in some cases to marry, but doesn't allow two consenting adults to cohabitate...things that make you go..hmmmmmmmmmmm?????? wow, I continue to learn the most fascinating things from you. Staying well clear of the Mason Dixon.

Sweetnshy47 Joined Tue 01/15/08 Posts: 1261	Tue 06/17/08 04:06 PM
Marriage means you need no one else,so whats the big deal?